Soooo... I was at one of my doctor's appointments and I encountered this woman who was in hard labor.  Unfortunately, I had my mother with me.  I could tell she was in pain; and I wanted to give her a massage so bad.  I asked if I could touch her; and, of course, she shot me down.  Making matters worse was the fact that my mother was treating me like a child and redirecting me to my phone.  I honestly felt that the situation could have been handled differently.

So, my question is this:

• Ladies, if you're in hard labor, would you welcome a massage from a complete stranger?
  
• Men, how would you approach this situation?
  

I welcome all responses to this question.

This sounds made up, and if it's not, you're a creep.

It depends on the circumstances. If the woman is with her husband or partner then no, it would be inappropriate to ask. If she is alone and looks like she could use some help then, I see no issue with asking if she needs assistance.

(December 10, 2018, 6:37 pm)preggoluvr4286 Soooo... I was at one of my doctor's appointments and I encountered this woman who was in hard labor.  Unfortunately, I had my mother with me.  I could tell she was in pain; and I wanted to give her a massage so bad.  I asked if I could touch her; and, of course, she shot me down.  Making matters worse was the fact that my mother was treating me like a child and redirecting me to my phone.  I honestly felt that the situation could have been handled differently.

So, my question is this:

• Ladies, if you're in hard labor, would you welcome a massage from a complete stranger?
  
• Men, how would you approach this situation?
  

I welcome all responses to this question.

(December 10, 2018, 7:18 pm)TigerFan46 This sounds made up, and if it's not, you're a creep.

(December 10, 2018, 7:21 pm)orta03 It depends on the circumstances.  If the woman is with her husband or partner then no, it would be inappropriate to ask.  If she is alone and looks like she could use some help then, I see no issue with asking if she needs assistance.

@"TigerFan46" This is not made up.
@orta03 She was alone and in pain.  She was rocking in a rather uncomfortable chair; and, after her appointment, was on her way to the hospital.  I felt bad for her and I wish I could have helped in any way.  Maybe a massage wasn't the right way to go, but I really wanted to do something to minimize her pain.

This is so cringy

I don't even know anymore on how to approach this

(December 10, 2018, 8:40 pm)Bellyfan27 I don't even know anymore on how to approach this

Me either... not anymore.  Of course, I probably never did anyway.

You don't do anything. That is not your place. You mind your business and save your thoughts for afterwards. Otherwise, you get judged as a creep and are then shunned by society.

(December 10, 2018, 8:52 pm)sandsage122 You don't do anything. That is not your place. You mind your business and save your thoughts for afterwards. Otherwise, you get judged as a creep and are then shunned by society.

And this is what frustrates me about this particular fetish - the razor-thin line between what's appropriate and what's not appropriate.  I think there ought to be a single set of standards and practices when it comes to dealing with pregnant women, that way no one gets judged as a creep anymore.  @"sandsage122", your suggestion is a VERY good place to start.

If a random person came up to you and asked you if you wanted a massage, you probably would be in the minority if you said yes.

Also, there's a difference between asking if someone needs assistance is very different than asking if someone wants a massage.

Being pregnant doesn't mean that any normal boundaries have been relaxed, they're generally stronger than normal.