(January 15, 2018, 4:54 am)preggoluvr4286 In other words, "If you can't enjoy it, why have it?" That's how I see this fetish right now.

This your major problem homie. If it cant stay just a fantasy then you DO need to give it up. Period. Lactating and engaging in labor sex is a one in a billion chance that would only be healthy with a long term spouse that you should be with outside of your fantasy goals. It wont happen. Ever. If you are not okay with that, then you need to distance yourself from this obvious unhealthy obsession.

Akhenaten, I understand you are trying to be supportive but it is borderline enabling. You are feeding into this guys false hopes. Craigslists ads may have some very small percentage of success, but we are talking about someone who is soo frustrated he is willing to endanger others. Stop it.

Dude. Stop visiting this site. Stop looking at preggo porn. Distance yourself and try to find a normal, non fantasy relaitionship. This will be the most beneficial to your future. Not because you have done anything wrong but because it is obviously hurting you more than helping you.

Tomo is right.

Tomo is very much right in this. You can't approach women expecting them to allow you to feel their bellies, it's very selfish. It's their body and they choose who gets to feel their bellies. Asking out of the blue as a stranger is a pretty invasive thing to do. As Tomo says, the main thing you need to do is change your way of thought. Getting arrested over the fetish is. not. worth it.

There's nothing else I can say to that. I'm not getting the help I need here, nor am I getting it from my psychiatrist or my mental health facility. I guess I don't like being told no. Never have. But, if the chances of me realizing this fantasy are THAT low, why have it? I have decided to put dating and having a relationship on hold indefinitely because there are certain things going on in my life that I cannot do anything about - and I needed something to take it out on because making that decision did not make me particularly happy. In addition, these things are things I don't see getting better anytime soon - at least, not without excessive force. There are certain things I will have to accept, and I get that; but to accept that I have to give up something that I have to keep putting on hold is something I'm not gonna stand for. I'm better off winning my ex back over than continuing to pursue this pointless fantasy. I cannot do this anymore. I've lost too many people I've cared about because of this stupid fetish.

As much as I really hate to admit it, it's time to let go. I have memories that I will forever cherish, but letting this go is gonna hit me like a bad breakup. It's gonna hurt for a while - in fact, it's gonna sting. The fact that none of you are giving me an alternative to letting go is what makes things worse.

That said, I will continue to follow this thread and respond to any reply I get, but the damage has already been done.

(January 15, 2018, 1:57 pm)preggolovah It's their body and they choose who gets to feel their bellies. Asking out of the blue as a stranger is a pretty invasive thing to do.

I completely understand that asking out of the blue, as a stranger, to get to feel a pregnant woman's belly is a pretty intrusive thing. Yes, it's their body and they get to choose who gets to feel their bellies.

The thing I'm most upset about is that I wish it was ME they chose. And more often.

Rejection sucks.

(January 15, 2018, 3:28 pm)preggoluvr4286 I completely understand that asking out of the blue, as a stranger, to get to feel a pregnant woman's belly is a pretty intrusive thing. Yes, it's their body and they get to choose who gets to feel their bellies.

The thing I'm most upset about is that I wish it was ME they chose. And more often.

Rejection sucks.

Help me to understand. Am I right to assume that you are actively chasing after pregnant women and are upset about them rejecting your advances?

(January 15, 2018, 2:25 pm)preggoluvr4286 There's nothing else I can say to that. I'm not getting the help I need here, nor am I getting it from my psychiatrist or my mental health facility.

There are certain things I will have to accept, and I get that; but to accept that I have to give up something that I have to keep putting on hold is something I'm not gonna stand for. The fact that none of you are giving me an alternative to letting go is what makes things worse.

1. If you're not getting the help you need at the medical facility, then find another one that can help you.

2. You said earlier that you hate being told no, and look where has it gotten you. Well heads up, rejection is a part of life. We all hate being told no. You being told no doesn't excuse your actions, no matter who you are.

3. What other alternative are you looking for? People have already told you to get better help and quit being on pregnant sites. Wanting to physically harm the ones you love should've been red flag, scratch that Almost getting arrested twice should've been a bloody flag for you. As harsh as I sound, there's only two options since self control isn't a solution; either buckle down and get serious help, or continue what you're doing and hope your anger doesn't land you in prison or worse.

(January 15, 2018, 4:36 pm)tomostrife

(January 15, 2018, 3:28 pm)preggoluvr4286 I completely understand that asking out of the blue, as a stranger, to get to feel a pregnant woman's belly is a pretty intrusive thing. Yes, it's their body and they get to choose who gets to feel their bellies.

The thing I'm most upset about is that I wish it was ME they chose. And more often.

Rejection sucks.

Help me to understand. Am I right to assume that you are actively chasing after pregnant women and are upset about them rejecting your advances?

Pretty much. I am obviously not good at flirting; and I'm not the best-looking guy on the planet. Furthermore, the fact that I'm rushing to approach these women since I have to depend on people to take me wherever I have to go is what causes women to freak out and become uncomfortable. Plus I'm not very good at reading flirtation and social cues. Having to resign myself to online dating because of all of these issues makes my emotional situation worse; and THAT'S what brought me to my breaking point last night.

Chasing women was difficult for me as it was before I decided to embrace my fetish. Now it's 10 times worse.

(January 15, 2018, 5:12 pm)TacoTamale

(January 15, 2018, 2:25 pm)preggoluvr4286 There's nothing else I can say to that. I'm not getting the help I need here, nor am I getting it from my psychiatrist or my mental health facility.

There are certain things I will have to accept, and I get that; but to accept that I have to give up something that I have to keep putting on hold is something I'm not gonna stand for. The fact that none of you are giving me an alternative to letting go is what makes things worse.

1. If you're not getting the help you need at the medical facility, then find another one that can help you.

2. You said earlier that you hate being told no, and look where has it gotten you. Well heads up, rejection is a part of life. We all hate being told no. You being told no doesn't excuse your actions, no matter who you are.

3. What other alternative are you looking for? People have already told you to get better help and quit being on pregnant sites. Wanting to physically harm the ones you love should've been red flag, scratch that Almost getting arrested twice should've been a bloody flag for you. As harsh as I sound, there's only two options since self control isn't a solution; either buckle down and get serious help, or continue what you're doing and hope your anger doesn't land you in prison or worse.

The alternative I'm looking for is for someone to understand how much rejection hurts, help me find a way to fulfill my fantasies without having to either give up the fetish or get myself in serious trouble, and just accept me for who I am - fetish and all. Since that's not gonna be possible, I don't know what to do except give up the fetish - and, right now, I don't want that to be the ONLY option.

Basically, my main issue is that I cannot cope with rejection without getting extremely angry, and that's not something they teach you in school. Does anyone have any resources to help deal with that?