(January 15, 2018, 6:14 pm)preggoluvr4286 Basically, my main issue is that I cannot cope with rejection without getting extremely angry, and that's not something they teach you in school. Does anyone have any resources to help deal with that?

Talk to a psychiatrist. If your current psychiatrist is not getting the job done, find another one. I honestly don't know what else to tell you, other than maybe you should stop propositioning women for a while. If rejection stings that much, you should stop putting yourself in positions where you have a high percentage of getting rejected.

It's clear to me that the answers you seek are not going to be found here, and even if they were you wouldn't accept them.

(January 15, 2018, 5:18 pm)preggoluvr4286

(January 15, 2018, 4:36 pm)tomostrife Help me to understand. Am I right to assume that you are actively chasing after pregnant women and are upset about them rejecting your advances?

Pretty much. I am obviously not good at flirting; and I'm not the best-looking guy on the planet. Furthermore, the fact that I'm rushing to approach these women since I have to depend on people to take me wherever I have to go is what causes women to freak out and become uncomfortable. Plus I'm not very good at reading flirtation and social cues. Having to resign myself to online dating because of all of these issues makes my emotional situation worse; and THAT'S what brought me to my breaking point last night.

Chasing women was difficult for me as it was before I decided to embrace my fetish. Now it's 10 times worse.

Dude! You are setting yourself up for failure and then getting upset about failing. You cant go after pregnant girls period. How do you think they got that way?! By being with a guy, most likely one they want to stay with.

You need to start looking at a pregnant belly as a wedding ring. 99% of them have zero interest in other guys. Youre not getting rejected, youre going after nearly impossible odds. This isnt about you being bad at flirting, its about them not wanting suitors at all.

Stop pursuing pregnant women forever. You apparently cannot differenciate between your fantasies and what is socially acceptable. And you are suffering because of it. No one should ever pursue pregnant women. You SHOILD however pursue a normal woman with zero intention of getting her knocked up unless you want kids. As far as online dating, that shit is a game for even normal folks.

(January 15, 2018, 6:14 pm)preggoluvr4286 Basically, my main issue is that I cannot cope with rejection without getting extremely angry, and that's not something they teach you in school. Does anyone have any resources to help deal with that?

I think you need to focus on yourself and what you want to be rather than how people see you. Learn a new hobbie, travel the world, volunteer to help people in need. Sometimes all it takes to find new friends is similar interests, not just the desire to meet new people. Bring something to the table people cant ignore. You cant identify with a sexual fantasy, leave it behind.

You're right. I definitely need to leave this fantasy behind, as much as it hurts. I have things I'd like to focus on in my life, and my fetish is only getting in the way. I should be trying to brush up on my web design and development skills, learning how to drive (which would be my second attempt at doing so), and focusing on saving enough money to move out of my parents' house. Another thing I need to do - which is obvious - is learn how to cope better with rejection. I probably won't be able to be in a relationship for a long time, but I can also brush up on my social skills while I wait.

Maybe this story will have a happy ending. Who knows? For now, though, this is how things must be.

Thank you all for your help, guys. I am also hoping to delete my account and leave this lifestyle behind me.

(January 15, 2018, 7:20 pm)tomostrife

(January 15, 2018, 5:18 pm)preggoluvr4286

(January 15, 2018, 4:36 pm)tomostrife Help me to understand. Am I right to assume that you are actively chasing after pregnant women and are upset about them rejecting your advances?

Dude! You are setting yourself up for failure and then getting upset about failing. You cant go after pregnant girls period. How do you think they got that way?! By being with a guy, most likely one they want to stay with.

You need to start looking at a pregnant belly as a wedding ring. 99% of them have zero interest in other guys. Youre not getting rejected, youre going after nearly impossible odds. This isnt about you being bad at flirting, its about them not wanting suitors at all.

That's not true at all. We have an epidemic of single moms here in the states and there are plenty of women who have gotten pregnant from one-night stands. The rest probably got there from their bad boy boyfriend. I'm sure quite a few of them would love some male companionship.

Now I know this thread has ended but, I want to weigh in with a different perspective for the OP to consider. I kinda understand his frustration a bit. It's difficult even for men without mental illness to approach women. I can't imagine how difficult it must be for your situation. But, the thing you need to focus on first is yourself. Work on improving your social skills, better managing your emotions and maybe some gainful employment. Find that inner peace and a sense of purpose outside of women. Don't worry about approaching women for the time being.

(January 15, 2018, 10:50 am)tomostrife Akhenaten, I understand you are trying to be supportive but it is borderline enabling. You are feeding into this guys false hopes. Craigslists ads may have some very small percentage of success, but we are talking about someone who is soo frustrated he is willing to endanger others. Stop it.

I fail to see how suggesting avenues that could help him achieve his goals is enabling or borderline enabling. It does come with the prerequisite that he learn to deal with rejection, which I thought I made pretty clear seeing as how I rambled on about it for however many paragraphs that was. Trying to find a pregnant woman for any purpose at all involves a 99.9% rejection rate.

"No" is everywhere, not just in this strange little corner of our lives. Part of living in a civilized society is accepting others' right to decline, be it in romance, business, casual social interactions, or law. My reading of all this is that the disturbing behavior manifesting apparently as a result of the fetish is actually a deep-seated inability to accept no for an answer in anything. That's what I'd be working on if I were the one in therapy. I hope that's something the therapist has been focusing on.

(January 15, 2018, 7:20 pm)tomostrife No one should ever pursue pregnant women.

This statement is absurd. I think you're a little too caught up in this [admittedly upsetting] thread.

While I agree that the OP's behavior is disturbing and dangerous, not everyone behaves even remotely like he does. Some of us are all about consent and discretion, and would never think to bring harm to someone we're interested in. I've "pursued" pregnant women and had success. Not a lot, mind you, but more than none. There are many different ways to do it, all of them involving respect... you just have to be able to read social cues. I've left ads on Craigslist to draw replies, but I've also made my own unsolicited replies on sites like OkCupid. Again, it all comes back to being able to accept rejection gracefully. If you're going to blow up when this extremely unlikely thing doesn't pan out, which indeed is setting oneself up for failure, then other more fundamental stuff has to be taken care of first before exploring these intricate sorts of relationships.

If you meant "pursue" as in like... skirt-chasing, that's another matter. Agree with you 100% there. I'd argue no one should "pursue" anyone like that anymore, it's friggin' 2018...

Im not arguingwith any of you. I saw a guy who was suffering from an unbalanced obsession with a fantasy nd gave him the best advice I could. I'm not a damn psychiatrist nor is any of my opinions the "right" opinion. Everyones got one. But I said what I needed to say so he would listen and yeah I went over the top for a lot of it because homie was over the top disturbed about it. You guys are all entitled to your opinions doesnt mean theyre right or wrong. I still strongly feel he needs to distance himself to improve his quality of life. So nitpick what I have to say. I think its fair for him to listen to all sides but I'm fucking done talking about it

This is how I view a fetish, it is a small part of sex and sex itself is only a small part of life. If you're letting a very small part of life run your life, you're simply ruining your life. I don't know how to tell you to learn better self-control over things, we all go about these things in different ways. Learn that a fetish shouldn't be the goal of a sexual relationship or a relationship. Be yourself around any person even if that person 'fits' your fetish or is someone you wish to flirt with. Treat them with respect and as their own person. Would you ask to touch any other persons stomach? Probably not, so don't ask a pregnant woman if you can touch her stomach. Don't pursue women if they're pregnant just because that's your fetish, you should only really go after a person if you enjoy them as a person and not as a sexual object. That's my view, maybe I'm different since I'm not one for one off sex romps with random people. Good luck finding help and perhaps try discussing this with a trusted friend or family member as well as with a therapist. A therapist can help but having a person who will simply listen is also a good way. If you let something stew away inside of you it does become a obsession. You don't have to 'give up' a fetish, just realize it's not that big of importance and set aside a small part of your off time to indulge every now and then. This is how things become a addiction, if you try to indulge it too much and chase the 'high'.

I doubt a corporation is going to take the side of someone who is harassing other shoppers over there manager. I had gotten into a hand wrestling match with a night manager at a CVS after he refused to ring me up for it after I had taken 3 sips and tried to pay. I called corprate on him, and spoke to a district manager who defended him by saying it was against the law in New Jersey to sell anything besides baby supplies and Rxs between midnight and 6am. Despite correcting him on my own and asking my brother who is a police officer in both NJ and PA, (who said the only thing he could think of in either state would be alcohol) and the fact the Walgreens a half mile up the road was more than happy to ring me up for my purchases, he still defended his clerk. Moral of the story, if a chain is willing to go to such lengths to defend an employee refusing to ring up a customer for basic purchases, I can only imagine what they will say when you complain that you are being detained for harassing pregnant customers.