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preggoluvr4286
(January 16, 2018, 10:37 pm)alexnj I doubt a corporation is going to take the side of someone who is harassing other shoppers over there manager. I had gotten into a hand wrestling match with a night manager at a CVS after he refused to ring me up for it after I had taken 3 sips and tried to pay. I called corprate on him, and spoke to a district manager who defended him by saying it was against the law in New Jersey to sell anything besides baby supplies and Rxs between midnight and 6am. Despite correcting him on my own and asking my brother who is a police officer in both NJ and PA, (who said the only thing he could think of in either state would be alcohol) and the fact the Walgreens a half mile up the road was more than happy to ring me up for my purchases, he still defended his clerk. Moral of the story, if a chain is willing to go to such lengths to defend an employee refusing to ring up a customer for basic purchases, I can only imagine what they will say when you complain that you are being detained for harassing pregnant customers.

You're probably right. Honestly, it's probably not a good idea to continue approaching them and asking to feel their belly. Still, it's upsetting to know that the ONLY way to indulge in my fetish is by either watching porn or being in a long-term relationship with someone who is pregnant. Given my chances of the latter situation (I'm 36, BTW), I am gonna say I'm stuck with pregnancy porn as my only means of indulging in my fetish.

The ONLY thing I wanted was a way to indulge in my fetish, without porn and without having to resort to harassing pregnant women. I cannot afford an escort and I do not have a decent enough social circle to help me with this wish of mine.

Porn it is, then.
Akhenaten
Porn's good enough for the rest of us, man. We all have to learn to accept limitations in life. And with porn, you can imagine any ol' damn thing you want, and no one gets hurt!
Liked by preggoluvr4286 (Jan 16, 2018)
preggoluvr4286
(January 16, 2018, 11:18 pm)Akhenaten Porn's good enough for the rest of us, man. We all have to learn to accept limitations in life. And with porn, you can imagine any ol' damn thing you want, and no one gets hurt!

True. And who knows? Maybe I'll get lucky enough to meet a woman who also has a pregnancy fetish. Wink I don't see myself having any more kids, but porn is better than nothing - and MUCH better than the alternative, which would have been a criminal record.
doubleintegral
(January 16, 2018, 11:16 pm)preggoluvr4286 Porn it is, then.

I would honestly suggest that you take a step back from this fetish. You may not want to, but you need to. It's obvious that it became unhealthy a long time ago - because of your inability to set boundaries for yourself you end up getting rejected (or find yourself in trouble), which makes you feel like shit and have low self-esteem.

Find a new hobby, something that is positive and fulfilling and makes you feel good about yourself, and doesn't constantly leave you feeling like you got burned.

And, for fucking serious, if you're not getting the right kind of professional help then PLEASE don't give up on that route. Keep looking. I know it can sometimes be easy to use a disorder as a crutch or excuse, but that doesn't help you at all. There are therapists and psychiatrists out there who can help you identify your feelings and what triggers them, and help you build good mental habits to short-circuit your natural negative impulses and responses.

But either way, I think it's time you shovel some dirt on your pregnancy fetish. Only dig it up when you've made enough strides in other parts of your life.
Liked by tomostrife (Jan 17, 2018)
preggoluvr4286
(January 17, 2018, 11:10 am)doubleintegral
(January 16, 2018, 11:16 pm)preggoluvr4286 Porn it is, then.

I would honestly suggest that you take a step back from this fetish. You may not want to, but you need to. It's obvious that it became unhealthy a long time ago - because of your inability to set boundaries for yourself you end up getting rejected (or find yourself in trouble), which makes you feel like shit and have low self-esteem.

Find a new hobby, something that is positive and fulfilling and makes you feel good about yourself, and doesn't constantly leave you feeling like you got burned.

And, for fucking serious, if you're not getting the right kind of professional help then PLEASE don't give up on that route. Keep looking. I know it can sometimes be easy to use a disorder as a crutch or excuse, but that doesn't help you at all. There are therapists and psychiatrists out there who can help you identify your feelings and what triggers them, and help you build good mental habits to short-circuit your natural negative impulses and responses.

But either way, I think it's time you shovel some dirt on your pregnancy fetish. Only dig it up when you've made enough strides in other parts of your life.

WOW! That's all I'm gonna have to say to that. It's amazing how scary accurate that statement was. Over the course of my life, when it comes to women in general, all I've done was gotten burned. Since I started exploring this fetish a little more, it has gotten worse.

I'm wondering if maybe I should figure out what to do on my own, since I've ALWAYS been naïve and gullible enough to believe what everyone else tells me INSTEAD of investigating certain things for myself and finding out what I need to know.

Now I'm back at square one with this.
Sig120
Iv dated a few pregnant girls, this does not work out like you think it will in your head, everyone of them ended up bad either on my part or theirs. I mean you have to realize this fetish is a look and see only. When you start trying to step into someone's life you have to take up the responsibility of it. Is the sex magical? Fuck no it's a hole and you fuck it, it's not magical, it's no different from a regular girl. Plus if you Persue pregnant girls you better be ready to deal with the social awkwardness, people that know you will look at you funny, your family will talk about it her family will talk about it. In my experience it's easier to read stories or look at pics. It's not worth the drama and the damage to your reputation, soon you get known for only fucking around with pregnant chicks and regular girls are gona ignore the shit outta you because you become viewed as a freak. I learned my lesson and it hasn't been a easy road since I live in a small town. Rumors will ruin you! So take it from me, spank that monkey it's cheaper and safer for your sanity because living your life and being labeled as a freak!

And man keep getting help, tell your psch about the fetish and how it is controlling you. Keep getting help man
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Akhenaten
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(January 17, 2018, 4:18 pm)preggoluvr4286 I'm wondering if maybe I should figure out what to do on my own, since I've ALWAYS been naïve and gullible enough to believe what everyone else tells me INSTEAD of investigating certain things for myself and finding out what I need to know.

Now I'm back at square one with this.

OK, look. You're a grown-ass man who gets to make his own call on this (provided that call will not affect/harm any other people -- can't emphasize this enough).

You've seen a variety of opinions here about what you ought to do. And everyone's entitled to an opinion. But none of us are you or your therapist(s), and none of us are your potential victims if you go the wrong way, either.

All this to say -- do go your own way, but figure out what your own way is going to be with a perfect, systematic approach. You know what you enjoy, and you know society's limitations. They are HARD stops, man -- no wiggle room. You've seen this. You do not want to encounter those boundaries again at all. Nothing but trouble for you and the people who end up hurt by your lack of control. And you can prevent yourself from hurting anyone or getting yourself into trouble because you have predictive abilities: you're self-aware enough to understand the existence of the lack of control, and that interactions will end poorly every time.

Knowing those things, make your decision. And it doesn't have to be permanent, whatever it is. You could decide to step back from the fetish temporarily, work on some things, and come back when you know you'll never endanger yourself or anyone else ever again. Or you could decide that it will live 100% in your head (and in the safety of places like this forum) and not affect other people -- this is only if you think you can maintain that level of control.

If you think therapy can help with this, you might want to look for a new therapist because I'm not sure your current one is really doing the trick. You're still pretty disturbed, you know?

I know other posters here keep pushing "step back" or "give it up", but the reason I disagree is because I don't think that will work. I think it will only create more complications for you as the fetish eats away at the back of your mind, and you will eventually explode because you didn't allow yourself a safe release (like simply enjoying porn, alone). Who knows who'd get hurt then?

But again, perform the analysis and determine the best course of action based on what you know about yourself. Remember that the most important thing is to prevent harm, both to yourself and to others. That's #1. Everything else is secondary. Once you settle on a course of action that at least satisfies that prime directive, you can move forward. You deserve to be happy, but so does everyone else!
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DarthKomar
(January 15, 2018, 2:36 am)preggoluvr4286 I am already seeing a psychiatrist, taking a CBT course, and in the process of trying to control myself. Even so, I am a high-functioning autistic adult, so I feel the sting of rejection even more than a neurotypical person. I'm completely frustrated over the fact that I can do nothing about my fetish; and the fact that it will be a long time before I'm going to be intimate with any woman - not to mention the possibility that I might NEVER get to be with a pregnant woman ever again - makes it worse.

I'm already doing everything that I can to control myself and accept my circumstances. The thing I cannot do, under ANY circumstances, is be completely satisfied with what I have. I know I will have a better life; I just don't want to have to give up this fetish.

Hey man, I get how you feel, I was recently diagnosed with autism at 26 years old so I totally get the challenges.

What I've learned both since knowing about my autism and before it is that while you have to keep trying and get out there, you need to also understand how you function baring in mind that every autistic person is going to be different.

Keep trying but take the cautious path when possible and remember to think about things no matter the result so you can understand them better.

Liked by preggoluvr4286 (Jan 31, 2018)
preggoluvr4286
(January 31, 2018, 10:30 pm)DarthKomar
(January 15, 2018, 2:36 am)preggoluvr4286 I am already seeing a psychiatrist, taking a CBT course, and in the process of trying to control myself. Even so, I am a high-functioning autistic adult, so I feel the sting of rejection even more than a neurotypical person. I'm completely frustrated over the fact that I can do nothing about my fetish; and the fact that it will be a long time before I'm going to be intimate with any woman - not to mention the possibility that I might NEVER get to be with a pregnant woman ever again - makes it worse.

I'm already doing everything that I can to control myself and accept my circumstances. The thing I cannot do, under ANY circumstances, is be completely satisfied with what I have. I know I will have a better life; I just don't want to have to give up this fetish.

Hey man, I get how you feel, I was recently diagnosed with autism at 26 years old so I totally get the challenges.

What I've learned both since knowing about my autism and before it is that while you have to keep trying and get out there, you need to also understand how you function baring in mind that every autistic person is going to be different.

Keep trying but take the cautious path when possible and remember to think about things no matter the result so you can understand them better.

Right now I'm in the process of trying to get over a girl I met last week whom I really liked. So that doesn't help the cause right now. I will be trying to take the cautious path through a good chunk of February, knowing that things will likely end in disaster if I don't. Right now I'm a big ball of negative energy so approaching women -pregnant or not - might not be such a good idea right now.
Akhenaten
(January 31, 2018, 11:41 pm)preggoluvr4286 Right now I'm in the process of trying to get over a girl I met last week whom I really liked. So that doesn't help the cause right now. I will be trying to take the cautious path through a good chunk of February, knowing that things will likely end in disaster if I don't. Right now I'm a big ball of negative energy so approaching women -pregnant or not - might not be such a good idea right now.

See, you're perfectly self-aware. Do you realize how big a deal that is? Some guys don't even know how much trouble they're going to get themselves in. Now you can react accordingly, which is, as you said, to hang back and not interact with women until you cool off from the latest dating debacle. I just got ghosted by a pregnant woman, myself, so don't feel too bad. This is the new normal, apparently.

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