Sounds like you've got the help necessary to change things. Think of a new job as a new beginning. Most people meet their partners at work, I met mine on the job. I was a young retail manager and she was a part time staff member. I used to make crappy excuses to go over to her department so I could talk with her.

Try not to do anything too rash in the meantime. I really think a new job will be the start of something great for you.

If you don't mind my saying so, I think you've set your expectations way too high. You want a girlfriend, but you don't want someone who's not your intellectual equal or doesn't meet your "artistic requirements". (What does that even mean?) Plus, you're hung up on one girl who's already taken. It would be great for both you and her if you just let her go. Move on. It'll be hard for a while, but trust me: it'll be worth it.

Just go with the flow of life, man. Don't expect too much and don't force anything and you'll be fine.

(December 6, 2016, 1:13 pm)belliesrlovely If you don't mind my saying so, I think you've set your expectations way too high. You want a girlfriend, but you don't want someone who's not your intellectual equal or doesn't meet your "artistic requirements". (What does that even mean?) Plus, you're hung up on one girl who's already taken. It would be great for both you and her if you just let her go. Move on. It'll be hard for a while, but trust me: it'll be worth it.

Just go with the flow of life, man. Don't expect too much and don't force anything and you'll be fine.

No, you misinterpret, I want someone smart, but not someone as smart as me lol. That would make me get competitive. I don't want someone who is my intellectual equal. And as far as artistic requirements, if she can't draw, paint, sing, play an instrument, sculpt, write, she has NOTHING to offer me. All three of the women I spoke of, the first was a painter and a poet, the second is an artist like me, using graphite, colored pencils, she is actually really amazing at watercolors now, and she sculpts clay. The current girl draws, and uses charcoal and ink.

One girl I liked, and I use that term loosely here, in college, was just a pretty face, and I mean a pretty, pretty face, she had no artistic talent whatsoever and it was one of the reasons why I lost interest, among others.

And I have been going with the flow off life since 2014, it's time to force a change. I am so sick and tired of nothingness. It's at this point in my life that I am actively considering attempting to summon the courage to call local escort services in hopes of finding a pregnant girl lol. And I do mean that, I am very shy with the phone, it's probably my biggest social anxiety problem. I don't even call my friends out of fear. Text messaging is the best shit ever.

Hey, there. I'm new to this board and would like to get acquainted.

With that said, I have a question and I'm not sure If this is the right place to ask.

Are there any suggestions you could give to someone who's trying to meet pregnant women? I feel like every pregnant woman I've know is only interested in being with a man of pretty high standard, which is totally fine and reasonable, but I don't have too incredibly much to bring to the table. I just want to meet some interesting women without coming off as a creep.

Can I get your advice?

(December 6, 2016, 8:25 pm)Rudwah No, you misinterpret, I want someone smart, but not someone as smart as me lol. That would make me get competitive. I don't want someone who is my intellectual equal. And as far as artistic requirements, if she can't draw, paint, sing, play an instrument, sculpt, write, she has NOTHING to offer me. All three of the women I spoke of, the first was a painter and a poet, the second is an artist like me, using graphite, colored pencils, she is actually really amazing at watercolors now, and she sculpts clay. The current girl draws, and uses charcoal and ink.

One girl I liked, and I use that term loosely here, in college, was just a pretty face, and I mean a pretty, pretty face, she had no artistic talent whatsoever and it was one of the reasons why I lost interest, among others.

And I have been going with the flow off life since 2014, it's time to force a change. I am so sick and tired of nothingness. It's at this point in my life that I am actively considering attempting to summon the courage to call local escort services in hopes of finding a pregnant girl lol. And I do mean that, I am very shy with the phone, it's probably my biggest social anxiety problem. I don't even call my friends out of fear. Text messaging is the best shit ever.

Have you ever taken art classes? Maybe you could meet some girls that way. If you don't mind my asking, why is it so important that the girl you want be an artist?

She needs to be an artist because I am an artist. Without that mutuality, I will lose interest. I may draw inspiration from women but I cannot get good advice, good critiques from people who don't understand, say how to use tortillions right, or how to use blending stumps with mineral spirits correctly, or say, something as simple as lighting composition. It's not to hear a nobody with no artistic talent see your drawing and go "that's really good!" but it's another thing to see them say "I love how you burnished over her eyes! Did you use an F pencil for her eyelashes? Is that alcohol ink or India ink?" See, when a woman can perceive those things, as the three women that I have been most attracted to in my life can, it's REALLY hard to shake that. If you go to my original post, I have my DeviantArt page linked there, my newest drawing exemplifies what I'm talking about. One of my friends is an incredible artist and she has taught me so much in 2 years but she's just a friend. But when even she mentions all the things, able to recognize what I used or did, that is just so sweet, so sweet.

But that's super rare. And yes, my standards are kinda high, simply because my requirements are low. I don't require a lot of maintenance, I can handle my own life and I like simple things, it's the worrying and uncertainty that gets me.

Short answer: Lower Your expectations!

The longer one: Whenever You find Yourself thinking about some girl being not good enough for You,.... just try to think again. Otherwise the older You will get, the less compatible with other people (especially women) You will become and You can easily end up spending Your life waiting for a never coming miracle.

The girl usually don`t just love. In most cases they love "because of something". Now think what exactly is that girls might love on You and what types of girls are attracted to this types of things. Do some research to play the best with the cards You were given. Of course be ready to make some trade-offs and keep in mind that the girl probably has made some already, just by dating the triple degree toystore guy with a weird artistic taste ;-)

(December 7, 2016, 12:50 pm)motofoko Short answer: Lower Your expectations!

The longer one: Whenever You find Yourself thinking about some girl being not good enough for You,.... just try to think again. Otherwise the older You will get, the less compatible with other people (especially women) You will become and You can easily end up spending Your life waiting for a never coming miracle.

The girl usually don`t just love. In most cases they love "because of something". Now think what exactly is that girls might love on You and what types of girls are attracted to this types of things. Do some research to play the best with the cards You were given. Of course be ready to make some trade-offs and keep in mind that the girl probably has made some already, just by dating the triple degree toystore guy with a weird artistic taste ;-)

Ok, see, your point here is really good but I don't know how to utilize it. This girl from work is the first girl to admit liking me, she won't tell me why. I know my best friend says my best trait is my sense of humor and my good stories. I have a power with words she says. So I focus on that but like, what if there's something else I need to focus on and can't figure it out? No one comments on my appearance, other than that I'm a ginger and so thin I can wear a woman's corset with no ill-effects at all.

I don't know why people like me because I don't have people telling me "your hair is so hawt!" or "God your emerald ginger eyes are to die for!" People tell me why they're friends with me but it feels like there's a huge barrier. I am incredibly self-aware but on this point, I feel lost on.

Finally, I have lowered my standards, this girl from work isn't a 10 out of 10 in any of my categories except personality. I can live with that and I don't feel like I'd be settling, I feel like I would be accomplishing something. Does that make sense?

(December 7, 2016, 7:34 pm)Rudwah Ok, see, your point here is really good but I don't know how to utilize it. This girl from work is the first girl to admit liking me, she won't tell me why. I know my best friend says my best trait is my sense of humor and my good stories. I have a power with words she says. So I focus on that but like, what if there's something else I need to focus on and can't figure it out? No one comments on my appearance, other than that I'm a ginger and so thin I can wear a woman's corset with no ill-effects at all.

I don't know why people like me because I don't have people telling me "your hair is so hawt!" or "God your emerald ginger eyes are to die for!" People tell me why they're friends with me but it feels like there's a huge barrier. I am incredibly self-aware but on this point, I feel lost on.

Finally, I have lowered my standards, this girl from work isn't a 10 out of 10 in any of my categories except personality. I can live with that and I don't feel like I'd be settling, I feel like I would be accomplishing something. Does that make sense?

Okay, first of all, you don't need to know WHY a girl likes you. She likes you. Your foot's in the door. GO THROUGH IT!!!

Second, you're laying way too much on this woman right out the gate. You're saying she's not a 10, but you wouldn't feel like you'd be settling if you went out with her. You don't know what's going to happen with this woman: she could destroy your life or she could be the best thing to happen to it. You could go on one date with her and never see her again, or you could end up marrying and having kids with her. You'll never know until you find out. I say don't worry about it. Whatever happens happens. Just go with it!

Well, I went on 2 dates with her. Well, ok, here's how that happened. We went out twice, alone, it was very intimate, especially the one trip down to the University of Pittsburgh. She considered it a date, thought it was a date, and was surprised when I didn't try to take her hand or kiss her or anything. I didn't do that because I did not have permission. I need verbal permission to do those things.

I know she likes me, and she's afraid of it for 2 reasons. 1, she's my boss (technically), and 2, she's been horribly abused, both by family, and by men in general and just got out of a long term relationship and doesn't want one now. She also said she doesn't want to hurt me, which I consider that to be a bullshit statement since she also followed it up with the "you're too sweet and intelligent for me!" line that just about killed me. Our mutual friend is sure she likes me. I am sure she likes me, she has said much to make me think she likes me. I think her own self-esteem and our work situation is the problem. IF SHE WOULD EVER LET ME TALK TO HER IN PRIVATE...I would tell her to just transfer me to another store. I already took steps into talking to the manager of the store that I want transferred too, she'd take me in a heartbeat. Assuming our general manager, boss of bosses, will let me go (my other friend, who is also a supervisor, says our general manager will not let an asset like me go so easily).

And she could ruin what little life I have left, this is true. But come 2 years, I won't be here, I won't have to worry about these things, unless I have a reason to stay around. She herself as actually asked me to commit suicide with her on at least two occasions. But I would rather transfer away from the store I love, to work at a different place, if it meant I had a chance with my friend again. I am like 75% sure that if I just go to work, be myself around her, continue to make jokes, continue to talk to her like nothing happened, she will come back and we'll eventually find ourselves at the local Wendy's again, having a good time. I mean, she had me take her to the local porn store one night for her birthday. We went to a club, she grinded on me (against my will), we went bar hopping one night and ended up cuddling in our friend's car, we went out to dinner twice, then went apartment searching together. Then I told her why I like her, and she said we'd be ok and promised to be my friend. She then moved into her new apartment and immediately blocked me on everything and told me she can't be friends with me if it means I will continue to like her.

However, she said to me that people can't choose who they like. All we can control is our actions and words.