Hi! 

I’m new here in every sense. I recently started dating someone, and he’s very kind and we have fun together.. It’s only been a two months so we are still getting to know each other. Unbeknownst to him, I recently discovered he has a pregnancy fetish. He asked me to Google something on his laptop, not realizing he accidentally left his Tumblr up that was dedicated to it. I didn’t say anything, I have no desire to embarrass him, plus it’s not really my business. So just closed the browser and moved on with our lives. But I was admittedly curious so I looked at it later on my own. obviously from his Tumblr, it’s not a minor or side attraction, but clearly a huge part of his sexual arousal. Admittedly at first I didn’t know what to think and was taken aback. But I guess as I think on it- it’s mainly just because I have zero experience with this particular fetish. We have a sexual relationship, and it’s great, but obviously it’s the type that’s in the new stages that might not have everyone’s full, “tastes”, incorporated. I guess I’m not completely surprised either, definitely not pregnant but I’ve got really big boobs and somewhat of a belly. He enjoys both. Although I understand there is a wide array of attractions within any fetish, I do think he is definitely attracted to the large boob and belly part I’ve noticed in this one.

I’m still nervous about the whole thing a tad- but I’m also super understanding that everybody has desires and I can think the idea of him being attracted to my body as it is, also as maybe one day it could be- when many men are rude about pregnant women, is nice. I have incorporated partners fetishes/kinks into my sex live before, and honestly, as long it’s not something abusive done to me, I am pretty open minded.

On the other hand, I will admit it’s a bit of a hard pill to swallow to know he will most be attracted me in a way I don’t look now, and if I do get pregnant- in a way that will only be in the grand scheme of things, a very small window of time I also feel like some of the attraction to the pain of birth etc, makes a tad uncomfortable. But I can see that being like any other BDSM. So I’m happy to try to keep an open mind there and learn!! 

So long story short- if this was would you, how would you want your girlfriend to handle this? Tell him I know? Let him be? Leave it alone? And if you’ve explored this with a partner who didn’t share this fetish, how did you guys go about it? 

Tl:dr: Girlfriend of guy who just discovered his fetish. No experience. Looking for guidance <3 <3

If you trust him and think this relationship has the potential to be serious, then tell him what you just wrote. It will definitely be a weight off of his shoulders knowing he won't have to worry about how you'll react later.

I can only speak for myself, but pregnancy is more than the belly. It shows the sacrifices a mother is willing to take for her child, and is a symbol of the bond between partners. Of course talking with him is the only way to know for sure how he feels.

Thank you!! That makes a lot of sense. I do think it could be serious at some point. I’ve been thinking I will in time that feels natural and not in any way that I’m calling him out. Just be open that no, I don’t understand on my own but part of getting to know someone is understanding together.

That’s beautiful. And yes I can see, as with any sexual experience, it being very individualized.

A woman willing to visit a fetish site to try to understand more about her partner is marriage material in my book.

Speaking for myself, I would be super happy if my girlfriend indulge my pregnant fetish. Will be easier if she is aware of everything, but is quite difficult to introduce such a particular argument. I also guess that also girls might find it sexy.
Maybe using fake belly to have some sex, disguises with pregnancy dresses, and so on

(December 21, 2021, 6:47 pm)Mnmn1010 Speaking for myself, I would be super happy if my girlfriend indulge my pregnant fetish. Will be easier if she is aware of everything, but is quite difficult to introduce such a particular argument. I also guess that also girls might find it sexy.
Maybe using fake belly to have some sex, disguises with pregnancy dresses, and so on

yeah I’m balancing not wanting to say anything too early and embarrass him, but also making what might feel like a more impossible convo for him a hell of a lot easier to have if he wants to!!

And thanks, appreciate the ideas for us to try!

If you really want to surprise him (in a supportive way) you could talk about getting pregnant in the dirty foreplay talk, or have him come into the room with a faux belly under your shirt. Its bold but if you embrace it, I’m sure he’d love to have a partner he can trust.

One of my ex’s first found out when I said I was going to knock her up in the heat of the moment. Nothing ever came of it, but it was nice to know she was cool with it.

(December 21, 2021, 7:43 pm)dannydangerson If you really want to surprise him (in a supportive way) you could talk about getting pregnant in the dirty foreplay talk, or have him come into the room with a faux belly under your shirt. Its bold but if you embrace it, I’m sure he’d love to have a partner he can trust.

One of my ex’s first found out when I said I was going to knock her up in the heat of the moment. Nothing ever came of it, but it was nice to know she was cool with it.

Thanks! The dirty talk suggestion might be a good way to ease into it.

You seem like you are pretty chill with the idea. I think that is what's most important.

For me, to address some concerns you expressed in your original post, it's the idea, the potentiality, that a woman can be pregnant that is a major part of what I like.

I think about when my wife was pregnant sometimes, both when we have sex and when... I take a long shower. It's awesome -there are moments of her pregnancy when she was just so incredibly attractive to me. It doesn't matter that she's not pregnant all the time. That's why it's fantasy.

Real pregnancies are complicated, often frustrating, especially in the sex department; and, of course, they come with babies as a parting gift! As long as your bf isn't an idiot, and understands that, you should be fine to explore it with him.

This was a super helpful perspective. Thank you!!