I'm so fucking pissed. Every time I try to befriend someone they ALWAYS block/ghost me within a day of talking. I get it, I'm not the best person in the world to talk to, but at least give me a fucking chance. I have practically no friends irl so online is my next best thing, and even then most of the people I try to talk to are either too busy or too far away to give a shit about me. It's sad how I basically have to pay for any sort of physical contact, it's draining me both financially and mentally and I'm seriously considering just giving up entirely. If God put me on this Earth just to suffer, he did a pretty damn good job at doing that. It's almost like he's watching me and laughing sadistically as I try to go on with my life, but I just simply can't. I try to tell myself that I'm doing fine in life, but every time I find myself being torn down by something. It's gotten so bad that whenever I get rejected/blocked/ghosted, part of me is completely desensitized to it because it's happened so many goddamn times.

Messaged you

I just deleted a person from my contacts a few minutes ago because.. well, what can I say -- same thing. We make contact, we start chatting, then they just drift off or ghost. I have no idea what the deal is.

I don't know about you, but this happens to me regardless of if I've gotten into deep conversation with the person or not. What I mean is that it might seem as though people are disinterested in us because they get to know us better and then decide we're bad or boring or whatever, but since it's also happening in situations where there definitely hasn't been enough time/conversation for such a judgment to be made, I'm starting to think this is just something people do. They like new and shiny and they get bored way too easily.

In my case, I'm talking specifically about women... seems every time I find someone new and interesting to talk to, they fall off the grid before I even get a chance to really get to know them. It mystifies me why they even "match" with me in the first place if they're going to be so flaky. And like you, I struggle and begin to question myself. Is this my fault? Am I so awful to talk to? Am I worthless to these people? If so, why? But... like I said, since it happens whether or not we've really gotten to know each other, honestly man I'm thinking those of us who wish to form lasting connections are completely outnumbered by the people with pathetic attention spans. So, not that this helps, but I think what we're experiencing is not our fault.

I feel ya, social isolation is a bitch, wanting to talk to people but get turned down from left, right, and center, when I graduated from high school I was full of energy ready to take on the world, flash forward to now all the ghosting/rejections has drained me to the point where I don't feel like socializing. I try my damnest not to be a petty gremlin moping about society, the best coarse of action for me is to seek help, you should do the same.

Same here.

Most of my social interactions are online, mostly from playing online games. I used to have about 5 solid close friends since high school, but since then, I've booted 2 of them out of my life for just being shitty in general. The other three formed their own new circle of friends and rarely talk to me anymore. The only time I'm interesting to them is if their new friends are busy. And when we do hang out, they mostly want point out embarrassing moments in my past.

It was similar at my previous school I was working at (I'm a teacher). It seemed many of my colleagues enjoyed my accompany. Whenever someone would catch me in the teachers lounge, they'd start chatting me up. As soon as we would start getting into semi-interesting/deep conversation, someone else would walk in and they would just cut me off and start talking to the other person that just entered. It kinda feels like just I'm like a "2nd class friend" if I'm allowed to make up words. It seems people only interact with me if I'm the only one available. That, or people feel obligated to talk to me when we happen to cross paths so that they don't seem rude. Most of the time it's small talk which I really despise.

In defense of the aforementioned people, I would not at all be surprised if people just think I'm uninteresting or even loathsome. There's a pretty limited range of topics that interest me which makes it difficult to relate with others. Many times, colleagues will friend me on Facebook, then they discover more of who I really am without needing to have an actual conversation with me. Then they continue to ignore me. I don't enjoy sports, I'm an atheist, many times even aggressively anti-Christian. I still enjoy cartoons like Adventure Time, Avatar, The Simpson's, Rick and Morty, etcetera. I play lots of video games. I mostly listen to black metal. Since I got my music degree, I've even began recording my own avant-garde black metal. I've released two full-length albums so far and I've always shared my progress on social media. None of my "friends" ever ask about it, or even pretend to be interested. Not that anyone should, anyhow. And in general, I hold a good amount of strong opinions on things that offend people.

It seems really, people only acknowledge me when I share some basic, superficial bullshit like "I'm getting drunk tonight" or "look at this picture of my daughter," but the moment I want to discuss something like multiverse theory or HP Lovecraft, I usually just have to remind myself to stop talking because no one's listening.

It seems really, I sort of bring this on myself with the things I choose to like. I also avoid many social interactions/events on the basis that I'll get bored of listening to people talk at me or vice versa. It's become such a normalized thing for me, that I'd rather spend the vast majority of my spare time alone at home playing video games, recording music, or masturbating to pregnant girls.

And I'm okay with that.

I've sort of found my inner peace within myself. This tranquillity just comes from the fact that I don't really need others to feel happy. I go to work everyday fresh and charged. I come home excited because I can relax and focus on the small things that make me joyous without the judgment of others or any stipulation to fulfill their expectations.

That's just me, anyhow.

(March 5, 2021, 1:45 am)R\lyeh Many times, colleagues will friend me on Facebook, then they discover more of who I really am without needing to have an actual conversation with me. Then they continue to ignore me. I don't enjoy sports, I'm an atheist, many times even aggressively anti-Christian. I still enjoy cartoons like Adventure Time, Avatar, The Simpson's, Rick and Morty, etcetera. I play lots of video games.

Did.. I write this?

But seriously, I don't bother Facebooking with colleagues or acquaintances anymore. I pruned my "friends" list down to the 40s and it's a cold day in hell when I add someone new. People are just so... awful. And I live in Texas, so they're even more awful than usual.

I'm glad what you've got is working for you. I also don't really get much out of friendships, but I do so adore romantic entanglements... and have a hell of a time establishing them. It's just one ghosting after another. So sick of it.

This thread give me hope knowing that I'm not alone. I'm glad that the boys have my back, even if I don't even know them.

Does a name like bballconor meant your into Basketball/baseball, if not why don't you join a men's league. 90% of my male friends are from my various box lacrosse experiences. The other 10% are a combination of people I went to high school with, parents at my kids school, ect

Well mate one thing that has helped me deal with this type of situation is becoming self reliant. It might be difficult but try to get in the mindset of being comfortable and contempt with yourself. Don’t let people think that you need them in order to be happy. Find something you enjoy doing and do it. Creativity is the best companion in my opinion.

Indeed it is nice to have conversations with people but when they become too clingy or seem to think you are obligated to talk to them every day it gets annoying.

If you want to chat about preggos or whatever feel free to send me a pm. I have a hectic schedule so if I don’t respond right away it doesn’t mean I’m ignoring you.

Don’t give up on yourself. You are on this earth for a reason. Feel better soon mate and remember you are not alone.

(March 5, 2021, 6:00 pm)alexnj Does a name like bballconor meant your into Basketball/baseball, if not why don't you join a men's league.  90% of my male friends are from my various box lacrosse experiences.  The other 10% are a combination of people I went to high school with, parents at my kids school, ect

Honestly that's just a username I've been using for years. I have no interest in sports whatsoever so maybe I should consider changing it