Hi everyone, I’ve been around this forum for a little while - 3 years - (although I have been into the fetish long beforehand) and I’d like to open up about something personally that’s been eating away at me for a while now and see if anyone can relate/give advice.

I accidentally leaked my pregnancy fetish to a group chat. It happened when I accidentally sent a picture using the wrong account for my browser and my bookmarks were visible in the image. I didn't realize until it was too late and the image could not be un-sent. As soon as I realized what happened, it mentally destroyed me and I couldn’t think straight for days. My most kept secret (not a single person knew about) was revealed to a group of people and all wanted to do was crawl into a corner and never come out again. After days of not even wanting to touch the gc, I looked and read through the messages. As you can imagine there was shock, then there were jokes...a lot of jokes. I couldn’t bring myself to say anything because I knew that whatever I said I would be mocked. I know that some people think I am overreacting but to me that’s something I didn’t want anyone to ever know other than my significant other, and now 8 people know. I do want to add that this gc is mostly comprised of very close friends, but regardless its 8 more people that didn't know before. I get tons of thoughts of how they can use it to their advantage however they want and it immediately erases any thoughts like "oh it's fine, who cares". I know there are a lot worse secrets but for me it was the biggest. The reveal is something that’s always in the back of my mind. I am one of those people that will remember something like that forever and every once in a while I’ll think of it and immediately get down and it ruins my day. I know I probably shouldn't let it get to me as much as it does, but I can't help it. I guess my reason for posting this is to ask if anyone else has done something similar and if you ever got over it?

So far, I've managed to control who knows this about me. I either tell a person, or I don't. So I haven't been in your position.

But I think, if possible, I would look at this not as a group of friends, but now a bunch of individual people. They will all have their own thoughts about this. Some of them are going to think poorly of you or make fun of you, and those are people you won't want to deal with anymore for obvious reasons. Some of them, however, probably won't give a damn. The kink-shamers outed themselves already, but if there are any people in the chat who didn't say anything, you might want to ping them personally and figure out where they are with it. How you do this is up to you, but you just want to figure out if you can ever be comfortable around them again.

Worst-case scenario is that you have to peel yourself away from all the people in that group because you're too ashamed to interact with them anymore. That'd be really unfortunate, but you need to do what's right for you. You have to feel comfortable.

(April 18, 2021, 3:03 pm)Akhenaten So far, I've managed to control who knows this about me. I either tell a person, or I don't. So I haven't been in your position.

But I think, if possible, I would look at this not as a group of friends, but now a bunch of individual people. They will all have their own thoughts about this. Some of them are going to think poorly of you or make fun of you, and those are people you won't want to deal with anymore for obvious reasons. Some of them, however, probably won't give a damn. The kink-shamers outed themselves already, but if there are any people in the chat who didn't say anything, you might want to ping them personally and figure out where they are with it. How you do this is up to you, but you just want to figure out if you can ever be comfortable around them again.

Worst-case scenario is that you have to peel yourself away from all the people in that group because you're too ashamed to interact with them anymore. That'd be really unfortunate, but you need to do what's right for you. You have to feel comfortable.

Thank you. I have messaged or conversated with most of the people and I am pretty sure I know at this point who is (doesn't care) and isn't with it (kink-shame). Since it has happened though I have stayed far away from that group chat, so I guess it will end up being a mix of keeping those close that don't care and cutting off those that do and want to hold it over my head.

(April 18, 2021, 3:21 pm)PreggoFanatic Since it has happened though I have stayed far away from that group chat, so I guess it will end up being a mix of keeping those close that don't care and cutting off those that do and want to hold it over my head.

That sounds like the most reasonable course of action. And hey, now you know which of your old friends are assholes. Who needs that toxic shit, anyway?

I havent seen the picture or know the content of the chat, but the 3 times I got caught 2 of the 3 I was able to justify it by saying it is surprisingly some of the best sex you will ever had. The first time I got caught was when I was 19 just before I moved out and my mom found my underwear with blood on it. It was a classmates I was having regular monthly hookups with and my mom was more shocked that a woman would have sex during that time. The other 2 I just said it is some of the best sex you will ever have and left it at that.

Hope I can offer some help. This happened to me when I was a teenager and it was my family that 'found out'. I hate using that term because it implies that this should be a dark secret, which it shouldn't. They were weird about it, judged me, no one said "Don't worry, stuff like this is normal." However, as an adult, I've told many, many people, some subtly, some directly, that I think pregnant women are sexy, I've told potential dating partners straight up about my fetish, and I've never heard one sideways comment from anyone. Most adults are accepting and don't really give a shit because they all have their own crazy kink and they too are scared shitless about people finding out. You sent a pic... guaranteed they probably like you MORE now, and think you're more accessible and relatable as a person because of it, because you're human. If anyone in that group judges you or uses it against you, they're not your friend and can fuck off. Don't worry too much about this shit man. Life is too short to live in fear of what people think. If anything, double down on it, laugh it off, make a joke of it, and try your best to move forward. You don't owe explanations to anyone for anything as an adult, unless it's a spouse or partner, otherwise, fuck it, and enjoy your life without worry of people finding out.

(April 18, 2021, 4:56 pm)idk Hope I can offer some help. This happened to me when I was a teenager and it was my family that 'found out'. I hate using that term because it implies that this should be a dark secret, which it shouldn't. They were weird about it, judged me, no one said "Don't worry, stuff like this is normal." However, as an adult, I've told many, many people, some subtly, some directly, that I think pregnant women are sexy, I've told potential dating partners straight up about my fetish, and I've never heard one sideways comment from anyone. Most adults are accepting and don't really give a shit because they all have their own crazy kink and they too are scared shitless about people finding out. You sent a pic... guaranteed they probably like you MORE now, and think you're more accessible and relatable as a person because of it, because you're human. If anyone in that group judges you or uses it against you, they're not your friend and can fuck off. Don't worry too much about this shit man. Life is too short to live in fear of what people think. If anything, double down on it, laugh it off, make a joke of it, and try your best to move forward. You don't owe explanations to anyone for anything as an adult, unless it's a spouse or partner, otherwise, fuck it, and enjoy your life without worry of people finding out.

I agree.  I think as adults we can be open about our kinks and fetishes.   I think as adults it is easier to accept the realms of sex beyond the penis goes in to the vagina, and that once your pregnant your untouchable for 9 months or your off limits for 5 days every month.  When I was in high school I had an arrangement with with this girl, because I was willing to eat her out and fuck her during her period.  I was the only guy willing to do it  and I think frankly the only guy not afraid of her .   When I meet with my classmates after and we reminisce it reminds me that either I was Nuts as a teenager or I was mature beyond my years.  (Probably a little of both)  Maybe because I got into pregnancy sex not as an intrest in pregnancy, but because i could brag to my middle school classmates that I got to hook up with a high schooler or period sex because it allowed me to hook up with the girl with the biggest boobs in school(and both because I have a hard time keeping a condom on when I cum.)  I have different perspective on things.

It’s not the end of the world mate. Trust me there are a lot worse secrets being kept by people. You are attracted to women which is perfectly healthy. They just happen to be pregnant women. My point is I would rather be exposed as being a preggophile. I’m honestly not afraid of people finding out I’m into the fetish. I have told a lot of people. I don’t consider it a secret or something I have to hide. It’s no different than being into porn. Everyone has a kink and porn categories are pretty vast. Pregnancy is simply one of many in a long list of fetish options.

The pedo dudes are the ones that need to be looking over their shoulders.

Keep your chin up mate. You’ll be alright. Let it go and don’t stress out over what happened.

Hi, well i have spoken about my fetish only with 2 people in my "real life" My best friend (who reacts not that bad, i can say he was indifferent) and my mom, who thinks that this, that i was calling "fetish", is a common desire and surely not a bad thing. There's nothing to be ashamed of. It's my honest opinion that during pregnancy a woman unleash all her beauty and femininity as well as a peculiar cuteness. For us this is not for sure a fetish (i cant imagine how a non preggophile person mindset is), well for me is a normal state of mind to think about pregnant women as cute and sexy, there's nothing strange about it.
I think that some people consider this weird just because we fantasize about a woman that have an other guy's baby in her belly... or maybe they just think that expecting girls are like "untouchable"...
Who knows why... but this is just an old type of mentality. I truly think that in the future this will be considered a normal things, maybe we should just let pass a little bit more years... as my dear friend Ltknt told you, pedo is a think that a person must fell ashamed of, not preggophilia.
Sorry for my not so proper English, im just an Italian Guy.

@ADC12-X9 your English is fine.