I told my current girlfriend about a month or so into our relationship, it had just kinda slipped out while we were on a date. That allowed us to spend more time talking about fetishes and sexual stuff, to get more comfortable with each other's fetishes.

You know your girlfriend way better than we do, but I'd say that you should tell her about it.

Yes. I am very open sexually, so I do not mind coming right out and saying what I like. But if you'd like to err on the side of caution; making jokes about your fetishes is often a good way to test the waters and gauge one's reaction/opinion before approaching the topic more seriously.

With that being said, since the beginning of my current relationship I have joked & let my partner know that I am attracted to lactating tits + pregnant women in general. Initially, she thought it was a bit weird & gross, but it didn't take her long to come along to accept & embrace it with me.

It's a common thing really, to make light of your fantasies. My partner's into weird shit as well (like pegging). But instead of coming right out and telling me in the beginning of our relationship, she first joked about it to see how I'd react.

I've only told my first girlfriend. It was alright and she tried to share in it with me, like spotting preggos when we were out and watching porn together, for which I really appreciate. But it was also a source of jealousy for her, subconsciously. So I have never told another actual girlfriend (though I have told flings, just because). I don't think I will again until I have my own wife and she actually is pregnant.

I've always told my partners eventually, just because it seems pertinent and I feel weird hiding any part of myself to someone I'm intimate with emotionally. I've never run into a problem with this, but perhaps I've simply been lucky in picking open minded women. For me, friends and romantic partners in general haven't seen it as a big deal. At the end of the day it depends on the kind of relationship you have.

Thank you all for your advice. I think I will tell her no directly, but "lean into it" and make it like a comment in passing when my girl and I talk about our sexual preferences. She is definitely more sensual than I am, so I think that (and when the time is right) I can slowly reveal it to her. Sometimes I feel bad for having this fetish because of how society judges it, but I have come to learn that I like what I like and that as long as I am not imposing on anyone's happiness that there is nothing wrong with it. I also feel better that there is a community of us who share in this fetish. I used to feel alone when I first started developing a fascination of pregnancy at a young age (around age 10 or so).

(May 17, 2020, 6:35 pm)pregaznperfect But it was also a source of jealousy for her, subconsciously.

THIS! Always put this into consideration when you deliberate with yourself on what to share with other people.  What you are telling a partner essentially is "look, I am way into this thing that you will NOT be able to satisfy for me fully except for maybe a few 9-month periods, and during our entire relationship I'll be checking out pregnant women all over the place.  Don't take offense."

Even if you could find enjoyment in having your partner "pretend" or whatever there still is going to be an element to this that, from her perspective, she will be unable to provide whereas there are always going to be other women outside the relationship that do.

Nowadays it seems to be the trend to share everything with everyone, and if you don't share everything you are somehow doing people a disservice.  I'm here to tell you there is plenty about yourself you don't have to share with anyone voluntarily unless you want to.  I'm not talking about only sexual things.  Anything about you or your past can be taken to the grave if you want to.  So don't feel pressured to have to tell your partner everything about you.  You may find yourself railroaded into a situation where you develop significant resentment in your partner to no fault of your own because you felt you needed to do the "right thing," whatever that is.

I've never had a gf, but if I did, I would probably be open with her the first/second time we have sex. Not immediately of course, but just so we can be able to communicate about it without upsetting one another. Because I believe that communication is the key to any good relationship, romantic or platonic.

Last year I was unfortunetly diagnosed with testicle cancer. Well, while it was not the best experience I ever had, I only saw it as an inconvience. Not the end of the world or something. Today, except for having only one testicle, nothing has changed for me.

During the discussions with the doctor the topic of fertility came up multiple times. My soon to be wife has a strong wish to one day getting kids and she told me that she supports me in every way possible and assured me to stay with me no matter what even in the case of infertility (which there was only a minimal risk of). Losing one testicle due to cancer didnt erroded my confidence, in fact quite the opposite because I handled it well and still managed to advance my career during this time. Gave me a new appreciation for what I have.

However, I told her that I was unsure of my manhood because of the loss of the testicle and that I want to do anything to fullfill her wish to have kids. I mentioned that because of the situation I fantasize about getting her pregnant as a confirmation of my manliness and fertility or something. I avoided the assosciation of this fantasy with a general fetish for pregnant women and merely said that seeing her with a big pregnant belly would turn me on.

She was very supportive and said that there is nothing wrong with that and that it is a natural desire. She was reliefed by the knowledge that I will not find her unattractive during pregnancy (an experience her friends made with their partners). Since then she does everything she can to fullfill this fantasy for me (pushing her belly out, bumpjob, pretending and role playing etc.) and even developed a pleasure for this fantasy on her own.


I know this situation is not comparable to most people and I absolutly wish that everyone could be spared of this terrible disease but I am glad something positive came out of this otherwise negative situation.

I met my wife because of this fetish. So I guess she knows.