Don't do it

I told my last gf.  she took it ok..... ish.  She just kind of freeked out that I would be super attracted to every pregnant woman in a 10 mile radius.  Like her sister or her friends if they ever got pregnant :/       .  I will tell my next gf, but I was told by a relationship coah  that next time I should make it personal.  ie  " I love the Idea of YOU being pregnant"  or "The thought of YOU making a life turns me on".   not just "I love all pregnant girls" lol.  But now that I think about it I should have done that for everything.  that is to say, for everything I like.  "I love it when YOU wear YOUR hair in a ponytail" etc etc

If it comes up with my future GF, I will tell her about the way my pregnancy fetish works, i.e. the pregnant body shape is a huge turn on for me but not by itself, it's a plus/"addon" for women I already find attractive/sexy, making them more attractive/sexy.

Don't tell her. I made that mistake twice. Even tho both girls were cool about it, when one of them did indeed become pregnant while I was sleeping her (Not mine, long story), she got very weird about having any kind of sexual activity, even showing her bare belly to me at the 7 to nine month period was a huge no every time I asked.

People with bad experiences telling their partners are almost always going to say that you should never tell. I don't want to invalidate their experiences, and it does suck, but that doesn't mean that keeping that secret is a good idea either. If you had a bad experience then it was either the wrong time in the relationship to tell, or it was simply the wrong person.

(September 26, 2022, 7:52 am)doubleintegral People with bad experiences telling their partners are almost always going to say that you should never tell.  I don't want to invalidate their experiences, and it does suck, but that doesn't mean that keeping that secret is a good idea either.  If you had a bad experience then it was either the wrong time in the relationship to tell, or it was simply the wrong person.

Exactly! If you've got a harmless kink like this, you shouldn't have to hide it or feel ashamed. I can't imagine wanting to stay with someone I'm afraid to talk to...

(September 26, 2022, 7:25 pm)Akhenaten

(September 26, 2022, 7:52 am)doubleintegral People with bad experiences telling their partners are almost always going to say that you should never tell.  I don't want to invalidate their experiences, and it does suck, but that doesn't mean that keeping that secret is a good idea either.  If you had a bad experience then it was either the wrong time in the relationship to tell, or it was simply the wrong person.

Exactly! If you've got a harmless kink like this, you shouldn't have to hide it or feel ashamed. I can't imagine wanting to stay with someone I'm afraid to talk to...

It's also a pretty fucking common one.

I used to be really ashamed about my pregnancy fetish and swore to never tell a soul.

Well, liquor makes for loose lips. First friend I told was a woman in the fetish community. Told me it was a fetish that like, half of the dudes in her circles had. 

Even found out my best friend has the same fetish. He's dating a childfree lady right now, though, so I wonder if he's since changed his mind.

Update: I told her my about the fetish and she seems really excited about it seeing as she hasn’t had a pregnancy where anyone was obsessed with her lol. Hopefully she sticks with it because this might be the time of my life. She even wants carry 1 more time after this. She gets her transfer next week so let hope it sticks and even multiplies!

I'm happy for you, dude Best of luck to the both of you

(September 27, 2022, 11:15 am)Murble

(September 26, 2022, 7:25 pm)Akhenaten

(September 26, 2022, 7:52 am)doubleintegral People with bad experiences telling their partners are almost always going to say that you should never tell.  I don't want to invalidate their experiences, and it does suck, but that doesn't mean that keeping that secret is a good idea either.  If you had a bad experience then it was either the wrong time in the relationship to tell, or it was simply the wrong person.

Exactly! If you've got a harmless kink like this, you shouldn't have to hide it or feel ashamed. I can't imagine wanting to stay with someone I'm afraid to talk to...

It's also a pretty fucking common one.

I used to be really ashamed about my pregnancy fetish and swore to never tell a soul.

Well, liquor makes for loose lips. First friend I told was a woman in the fetish community. Told me it was a fetish that like, half of the dudes in her circles had. 

Even found out my best friend has the same fetish. He's dating a childfree lady right now, though, so I wonder if he's since changed his mind.

I stand proudly with these souls. Embracing the fetish is one of the first steps to having confidence with it. I've had terrible relationships in my life that have made me bitter, sure. But not for sharing the fetish. Its a matter of reading the room, assessing the situation, understanding your significant other before popping the question or spilling the beans.

Have to say I'm a bit jealous. Dating a surrogate is like stumbling on the fountain of youth fresh out of high school.

Had a man telling me his wife was considering being a surrogate and he was mortified by it. I looked him dead in the face and said "I feel like a man dying of thirst watch another man drown."