So, I'm 22 and living completely independent, and my girlfriend is about the same age. We've been a couple for about half a year. Shortly after we started talking, I told her I would absolutely never have kids. Didn't want anything to do with it. I told her I was going to get a vasectomy. Every wannabe mom I've met has sounded like they wanted kids for the attention, without considering the work or health of their baby.
She said that was fine, she didn't mind if we never had kids. So we kept dating. I never connected to anyone like her. We fit together perfectly. We think of each other like we're already family and share everything, including secrets that we both fully expected to take to the grave. We can easily spend six hours just talking and not notice the time.
At some point we decided it'd be fun to stalk each other online. I rifled through her Reddit account, and discovered tons of old plans and comments about getting pregnant. She had names planned before she met me, wanted to be a stay at home mom, and posted about it all the time. Wanting to be pregnant seemed like half her life before she met me.
So, I was pretty surprised and put-out. She hadn't made it sound like a big deal at all. I asked her about it, and she got very quiet and said she had to pick either me, or being a mom, and she picked me. I felt intensely uncomfortable with that answer.
I sat on this information for a few weeks, wondering if we could work out in the long term. One night we were fooling around, and somehow it stopped being erotic (mostly) and turned into a discussion about the biological urgency of finishing inside someone, and evolutionary psychology. She got pretty quiet when I mentioned that I hated condoms, because the whole biological point was finishing inside her. She was thinking that the whole biological point, to her, was making a baby, and she didn't know if she could feel fulfilled otherwise.
I immediately retracted what I said about getting a vasectomy. I told her on the spot that I wouldn't get one, maybe I'd change my mind someday. She asked nervously if I would hate her body if she got pregnant. I admitted that was impossible, as despite the fact that I never wanted kids, I was always turned on by pregnant girls. She flipped out with happiness, and said I was the most loving and amazing person she'd ever met. As soon as the option was "on the table" in her mind, she started talking about it all the time. She was going to do everything organic and natural, she wanted me to protect her and own her while she was pregnant (she's very submissive and I'm very dominant, so that part is pretty normal for us), she already had names picked but wanted my opinion on them, she wished she'd been born in a time when women were expected to get pregnant as often as possible for as long as possible.
I let myself see her side of it, because I wanted to be happy with her forever. I actually got into it, and the more she talked about it, the more I knew she really wanted everything about being a mother, not just the baby shower. Pretty soon I decided that I wouldn't mind having a baby, but only with her, and not unless we got married first. She about melted with happiness when I told her that. Now, she can't wait to get pregnant, and I can't wait to get her pregnant. I think she'll be incredibly beautiful like that, and she's started asking if the first baby goes well, if I would consider getting her pregnant multiple times. She said it both would really turn her on to be pregnant, and that she doesn't want our child to be lonely like she was growing up. Right now, I think the answer is probably yes. I want to get her pregnant as many times as we can handle it, and don't think I'd mind being a father in a few years.
So, I really really hope this relationship lasts! And these things can work out eventually. If you approach an SO with it, you just need to not be pushy, and show you value what they want as well.
She said that was fine, she didn't mind if we never had kids. So we kept dating. I never connected to anyone like her. We fit together perfectly. We think of each other like we're already family and share everything, including secrets that we both fully expected to take to the grave. We can easily spend six hours just talking and not notice the time.
At some point we decided it'd be fun to stalk each other online. I rifled through her Reddit account, and discovered tons of old plans and comments about getting pregnant. She had names planned before she met me, wanted to be a stay at home mom, and posted about it all the time. Wanting to be pregnant seemed like half her life before she met me.
So, I was pretty surprised and put-out. She hadn't made it sound like a big deal at all. I asked her about it, and she got very quiet and said she had to pick either me, or being a mom, and she picked me. I felt intensely uncomfortable with that answer.
I sat on this information for a few weeks, wondering if we could work out in the long term. One night we were fooling around, and somehow it stopped being erotic (mostly) and turned into a discussion about the biological urgency of finishing inside someone, and evolutionary psychology. She got pretty quiet when I mentioned that I hated condoms, because the whole biological point was finishing inside her. She was thinking that the whole biological point, to her, was making a baby, and she didn't know if she could feel fulfilled otherwise.
I immediately retracted what I said about getting a vasectomy. I told her on the spot that I wouldn't get one, maybe I'd change my mind someday. She asked nervously if I would hate her body if she got pregnant. I admitted that was impossible, as despite the fact that I never wanted kids, I was always turned on by pregnant girls. She flipped out with happiness, and said I was the most loving and amazing person she'd ever met. As soon as the option was "on the table" in her mind, she started talking about it all the time. She was going to do everything organic and natural, she wanted me to protect her and own her while she was pregnant (she's very submissive and I'm very dominant, so that part is pretty normal for us), she already had names picked but wanted my opinion on them, she wished she'd been born in a time when women were expected to get pregnant as often as possible for as long as possible.
I let myself see her side of it, because I wanted to be happy with her forever. I actually got into it, and the more she talked about it, the more I knew she really wanted everything about being a mother, not just the baby shower. Pretty soon I decided that I wouldn't mind having a baby, but only with her, and not unless we got married first. She about melted with happiness when I told her that. Now, she can't wait to get pregnant, and I can't wait to get her pregnant. I think she'll be incredibly beautiful like that, and she's started asking if the first baby goes well, if I would consider getting her pregnant multiple times. She said it both would really turn her on to be pregnant, and that she doesn't want our child to be lonely like she was growing up. Right now, I think the answer is probably yes. I want to get her pregnant as many times as we can handle it, and don't think I'd mind being a father in a few years.
So, I really really hope this relationship lasts! And these things can work out eventually. If you approach an SO with it, you just need to not be pushy, and show you value what they want as well.
you can have so much fun together if you both go explore something really beautiful together! And if she really whants to get pregnant i think most woman will do it one way or an other. 
