So there's this pregnant camgirl (I won't mention her name) and we've done a couple shows before. She's not one of those girls that does it full time though, just on the side to make some extra cash. However, we went into this one show and nothing even happened. We just started talking, and kept talking until my limit was up. There seems to be a genuine connection here as we have a ton in common. We even broke all the protocols in the book and exchanged contact information and we text occasionally now. That is extremely rare for someone in their position to do.

She's definitely one of those pregnant women who is totally focused on the baby, and even though she's said she loves talking to me, that will come first. I totally understand that though and I like talking to her and will continue to do so. 

However, I've got that sinking feeling in my stomach that I'm being used. The best way to actually sit down and talk with her is by going into a show, which obviously can get expensive. We don't do anything in those shows either and I've told her that I would feel weird if we did, that it would be disrespectful. She says that she totally gets it and that when you're chatting someone up you don't want to do anything sexual that could ruin it. So I'm essentially paying a good chunk of money to continue to get to know her, because she's not super responsive over text because of the pregnancy. 

Most of us have experience with pregnant women and camgirls, so I wanted to ask for any advice. This isn't a dilemma i can go to the people in my life with either, as there would be judgement. There's a connection, so do I continue to slowly pursue it? Or do I come to the conclusion she's using me and cut ties?

Definitelly using you for money.

(September 19, 2020, 4:14 pm)BumpHunter Definitelly using you for money.

I'm still unsure. She doesn't seem like that type of gal...

Why not just try asking her?

I did this twice with camgirls, and met up both times!

(September 19, 2020, 4:34 pm)Feunski Why not just try asking her?

I think that's probably what will end up happening.

Either way, camming is what she does to make money right now because of covid and her field being shut down, so I'm helping a mom in need even if I'm being used.

(September 19, 2020, 3:47 pm)HappyHats002 Most of us have experience with pregnant women and camgirls, so I wanted to ask for any advice. This isn't a dilemma i can go to the people in my life with either, as there would be judgement. There's a connection, so do I continue to slowly pursue it? Or do I come to the conclusion she's using me and cut ties?

First thing you need to do is set a boundary for your wallet. While social connections are always great, you shouldn't have to pay just to talk to her. I doubt there is any plans for you two to pursue and real life plans. Separate tipping and cam shows for strictly sexy time. Pay only when you get something out of it. Theres lots of free ways to talk to someone. Public chat, KIK, texting, whatever. If you guys do have a REAL connection then it shouldnt be based on you spending REAL money.

I feel this is where a lot of the "simping" comes from. If she has guys paying just to be noticed, she starts expecting that and might want more just to show her body off. Where does it end? I do hope that's not the case but itd be better for you to politely inquire about some financial flexibility for base level conversation. Dont get caught in a trap.

(September 19, 2020, 6:44 pm)tomostrife

(September 19, 2020, 3:47 pm)HappyHats002 Most of us have experience with pregnant women and camgirls, so I wanted to ask for any advice. This isn't a dilemma i can go to the people in my life with either, as there would be judgement. There's a connection, so do I continue to slowly pursue it? Or do I come to the conclusion she's using me and cut ties?

First thing you need to do is set a boundary for your wallet. While social connections are always great, you shouldn't have to pay just to talk to her. I doubt there is any plans for you two to pursue and real life plans. Separate tipping and cam shows for strictly sexy time. Pay only when you get something out of it. Theres lots of free ways to talk to someone. Public chat, KIK, texting, whatever. If you guys do have a REAL connection then it shouldnt be based on you spending REAL money.

I feel this is where a lot of the "simping" comes from. If she has guys paying just to be noticed, she starts expecting that and might want more just to show her body off. Where does it end? I do hope that's not the case but itd be better for you to politely inquire about some financial flexibility for base level conversation. Dont get caught in a trap.

We ended up discussing it and she said I don’t need to pay her in order to talk to her, which wasn’t happening in the first place but still we went over that. I’m no simp, and I’ll bounce the minute I feel I’m being used for money.

she actually got a little offended when I said maybe things were a bit one sided in terms of interest in talking outside of the camsite. So I think there’s definitely something intriguing going on here, I don’t think it’s all about money, but she’s also in a tough stage in life, like a lot of single moms to be.

Listen to tomo bro hes got it right

(September 19, 2020, 3:47 pm)HappyHats002 The best way to actually sit down and talk with her is by going into a show, which obviously can get expensive. We don't do anything in those shows either and I've told her that I would feel weird if we did, that it would be disrespectful. She says that she totally gets it and that when you're chatting someone up you don't want to do anything sexual that could ruin it. So I'm essentially paying a good chunk of money to continue to get to know her, because she's not super responsive over text because of the pregnancy. 

This is an ENORMOUS red flag.  If she isn't making the time to chat with you except in cam shows, she sees you as little more than a revenue source.  Maybe a bit more, because she shared her number with you, although that could very well be a burner number.

Also, not doing things "because of the pregnancy" is not really a thing.  Pregnant women still do many of the things while pregnant that they did before getting pregnant, and they blame the pregnancy when they don't want to do something bad enough.  It's the pregnancy equivalent of "I can't go on a date Saturday night, I have to wash my hair." If she wanted to text with you a lot, she'd text with you a lot.

If she starts asking you offline for money, even if it's for baby things or whatever, get the fuck outta there.

OR - and this may be the most painful possibility - maybe her intentions are indeed good and she's simply not as into you as you are into her, and she's waiting for you to make the realization yourself.