(September 21, 2020, 8:38 pm)doubleintegral

(September 19, 2020, 3:47 pm)HappyHats002 The best way to actually sit down and talk with her is by going into a show, which obviously can get expensive. We don't do anything in those shows either and I've told her that I would feel weird if we did, that it would be disrespectful. She says that she totally gets it and that when you're chatting someone up you don't want to do anything sexual that could ruin it. So I'm essentially paying a good chunk of money to continue to get to know her, because she's not super responsive over text because of the pregnancy. 

This is an ENORMOUS red flag.  If she isn't making the time to chat with you except in cam shows, she sees you as little more than a revenue source.  Maybe a bit more, because she shared her number with you, although that could very well be a burner number.

Also, not doing things "because of the pregnancy" is not really a thing.  Pregnant women still do many of the things while pregnant that they did before getting pregnant, and they blame the pregnancy when they don't want to do something bad enough.  It's the pregnancy equivalent of "I can't go on a date Saturday night, I have to wash my hair."  If she wanted to text with you a lot, she'd text with you a lot.

If she starts asking you offline for money, even if it's for baby things or whatever, get the fuck outta there.

OR - and this may be the most painful possibility - maybe her intentions are indeed good and she's simply not as into you as you are into her, and she's waiting for you to make the realization yourself.

I agree 100%

Nothing seems to be coming of it.

She's a very sweet lady, and while part of me regrets spending a good chunk of change on shows, the other part of me is glad to have helped out an expectant mother who doesn't have another source of income outside of camming. We haven't spoken in a couple days, this is really a gal who is 100% focused on her baby and nothing else and that's totally fine. I wasn't thinking we were going to get married or anything, I was just interested in getting to know her a bit. Now we go our separate ways.

I appreciate all the advice you guys.

It confuses me that women (not just pregnant ones) skip from guy to guy when it's clear they've found someone who's ready to pretty much open his wallet and take care of her as long as she doesn't flake out. I've been seeing this SOOOO damn much since I started looking into sugar babies (including pregnant ones). They just don't seem all that smart. Maybe I'm missing something, or maybe that comes with the territory. I don't know. But that flaky behavior -- what you just experienced -- is 100% textbook.

Chaturbate is not the place to find a girl who will love you for the right reasons. Chaturbate is a business. The only relationships that exist there are provider/client. All the CB girls see are user profile names. To them, that's all we are, a source for tokens which equals money. No matter how nice a girl may seem on the surface inside she has only one goal, to survive by any means possible and she will use whatever tools she can to accomplish this goal. Females are wired that way. We get so blinded by our built-in desire to care for women and our strong sexual attraction to them we often don't see their female manipulation tactics. Once a girl can successfully make a guy feel he is special to her she has him in her grasp.

DON"T FALL FOR THIS OBVIOUS TRAP.

She is going to start asking you for money offline suggesting you send it Western Union. I had a similar experience with a Chaturbate cam girl. First, it was tokens, then she started asking for money offline to buy food claiming her boss was taking everything she earned on Chaturbate. She was so nice in the beginning. She said all the sweet things. Made me feel like I had some sort of meaningful connection with her. She gave me her phone number and we started texting each other via Kik. When the offline money requests started I cut ties with her. I knew what she was attempting to do.

(September 24, 2020, 6:56 pm)HappyHats002 Nothing seems to be coming of it.

She's a very sweet lady, and while part of me regrets spending a good chunk of change on shows, the other part of me is glad to have helped out an expectant mother who doesn't have another source of income outside of camming. We haven't spoken in a couple days, this is really a gal who is 100% focused on her baby and nothing else and that's totally fine. I wasn't thinking we were going to get married or anything, I was just interested in getting to know her a bit. Now we go our separate ways.

I appreciate all the advice you guys.

 When she saw you were spending as you say "a good chunk of change" on her shows that's when she realized she needed to keep you attached to her. I'm glad you survived this encounter without getting taken for a ride. Just be more careful should you find yourself in another one of these situations with a cam girl.

(September 24, 2020, 9:50 pm)LTKNT101

(September 24, 2020, 6:56 pm)HappyHats002 Nothing seems to be coming of it.

She's a very sweet lady, and while part of me regrets spending a good chunk of change on shows, the other part of me is glad to have helped out an expectant mother who doesn't have another source of income outside of camming. We haven't spoken in a couple days, this is really a gal who is 100% focused on her baby and nothing else and that's totally fine. I wasn't thinking we were going to get married or anything, I was just interested in getting to know her a bit. Now we go our separate ways.

I appreciate all the advice you guys.

 When she saw you were spending as you say "a good chunk of change" on her shows that's when she realized she needed to keep you attached to her. I'm glad you survived this encounter without getting taken for a ride. Just be more careful should you find yourself in another one of these situations with a cam girl.

Ah, but we exchanged numbers before I spent too much money on her. If she wanted to keep me attached, she would’ve tried harder and she didn’t. It also wasn’t Chaturbate, not that that really matters.

Trust me, I’ve experienced the cam girls that want nothing but cash, she was actually a nice person and wasn’t trying to fleece anyone. She never asked for a single cent off cam. I have nothing but good things to say about her.

(September 24, 2020, 9:13 pm)Akhenaten It confuses me that women (not just pregnant ones) skip from guy to guy when it's clear they've found someone who's ready to pretty much open his wallet and take care of her as long as she doesn't flake out. I've been seeing this SOOOO damn much since I started looking into sugar babies (including pregnant ones). They just don't seem all that smart. Maybe I'm missing something, or maybe that comes with the territory. I don't know. But that flaky behavior -- what you just experienced -- is 100% textbook.

Maybe... just maybe... it isn't always about the money.

(September 25, 2020, 1:14 am)HappyHats002

(September 24, 2020, 9:50 pm)LTKNT101

(September 24, 2020, 6:56 pm)HappyHats002 Nothing seems to be coming of it.

She's a very sweet lady, and while part of me regrets spending a good chunk of change on shows, the other part of me is glad to have helped out an expectant mother who doesn't have another source of income outside of camming. We haven't spoken in a couple days, this is really a gal who is 100% focused on her baby and nothing else and that's totally fine. I wasn't thinking we were going to get married or anything, I was just interested in getting to know her a bit. Now we go our separate ways.

I appreciate all the advice you guys.

 When she saw you were spending as you say "a good chunk of change" on her shows that's when she realized she needed to keep you attached to her. I'm glad you survived this encounter without getting taken for a ride. Just be more careful should you find yourself in another one of these situations with a cam girl.

Ah, but we exchanged numbers before I spent too much money on her. If she wanted to keep me attached, she would’ve tried harder and she didn’t. It also wasn’t Chaturbate, not that that really matters.

Trust me, I’ve experienced the cam girls that want nothing but cash, she was actually a nice person and wasn’t trying to fleece anyone. She never asked for a single cent off cam. I have nothing but good things to say about her.

 Great, however girls that fit your description of her are in the minority. Most of the time the way to a woman's heart is through your wallet. Give her any sign that you have a lot of cash to burn and she'll become a clinger.

(September 25, 2020, 10:51 am)doubleintegral

(September 24, 2020, 9:13 pm)Akhenaten It confuses me that women (not just pregnant ones) skip from guy to guy when it's clear they've found someone who's ready to pretty much open his wallet and take care of her as long as she doesn't flake out. I've been seeing this SOOOO damn much since I started looking into sugar babies (including pregnant ones). They just don't seem all that smart. Maybe I'm missing something, or maybe that comes with the territory. I don't know. But that flaky behavior -- what you just experienced -- is 100% textbook.

Maybe... just maybe... it isn't always about the money.

In the arrangement world, it is. Of course there are the other basic concerns like safety and whatnot, but I'm talking about women who are strictly looking to find a way to supplement their income. Within that context, it's explicitly about the money -- which is what makes the flaky behavior so confusing. That said, even before I started looking into arrangements, pregnant women were total flakes either way. So who knows.

(September 25, 2020, 2:29 pm)Akhenaten That said, even before I started looking into arrangements, pregnant women were total flakes either way. 

I’ve known many women that weren’t pregnant who were flakes. I don’t think this is limited to preggos.