I was at a local franchise restaurant and saw her walk in and wanted to talk to her. She was alone and kept looking to see if she had a ring on. Not a fan on hitting on a married woman. I know this presents a big disadvantage for hitting on pregnant women but I stand by my morals. She didn't have a ring and looked to be around 6 months pregnant. She was well dressed and slightly heavy, like past the freshman build if you know what I mean. She came alone and I honestly felt bad she was eating alone. It was raining outside and I was close to ready to head home. So I thought, if it goes bad I don't have any reason to stay so I can avoid awkwardness. I packed all my stuff to go use the restroom and walked towards her and paused for a moment to gather my thoughts. Since pregnancy is something I'm very attracted to, it gave me a chance to calm down. I had worked out earlier that day and was worried I might appear shaky. I don’t know if some girls think it’s cute if you’re a little nervous at first. Figured it might demonstrate some restraint and respect as to not be too bold. Anyways, it was raining and that gave me an idea.
I approached her and said “I know this seems random but I thought, what’s a cute girl like you eating by herself. I don’t want to intrude but may I sit and talk with you while you eat.” It felt really natural and we both smiled while we chatted. She seemed taken back but said yea but I’m almost finished. I looked at her food and she was only about halfway done eating. She said she’s more of a loner and that her friends from work always ask if she wants to go out to eat and she turns them down. I mentioned that I was waiting for the rain to settle down before heading out to my car (my way out). Then she said that she was married and pregnant. I thought “no shit you’re pregnant but why no ring?” I moved on from that and asked her what she did for a living while standing next to her table. She said she was a student in broadcasting not too far away. She mentioned the name of her school but I will leave that out for privacy. She was still very pleasant, couldn’t tell if she was being polite, curious, or genuinely intrigued. She was obviously glowing and her smile just capitalized on all of it. I introduced myself and she told me her name. I’m bad at remembering if I’m focused on the conversation and I’m not sure if I remember her name. I shared that I was a student as well and talked about where my future career was going and how close I am to working. When she mentioned broadcasting I said “Oh you’re going into tv journalism.” Then she laughed and said she’s not tv material because she gets nervous and would probably stutter. I said that’s actually favorable because …loss of adjective.. like it’s character, part of a personality that the audience would think was cute. No need to feel self conscious about it. It could actually make you a better fit. She laughed. And I asked if she’s from (where we were). She said yup, born and raised. She said she would never leave the state she’s from. I mentioned the state I was from and how I moved her about a decade ago. The more we talked, the more relaxed she seemed in the conversation. At this point her phone started to go off and I glanced at what looked like a picture of a baby showed up. I felt confident I could have continued the conversation and it would have been friend. Never mentioned her being pregnant because it puts women in a weird situation. I don’t want them to think I’m after them just because she’s pregnant. No woman wants to be ditched after birth and I wanted to be genuine showing interest in her as a person. If I would have been serious on this approach I would have continued as such. I looked up and the rain had died down. I reiterated that I didn’t want to intrude but that I was glad I had a chance to talk to her and we said our salutations.
The whole experience was elating. I felt great that I had the confidence to approach, talk to her and that it wasn’t weird. I’ve alway felt intimidated approaching pregnant females but non-pregnant haven’t ever been a problem. About 3 years ago I approached another pregnant woman (ironically at the same franchise but at a different location. It seems a lot of pregnant women eat here). That previous time she sat right behind me and even though she was married I wanted to see if I could at least practice opening up a conversation. That woman was a marital counsellor and she asked me “do you always start talking to random women (might have said pregnant women). I made something up tangible to the situation that wasn’t off putting like she seemed like a person who’d be cool to talk to. I probably should have mentioned I thought she was attractive but I knew I wouldn’t get anywhere with that. Sometimes I wonder if pregnant women enjoy the attention. At least that’s something I feel makes it easier to talk to them.
I would never try and touch belly or focus too much on the pregnancy until I knew there was mutual attraction and we were comfortable being intimate ( simply being close, like cuddling etc.)
With the girl today, I had plenty to talk about and if the conversation went further into dating and mutual attraction, I’d go the route of explaining my situation. I’ve grown up around pregnant women and always wanted o have a family, but I’ve had to put off starting my own for so long in the pursuit of my career that wanted to get started as soon as possible now that I’m able to provide for a family. In my conversations with other potentials online and texting, that’s always been my go to. And it’s the honest truth. I’ve alway felt it to be a noble venture to be a father figure for a single pregnant woman. Instinctually, women want that if they find the right guy. Even if it wasn’t mine, I’d still treat him or her as so because it was a part of her.
Anyways. I digress. Please don’t take this plea as grandiosity as I felt privileged just to admire her and her beauty. Part of me wishes I would have stayed longer because the only time her facial expression seemed off was when I first started talking to her. Maybe she said she was married because she didn’t know me and that she might have been dating a guy who may or may not have been in the picture. But my confidence in approaching women like her was fine. It’s a numbers game on approaches and each one could be completely different. Nothing would please me more than walking away from a similar situation and having an ongoing text conversation were we could explore each other more. It’s so exciting getting to know women like her, and in this situation it’s a fantasy. But maybe I’ll see her there again another time and we can catch up if she’s open to it. Thanks for your insights.
I approached her and said “I know this seems random but I thought, what’s a cute girl like you eating by herself. I don’t want to intrude but may I sit and talk with you while you eat.” It felt really natural and we both smiled while we chatted. She seemed taken back but said yea but I’m almost finished. I looked at her food and she was only about halfway done eating. She said she’s more of a loner and that her friends from work always ask if she wants to go out to eat and she turns them down. I mentioned that I was waiting for the rain to settle down before heading out to my car (my way out). Then she said that she was married and pregnant. I thought “no shit you’re pregnant but why no ring?” I moved on from that and asked her what she did for a living while standing next to her table. She said she was a student in broadcasting not too far away. She mentioned the name of her school but I will leave that out for privacy. She was still very pleasant, couldn’t tell if she was being polite, curious, or genuinely intrigued. She was obviously glowing and her smile just capitalized on all of it. I introduced myself and she told me her name. I’m bad at remembering if I’m focused on the conversation and I’m not sure if I remember her name. I shared that I was a student as well and talked about where my future career was going and how close I am to working. When she mentioned broadcasting I said “Oh you’re going into tv journalism.” Then she laughed and said she’s not tv material because she gets nervous and would probably stutter. I said that’s actually favorable because …loss of adjective.. like it’s character, part of a personality that the audience would think was cute. No need to feel self conscious about it. It could actually make you a better fit. She laughed. And I asked if she’s from (where we were). She said yup, born and raised. She said she would never leave the state she’s from. I mentioned the state I was from and how I moved her about a decade ago. The more we talked, the more relaxed she seemed in the conversation. At this point her phone started to go off and I glanced at what looked like a picture of a baby showed up. I felt confident I could have continued the conversation and it would have been friend. Never mentioned her being pregnant because it puts women in a weird situation. I don’t want them to think I’m after them just because she’s pregnant. No woman wants to be ditched after birth and I wanted to be genuine showing interest in her as a person. If I would have been serious on this approach I would have continued as such. I looked up and the rain had died down. I reiterated that I didn’t want to intrude but that I was glad I had a chance to talk to her and we said our salutations.
The whole experience was elating. I felt great that I had the confidence to approach, talk to her and that it wasn’t weird. I’ve alway felt intimidated approaching pregnant females but non-pregnant haven’t ever been a problem. About 3 years ago I approached another pregnant woman (ironically at the same franchise but at a different location. It seems a lot of pregnant women eat here). That previous time she sat right behind me and even though she was married I wanted to see if I could at least practice opening up a conversation. That woman was a marital counsellor and she asked me “do you always start talking to random women (might have said pregnant women). I made something up tangible to the situation that wasn’t off putting like she seemed like a person who’d be cool to talk to. I probably should have mentioned I thought she was attractive but I knew I wouldn’t get anywhere with that. Sometimes I wonder if pregnant women enjoy the attention. At least that’s something I feel makes it easier to talk to them.
I would never try and touch belly or focus too much on the pregnancy until I knew there was mutual attraction and we were comfortable being intimate ( simply being close, like cuddling etc.)
With the girl today, I had plenty to talk about and if the conversation went further into dating and mutual attraction, I’d go the route of explaining my situation. I’ve grown up around pregnant women and always wanted o have a family, but I’ve had to put off starting my own for so long in the pursuit of my career that wanted to get started as soon as possible now that I’m able to provide for a family. In my conversations with other potentials online and texting, that’s always been my go to. And it’s the honest truth. I’ve alway felt it to be a noble venture to be a father figure for a single pregnant woman. Instinctually, women want that if they find the right guy. Even if it wasn’t mine, I’d still treat him or her as so because it was a part of her.
Anyways. I digress. Please don’t take this plea as grandiosity as I felt privileged just to admire her and her beauty. Part of me wishes I would have stayed longer because the only time her facial expression seemed off was when I first started talking to her. Maybe she said she was married because she didn’t know me and that she might have been dating a guy who may or may not have been in the picture. But my confidence in approaching women like her was fine. It’s a numbers game on approaches and each one could be completely different. Nothing would please me more than walking away from a similar situation and having an ongoing text conversation were we could explore each other more. It’s so exciting getting to know women like her, and in this situation it’s a fantasy. But maybe I’ll see her there again another time and we can catch up if she’s open to it. Thanks for your insights.
