I'm looking for an old game that you had to get the coder thing just to play.  You enter this VR, into a bedroom...and every time you died you turned more and more into a woman... 
And you went around a dungeon with traps and other things...  and you could get pregnant... There's cursed clothing too....  Energy drink cans...  

I did do a quick search here for "games" but didn't see it.

I believe Trap quest is what you're looking for. trapquest.com is their blog where they got the current public and private builds, plus more.