There is a new girl who started at my work around 6 months ago.  She has recently put on a little weight, giving her a nice soft belly bulge that looks like very early pregnancy.

Of course, I can't just walk up to her and say "Hey, you're fupa is super cute because it looks like a starting belly.  Do you want to get coffee sometime?"

And then to top if off; I can't complain to anyone else I know because I tried revealing to a group of friends once that I found pregnant bellies sexy, and learned to never do that again.

So yeah.  Just frustrated in more ways than one, and just needed to vent to the only group of people I could think of.

Sorry.

I know what you mean. Im a groomsman in a wedding tomorrow and I just found out today at the rehearsal that the bridesmaid im walking down the aisle with is preggo so i have to try really hard not to be a creep. My fiance who knows about my fetish will be there too so i am going to be super akward if we have to dance together or something.. Luckily she's not too big yet so i won't be unbearable but its still just wierd.

I feel like it would be pretty manageable if it wasn't for the fact I told my mom I had the fetish when I was like 9-10 where she then told the entirety of my family for whatever reason. I can handle not being a creep and controlling myself, its just the awkwardness of knowing my family knows, like if someone in the family gets pregnant I try not to see them until their pregnancies ends just in case me being around them makes them uncomfortable.

from my experience and from other people online NEVER tell anyone about your fetish, if I could go back I would.

I don't think it's the fetish that's the problem but rather how society has structured it.

In a more sex-positive society, you could theoretically hook up with anyone over the weirdest fetishes.

I once had a girl tell me that she found my wrists to be very attractive.

It's all on a sliding scale, the more you try to hide something the more you're going to stress over it, but oversharing can be bad also. You have to find the right balance that you are comfortable with, I don't hide anything with friends and family but keep a lid on things in a work situation.

Yeah, you just learn to live with it. I applaud the guy who told his fiancé. Maybe she was okay with it or not initially, but she'll have time to get used to the idea. She'd find out eventually anyway and maybe they can include it in their sex life.

The more casual and "normal" you act about it, the less awkward it will be. If you act like it's a huge embarrassing secret, then people will treat it that way.

By why the urgent need to share? Keep it between partners, not much profit in sharing those details unless you are flirting.

I also dated a girl who was into wrists. Weird, but who an I to judge?...

I dated one who wanted to smell my armpits. Like she was REALLY into that. Not my thing, but as others have said: who am I to judge?

(October 30, 2021, 7:58 am)laurelindoriath The more casual and "normal" you act about it, the less awkward it will be.  If you act like it's a huge embarrassing secret, then people will treat it that way.

By why the urgent need to share?  Keep it between partners, not much profit in sharing those details unless you are flirting.

Because I am a chronic oversharer and am possessed with this stupid unshakeable belief that if I don't tell you EVER SINGLE DETAIL you won't fully understand the situation like I do.  And since I know it is suicide to share with the people in my life, here I am.

case in point, this reply.

That and I don't trust myself to not overshare as I approach said female haha.