(May 11, 2016, 12:20 pm)lovebellies707

(May 11, 2016, 1:27 am)rottentomatoes2003

(May 10, 2016, 7:23 pm)lovebellies707 i can relate here i not told my mother i'm into pregnancy or fetish and hi vintagechick i'm not sure what say

The hell?

none my family does not know and like keep that way but they know ii like a girlfriend or women in my life this my private life

Yeah, not my point.

Hi Vintagechick, I struggled telling my GF for a long time. When I did build up the courage to tell her she wasn't too keen on much role-play or to help me with it but she didn't judge and it was good to get it out there. PM me if you want any more advice....

Definitely tell him! I'm surprised you've made it 3 years without letting it slip or trying to hint at it already haha. I think if you don't tell him, in the longer run you'll end up feeling unhappy by not sharing all aspects of yourself, especially one tied to sexuality which is an important part of any relationship.

*and as for how to actually tell him, you could start by hinting at it - maybe remarking about a pregnant woman you see next time you guys are out together, or in a show or movie you're watching. Try saying something like "wow look at her. I know we both agree we don't want kids, but there's something kinda cute about big pregnant bellies." See how he reacts to that statement, and then build on it. If he laughs and agrees, you might take a moment to say, "well actually I have something that I've never told you..." and just kind of unload it out there all at once. If he reacts poorly to the initial prompt, or you just feel too nervous, maybe wait till you're in a more personal space with each other later on, like laying in bed or on the couch - casually say, "the reason I pointed out that pregnant woman earlier is because I actually have an attraction to it..." You can wait to see what kinds of things he asks and and how he responds before going into the explanation about it being a fetish (if that's what you consider it).

Honestly I feel like if you've been together that long, he probably cares about you either way and won't mind this, in fact his biggest question may be about why it took so long for you to tell him. It sounds simple, but I'd follow the most honest path through telling him all of this, and it should work out fine! I've told a few of my past girlfriends, and usually I do it using some version of this method. It typically works out well. Sometimes they have lots of questions and sometimes none, and if they have none, it's up to you to explain a little more so that you aren't underselling this big reveal. The worst outcome is when you tell them and they don't understand what a big deal it is, and then it kind of fizzles into nothing. If you're up front and explain what a big part of your sexual identity it is, then there is potential to have some real fun exploring that together in your guys' future!

Good luck, and let us know how it goes!

i let my mom know about i like pregnant fetish and she is happy with it and i'm so happy get off my mind and hope boyfriend okay with it too good luck

I don't think he would break up with you for what you like sexually, so tell, the worst he can say is he's a bit unconformable with it, but he should still love you!

Hi VintageChick and welcome to the forum.

My opinion? It's not something I'd personally come out and tell him out of the blue. Perhaps drop a few subtle hints at first... Maybe prompt a conversation on fetishes - that kind of thing. Maybe something along the lines of "You know we don't want children, right... Ironically, I have this 'weird' fetish...!" and take it from there. Firstly assurance about not wanting children, incase he takes it the wrong way, then something like that... It’s just an idea...

If it's dropped in softly enough, I can't really see him having any real issue. Maybe confusion at first as I know our fetish is still seen as bizarre or something more sinister. It's just something we have to deal with, unfortunately...

For instance, if I ever had a girlfriend who told me something like that, I'd think I'd hit the jackpot! I'd immediately open up about my own belly expansion/pregnancy fetish. I'd be very enthusiastic about it!

Indeed, please keep us informed if you do decide to open up to him!

Three years? Man. I tell partners pretty much out of the gate because it's a big part of my sexuality (and because I hate secrets).

As long as you make it clear that it doesn't mean you want kids and that you aren't expecting him to get involved -- that it's just something that makes you horny and happy -- tell him. If he's a good partner, he won't judge you for it. If he does judge you, you've learned something pretty important.

I have to agree with the telling him.
Though I say that as someone who was in a relationship for 3.8 years and never told her. Part of why I felt I shouldn't is we also didn't want kids; we were both student and grad student, neither really liking kids, especially babies (though I think she may have been more fond of kids than I, and she definitely did like kids once they began showing their own personalities and traits; then they become interesting)...
I guess I was lucky though: My attraction is general enough that cute round bellies attract me in general (though the basis is in the pregnancy fetish), and she had a cute round belly (though not pregnant, just adorable chub) ^.^ By the time she decided she didn't want the belly and decided to get rid of it, I had become so attracted to all her other properties that even the lack of a belly became entirely a non-issue. And the rest I could just fantasize and be fine.
That, though, is part of why I agree with the 'tell him'. If you've been together for so long, it's extremely likely that he loves you so much that even if he doesn't share the fetish, it won't even phase him, and he will likely be willing to play along. In my case, the one fetish-stimming physical feature she had she decided to get rid of, but the love was beyond that.
Also, she eventually decided against choosing me, but it was literally just about the only thing I kept from her the entire time, and I still feel to this day (4 years post break-up) guilty that I did. She was super accepting, so I think she would've been just fine with it. Don't let guilt and self-doubt happen to you: tell the guy. Albeit in your own way, of course.

Sorry, guess I necroed. Forgivith me the newbie, for I have sinned...

(July 29, 2016, 7:32 pm)Pickerel Sorry, guess I necroed. Forgivith me the newbie, for I have sinned...

It's not really a bad one though(only a few months) and you shared your experience so, you're forgiven.