Pregnancy Fetish and Real-world relationships

[orta03]

Rogue, sorry to hear about your divorce. I hope you're doing better these days?

[thehucow]

I would like to congratulate you on your freedom. I am only 30 and I am on my second marriage and the happiest I have ever been. I don't want to go into details, but my old marriage just didn't work, was mildly abusive, sexless and very controling. I am so much happier now married to somebody who really was ment for me. You might not find someone who is exactly right for you straight away, I didn't at first (had fun along the way), but now I am expecting my 3rd child (second with my second wife, her 4th) and things are great. I dont really think of her as my second wife, but just put that in there so you realise I had one before and two with her.

My experience of pregnancy with my ex was what I would consider sexless, as was my now wifes two experiences with her ex after the second trimester. Sex with my wife during pregnancy has, last time, been mind blowing and Iz am sure it will be this pregnancy. She has even been looking for guys and couples wanting 'fun' or sex this time around. We bump spot together and she thinks its great I like pregnant women.

As for worrying that society will see you as a pervert, your desires arent hurting anybody and are probably the most natural out there. We are in a society where its ok to like feet, BDSM, be homosexual, bisexual, like big girls or whatever, its just pregnancy isnt out there as much yet. Be yourself, find happiness and look after the child you have, thats the main thing thats important.

[Akhenaten]

I went through a similar-ish hell and in my case, I came out of it much better off than I was before. Took a while, but yeah.

You and I are about the same age, rogueangel007. I was married for about 7 years. She divorced me 2 years ago. Supposedly we grew apart, but she married her boss of 2 years a little over a year after the divorce. So whatever. I had told her about my fetish early on, and she didn't really bat an eye at it. Even indulged me a little. We never had kids. Thing is, we were super monogamous, so that meant I had to get all my kicks from her or from porn... which is fine, but it would have been nice to have had the opportunity to explore a little more.

My new girlfriend (well, she's not all that new anymore, we met last year) and I are in an open relationship. I told her about my fetish early on, as well, and she was fine with it. Like my ex-wife, she's not into it, but still happy to indulge me a little. The difference this time around is that I also have the all-clear to meet and date pregnant women... which I have been doing with what I suppose you could call some success. That was something I knew I needed in my life because not having it made me very unhappy. Oh, and like you, I enjoy young women for the same reasons -- don't ever let anyone make you feel bad for letting your natural instincts dictate that. My girlfriend is a decade younger than my ex-wife. Wow. And after the whole marriage/divorce experience, I resolved that the institution of marriage is definitely not for me. I'm not signing up for that shit ever again, and I don't advise that anyone else do it, either. It's lost its place in our society.

I'm sure your relationship issues are much deeper and more complicated than "she didn't like my fetish," but with regard to that one in particular... you're so much better off, man. Look... we all have our own reasons for liking them, and some of us feel it more intensely than others, but all of us here love pregnant women to some degree. If it's a big part of your sexuality, then it's a big part of you, and I don't think it's okay for your partner to tell you it's bad, to make you feel guilty for it, or to ask you to stop. We can't do that any more than gay people can stop being gay. If your partner can't accept you for who you are -- as opposed to not wanting to participate, which is unfortunate but acceptable -- then that's a canary in the coalmine of your relationship.

You've probably heard it a million times by now from all manner of people, so let the eye-rolling commence: but it will get better with time. And if you're fortunate, like I have somehow been, you'll end up wishing that divorce had happened sooner so you could have started living sooner!

[CMan2]

Akhenaten, I've always enjoyed reading your thoughtful replies throughout the years.