Once in a lifetime chance should I do it

Gr4vity400 · (3)

Don't do it. Not good for you or the child. You'll live with guilt forever.

Akhenaten · (3432)

(January 7, 2020, 10:15 pm)Gr4vity400 Don't do it. Not good for you or the child. You'll live with guilt forever.

Maybe you would, but not everyone sees things that way.

WallsD · (310)

I just won't do it. Got me scared now lol

Lucifer Morningstar · (1245)

It’s definitely not something you should take lightly just to get a chance of getting some pregnancy content. That’s a direct biological descendent, and the eyes of the law would see it that way if you used traditional insemination. There’s just too much risk here for you. They could be decent people and not call up child support payments 18 years from now, or they might slam you for it.

You wouldn’t be able to tell if they would. People can get desperate for money sometimes. And free money is what motivates people to do shitty things like that.

I would not do it. No amount of pregnancy content is worth massive sums of money for child support, or even the child since you won’t be the parent. Who knows if you’d actually meet the kid? I’d be too attached, personally. That’s why I’ll wait and see what happens, like if I get married and finally settle down in the future.

However you decide, best of luck @WallsD .

Once again if you need more advice, don’t hesitate to post again in the thread or PM one of us. We’d be happy to help you.

belliesrlovely · (3135)

(January 7, 2020, 8:33 pm)WallsD I have been offered the chance to get a lesbian couple pregnant and I only gave them one request, which was to get videos and pictures of one of them throughout the whole pregnancy and they agreed.should I do it?

Do they know what you're using the videos for?

Lucifer Morningstar · (1245)

(January 8, 2020, 11:16 am)belliesrlovely
(January 7, 2020, 8:33 pm)WallsD I have been offered the chance to get a lesbian couple pregnant and I only gave them one request, which was to get videos and pictures of one of them throughout the whole pregnancy and they agreed.should I do it?

Do they know what you're using the videos for?

I’m assuming if they let him knock one of them up traditionally, then yeah they most certainly know what he wants the pics and videos for.

WallsD · (310)

The plan was to just give them the sperm in a jar. And get a contract say I did not have sex with either of them and the I will have no responsibility whatsoever regarding the child before,during or after the pregnancy. Including not having to pay child support.. from what I think, they couldn't come at me for child support. They also said they would block me afterwards so that I don't have contact with them if I want. They also have done this before and just had a miscarriage but blocked the other guy so they couldn't contact him anymore for his sperm again.

Lucifer Morningstar · (1245)

Blocking people seems sketchy as hell, man! What if they just show up with a lawyer and the courts 18 years later after blocking you? I would still advise against it, but I would contact the proper legal resources if you want to go through with it. You technically won't be held responsible with the sperm in a jar method, but this isn't through a regulated bank. So, there is more potential of them coming back and biting you in the ass again. A child is a lot to think about too, even if you aren't the de-facto provider. You would still be the biological father.

Gr4vity400 · (3)

(January 7, 2020, 11:54 pm)Akhenaten
(January 7, 2020, 10:15 pm)Gr4vity400 Don't do it. Not good for you or the child. You'll live with guilt forever.

Maybe you would, but not everyone sees things that way.

My dad had a kid when he was 17 and chose not to get involved. He's 62 and it still eats him up to this day. I think you'd have to be a sociopath to not care about a life you've created. Just my two cents.

doubleintegral · (5857)

(January 7, 2020, 9:10 pm)WallsD Even if I have a contract saying otherwise?

Speaking from experience as someone whose wife was a surrogate, this isn't going to be a one-page document where you say "I don't want the kid" and all of you sign it. The kind of airtight contract that leaves you with absolutely zero exposure is going to be 15-20 pages long (or longer) and carry at least a $500-1000 price tag in legal fees.

You don't just have to protect yourself from paying child support. You don't want to be paying medical expenses during the pregnancy either. You need to completely surrender legal custody, not just now but in the future. If both parents die (e.g. car/plane crash) then some state laws may cause custody to revert back to you. So in the contract the parents will need to specify a guardian for that eventuality, plus a backup guardian, plus a backup to the backup. The contract also needs to absolve you of any future liability in case the child is ever found to have any disorders that came from your genes.

You will need to specify how long both parties have agreed to try to knock her up (because it isn't likely to happen on the first time) so that one party doesn't sue the other if they stop trying to soon, or if they try too long. What if she never gets pregnant? What if she gets pregnant with multiples and wants a fetal reduction (aborting one or more fetuses), yet you are pro-life or just really want her to be pregnant with multiples because that's hot?

The contract will need to state in precise detail when, how, and what types of photos/videos they provide, and state what happens if they breach that contract, either intentionally (e.g. they try to stiff you), unintentionally (e.g. they were late delivering them, got stuck in your spam folder, etc.), or via circumstances out of their control (e.g. if she can't or doesn't carry the pregnancy to term for whatever reason, are y'all legally obligated to try again?).

If you're actually going to physically fuck her, there probably need to be some legal protections for you in there about that lest you get #metoo'ed.

Plus, a lot of the shit above will need to be stated in reverse as well so that the couple is protected from you in case you ever decide to sue them for any reason.

You're going to want a lawyer who specializes in reproductive law to write the contract or at least look at it. The parents are going to want to do the same. The contract will need to state who's responsible for paying the lawyer fees - each party pays their own way, or they cover everything, or...? Once all of the lawyering is done and you're all signing the contract, both parties have to have a witness present who also signs the contract, and a notary public (the notary can't be the witness) will need to notarize it.

The contract that my wife and I (and the intended parents) signed covered almost literally all of this shit, plus another 20-25 pages outlining the financial terms. Simply put: looking out for yourself with this kind of shit is outrageously difficult, because you're walking into a minefield full of mines. Some are easy to see, some are covered up. Some could go off tomorrow, others might not go off for 20 years. Lawyers are money well spent because they think of a lot of things that you and I don't. This post isn't necessarily intended to discourage you from doing it, just to encourage you to go in with both eyes open.

The likely truth is, though, that neither you nor the couple are that serious about this.