So I have this girl I used to date and I met her when she was 6 months pregnant almost 3 years ago right, so we dated/fwb for about a year and fell off and stayed somewhat friends and now she’s pregnant again and absolutely HUGE! She’s 34 weeks now and easily bigger that 40 weeks with her last pregnancy. It’s pretty hard on her actually unlike the last pregnancy. It’s honestly crazy how big she is compared to her last pregnancy. So clearly this turns me on and she doesn’t know about the fetish but is somewhat suspicious of me having it. 

My question is should I purse having sex with her again? We haven’t had sex in a year but I know she would let me but only if it’s on “relationship” terms. I know I could act like I want a relationship but I don’t know if I wanna do that in my life anymore. New year new me. Lmk your thoughts and what you guys would do

Just go for it man. You only live once

It's hard to say. I think the whole, "I need to pretend to want a serious relationship in order to bang this hot chick" thing is one of the awful things about being a single straight dude. It's kind of lose-lose --- if you don't, you miss out on "good tail," but if you do, you feel bad about misleading the lady. Glad that's behind me.

Having said that, maybe this isn't the right time to change? You have pretended to get laid before. This time it's a really hot pregnant gal, which is something you literally have a fetish for (I presume), so what's one more round of playing games?

Also, it sounds like this lady really likes you. I think if you pretended to be a little bit interested in a relationship, screwed around with her, and then came clean or whatever, she would probably understand or be willing to forgive. Maybe you're overthinking in that sense. You want a relationship! --- just one that ends when she's no longer sporting a huge belly...

It's not nice to mislead ladies in this way, but they're also kind of asking to be misled when they put sex in these terms.

(February 4, 2023, 6:10 pm)BasedGd1768 It's hard to say.  I think the whole, "I need to pretend to want a serious relationship in order to bang this hot chick" thing is one of the awful things about being a single straight dude.  It's kind of lose-lose --- if you don't, you miss out on "good tail," but if you do, you feel bad about misleading the lady.  Glad that's behind me.

Having said that, maybe this isn't the right time to change?  You have pretended to get laid before.  This time it's a really hot pregnant gal, which is something you literally have a fetish for (I presume), so what's one more round of playing games? 

Also, it sounds like this lady really likes you.  I think if you pretended to be a little bit interested in a relationship, screwed around with her, and then came clean or whatever, she would probably understand or be willing to forgive.  Maybe you're overthinking in that sense.  You want a relationship! --- just one that ends when she's no longer sporting a huge belly...

It's not nice to mislead ladies in this way, but they're also kind of asking to be misled when they put sex in these terms.

That’s what I was thinking. I might as well go out with a bang right. We are already pretty close so I get to see and rub her belly pretty often but when she try’s to stand up or even move at all and is waddling and moaning in pain I just can’t resist the urge to wanna have sex with her at least 1 more time. She might be the best preggo I’ve ever been with at this point and I’ve been with some big 1s lol

Unless she has made it clear that another FWB arrangement is off the table, I don't see the harm in asking about that again.

(February 4, 2023, 6:10 pm)BasedGd1768 It's not nice to mislead ladies in this way, but they're also kind of asking to be misled when they put sex in these terms.

So when a woman wants sex on her terms, she's asking to be misled?

(February 4, 2023, 11:00 pm)doubleintegral Unless she has made it clear that another FWB arrangement is off the table, I don't see the harm in asking about that again.

(February 4, 2023, 6:10 pm)BasedGd1768 It's not nice to mislead ladies in this way, but they're also kind of asking to be misled when they put sex in these terms.

So when a woman wants sex on her terms, she's asking to be misled?

She has made it clear she doesn’t want another FWB situation.

(February 5, 2023, 12:48 am)Wallsdd

(February 4, 2023, 11:00 pm)doubleintegral Unless she has made it clear that another FWB arrangement is off the table, I don't see the harm in asking about that again.

(February 4, 2023, 6:10 pm)BasedGd1768 It's not nice to mislead ladies in this way, but they're also kind of asking to be misled when they put sex in these terms.

So when a woman wants sex on her terms, she's asking to be misled?

She has made it clear she doesn’t want another FWB situation.

Then I'd steer clear unless you want a relationship with her. Don't be a dick and lead someone on especially with kids being in the mix.

Ya never know, if you come clean she might just change her mind

You are looking for different things. I know banging a hot preggo rocks, but she's put her cards on the table and you gotta respect that.

Tell her it's FWB or nothing. Best of luck to her finding a relationship in her current state, if she's dead-set on that. Yes, it's possible... but generally more difficult.

just casually mention you think she "looks good like this" and see what happens

"Treat others the way you would want to be treated."

Put yourself in her situation and ask yourself, "is this something I would want if I was in this situation?"

Most rational people would say "no." But being honest and asking is always better than lying.