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preggoluvr4286
@idk I cannot message you, but I can testify to the fact that I REALLY need help and advice in talking to pregnant women since my attempts turn out very badly. If you want proof, look at my forum threads. If you could offer me A LOT of pointers, I would appreciate it.
idk
Hi, I've been getting a lot of messages and haven't been able to respond to some of them, so I am just going to copy and paste chunks of advice I've given to users over the past couple of months. Please let me know if any of this helps or if you have further questions! These chunks of text might be out of order and not related but it's what I've told others. Some of it is repetitive, sorry about that.

In my case, there is a distinct pattern to the women I find. Usually they are more independent (not living with roommates or family), sort of up in the air emotionally about their recently ended relationship (not sure what they're looking for), feeling lonely or unwanted or just plain exhausted with life, not very educated, and totally completely oblivious to the fetish aspect. No shred of painful awkwardness, no weird "coming out" or explaining my fetish, none of that shit that so many struggle with on here. But I am also careful not to lead them on, and typically after a few months they drift away because life is getting in the way and their exes might appear again, so I feel morally justified in harmlessly dating them for a bit, making them feel special, and that's it. It's a LONG game that requires lots of persistence, luck, timing, carefully crafted emails and phone calls, with a high failure rate.

I almost exclusively use Plenty of Fish but I have had minor success with Ok Cupid and Tinder. It just takes time and energy constantly scouring all the ties. Occasionally I have been able to get a number from a cold approach in person but not often. I think the number one most important thing is to NOT mention their pregnancy AT ALL for the first few messages. Try to relate and converse about something else with them, and then casually drop in a "And by the way congrats! When are you due? How exciting" type of thing. Just roll with the conversation after that, and maybe pepper in stuff like "Well you look great, pregnancy looks great on you, definitely glowing" blah blah. You can always sneak in things like cute belly! Keep those comments to a minimum, and NEVER NEVER say "I think pregnant women are hot" or "I have a fetish/secret". Just make all of it seem like the most normal thing ever that you're talking to a pregnant woman asking her on a date. The more normal you seem, the more comfortable the whole thing is. A single pregnant woman who is at least trying to date wants to be seen BEYOND her pregnancy. Eventually with enough time and persistence you'll meet up, even then do not be weird about it, wait until she starts talking about the baby kicking or something and ask if you can feel. Remember... normal is the key. Nothing bizarre.

Just keep everything normal, casual, don't be too forward about anything, let her lead the direction of things but don't be afraid to ask if she'd like to meet up sometime. Treat the pregnancy like a completely separate thing from dating her as a person, and she'll open up about it, realize that you're nonthreatening, and eventually let you in physically and emotionally. Never ever say anything about a secret or a fetish or I think pregnant women are hot. There are SO Many ways you can say that without sounding creepy or weird so just avoid that. "You look great!" is simple and easy. "Pregnancy looks good on you!" "I didn't think I'd end up matching with a pregnant woman but it doesn't bother me at all, in fact I think it's pretty exciting and definitely makes you glow". Stuff like that gets it across that you think she's fucking hot without sounding weird. I guess it's a science because i've done it so much and have just found a lot of patterns that work, ways of wording things. Yesterday my two dates were awesome.

I never actually have to bail, because life usually gets in the way. Pregnant women are usually in between a lot of shit going on in their life, especially if they're single, and especially if they're dating. In my experience pregnant women are just lonely and starting to explore options outside of their baby daddy, but life is hitting hard and once the baby comes or gets close, they just aren't available at all and they're over it.

Dating pregnant women is pretty simple... do fun and casual things that meet their physical and emotional needs without pushing too much or being weird. Treat them like a regular person and be very sensitive about their pregnancy and potentially hectic background.

I only use free sites... never paid once. You just have to come across like a normal, confident but not douchey, considerate and attentive but not a pushover wuss, not overly eager, just come across as very, very normal like it's all a totally normal thing that you're asking them to date, because you actually love kids and think it's exciting to get to know them during this time, etc. It involves a lot of planning, talking, giving space, taking advantage of opportunities, and then striaght up asking for what you want. "Can I touch your belly?" is always hard for me to say but I've never been rejected and they're always like sure! He's kicking right now... feel him right here, do you feel that?"

I used to have very similar adds that yielded a very low percentage of results. Ghosting would happen a lot because not only is pregnancy fleeting, but their breakups from whoever may not last, their emotional or financial priorities are changing by the day, etc. All kinds of stuff is happening and sometimes they're just looking to see if people find them attractive so that they feel like a catch still. Ghosting still sucks. CL was a good place to disclose the fetish right away, because people are reading YOUR ad. But with dating sites, you're reading THEIR ads and have to go with it accordingly. Try to use POF a ton, filter your results age 22-29 with children, and then just copy "preg" and paste on all 35 pages of search results one after the other using shortcuts. It's fast and effective. With more time you can scrutinize and find gems like "two kids and one on the way". I guess it helps that I live within two hours of about 7 million people, but a new one pops up at least each week. I'm sure you do this but just keep it normal and casual, mention nothing about the pregnancy but how you liked their bio, xyz captured your attention, you'd love to chat, oh and congrats on your baby, that's exciting!" I always keep that on the backburner. THEN I ask, so how is POF for you? Inevitably they say "Oh it's a bunch of weirdos with fetishes" and you can play dumb, "Haha really? That's bizarre, I didn't know that was a thing". But back to your point... in my experience, I've been VERY careful when to disclose the fetish thing, and even when I do, the most I'll say is, "Oh, definitely, pregnant women are totally attractive" or "You look great! I love your belly, you look so happy". Or if a woman asks what you're into, I always slip it in, "Hmm I definitely love curvy women, more of a hips/butt guy, heck even pregnant women can be sexy". Saying stuff like that gets your point across to a good enough degree so that they know you think they're sexy without being creepy or having an agenda i.e. "I have a secret... I have a fetish for your belly". Just try POF, OkCupid doesnt have an effective search function so its more time consuming, and just try to keep many irons in the fire on social media too. I was able to become CLOSE friends with a sexy south american woman, perfect big tan belly, and she loved hanging out at the beach in a bikini with me ALONE, even though she had a husband. We were just friends, but since I asked to hang out, she obliged. You'll never get what you don't ask for you know? I even posted a video of her in the candid section.

Have you ever tried Plenty of Fish or OkCupid? They are just free dating sites that require some tedious searching but that's all I use. Opening lines usually pertain to ANYTHING on their profile other than the pregnancy. Example: "Hey! I happen to love cooking also. It says you're a chef, are you a particular kind of chef? I'm pretty much a bacon and eggs guy. But who doesn't love bacon!! LOL. Anyway you seem really interesting and caught my eye pretty quickly Smile Also congrats on your baby! That's exciting, when are you due? Feel free to write back, would love to chat more."

My example is cheesy but it's pretty much exactly how I craft every opening message. Find relatable things, ask questions, be a little funny, then drop in a question about the pregnancy. Keep the preggo talk to only like 5% of the conversation. Eventually it will start to dominate more and more, and you can drop in things like "Well you definitely make pregnancy look good!" and "Oh definitely, pregnant woman for sure have some kind of glow as they say," and the BEST is when they say "You sure you don't mind that I'm pregnant?" Just respond with "Not at all, it's very exciting to me, pretty cool to share this time with you too, plus you look just as sexy now as you will after Wink" NEVER EVER EVER mention the word fetish or "I Think pregnant women are sexy". EVER. That's all for now man. Any other questions?

Sure, this is what I have, you can replace my interests with yours. Remember to put a couple REALLY nice photos of yourself, preferably not selfies, show a big smile and show yourself doing something that you enjoy or something social, no weird frowny selfies in the car lol I see those so often (I've actually set up fake pregnant female profiles to see just how creepy and crazy men actually are, you'd be shocked). Their messages suck, their pictures suck, or they come across as wimpy white knights who make women want to barf. Make your profile as generally appealing as possible to appeal to the widest audience because you'll need to attract a WIDE range of women if you're looking for pregnant women only.
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idk
New girl: Jackpot, to say the least. 5' tall 34 weeks. Haven't met yet but we'll see how it goes...
           
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allgoodnamestaken_
did you meet the last one? she's a stunner
simpleandnice99
Any help on where to search on both OK and POF. I have the convo piece dialed in, just having issues finding ones to chat with.

Thanks for the help
ImaginingAPreggo
(March 26, 2019, 11:06 am)idk New girl: Jackpot, to say the least. 5' tall 34 weeks. Haven't met yet but we'll see how it goes...

Soooo jealous!!!
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idk
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(May 14, 2019, 1:01 am)ImaginingAPreggo
(March 26, 2019, 11:06 am)idk New girl: Jackpot, to say the least. 5' tall 34 weeks. Haven't met yet but we'll see how it goes...

Soooo jealous!!!

I’m onto someone new! Legitimately dating a 24 week 39 year old. It’s awesome. Everything I could hope for and more. Don’t be jealous, opportunities await you too!

Edit: it's worth mentioning I met this one on Bumble unwittingly. Regular old match, found out she was pregnant after. Jackpot!
Liked by MJSimmons (May 15, 2019)
ImaginingAPreggo
(May 14, 2019, 4:31 pm)idk
(May 14, 2019, 1:01 am)ImaginingAPreggo
(March 26, 2019, 11:06 am)idk New girl: Jackpot, to say the least. 5' tall 34 weeks. Haven't met yet but we'll see how it goes...

Soooo jealous!!!

I’m onto someone new! Legitimately dating a 24 week 39 year old. It’s awesome. Everything I could hope for and more. Don’t be jealous, opportunities await you too!

Edit: it's worth mentioning I met this one on Bumble unwittingly. Regular old match, found out she was pregnant after. Jackpot!

Now I’m really jealous!!! Bet you’re having good fun! Share a pic?
TheSexyBump
(January 21, 2019, 7:32 pm)idk Following up with a double whammy success story of my own. Tomorrow I'm going on two (2) dates with 7+ month pregnant women, and here they are in all their glory. Just took some persistence, patience, and timing.

What site did you use? And does it work in UK??
Liked by Mcphers14 (Jun 17, 2019)
heyhiiamdave
(June 17, 2019, 5:24 am)TheSexyBump
(January 21, 2019, 7:32 pm)idk Following up with a double whammy success story of my own. Tomorrow I'm going on two (2) dates with 7+ month pregnant women, and here they are in all their glory. Just took some persistence, patience, and timing.

What site did you use? And does it work in UK??

any site for malaysia?
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