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pregnantslovers
The other day, maybe I did the most idiotic thing you can do in this situation, and ask if you got to feel a pregnant woman's big belly in the gym (was almost empty then). Got a right so angry response back "that it didn't go well at all, or you couldn't do that". I received the answer and apologized to her for this. Now I'm a little worried about going back there a bit on one of the other days instead.

I know that I crossed the border in this case and would like some happy calls, because my stomach is in a single stir on me right now.
Bellyfan27
Damn. Well you probably don't remember my controversial "Today I Talked to a Pregnant Woman" thread but back in I think 2017 I asked a pregnant stranger at a water park if I could feel her belly and she declined. You did do a decent way in approaching, when the area is mostly empty to avoid people looking at you weird. Mine was a bit more risky because there was a decent amount of people there. Your approach was probably too ballsy anyway. My questions for you are:
1. What did you say when you walked up to her?
2. Was she on a machine or working out at all when you asked her?
3. What did she say after?
4. What did you say to apologize?
5. How did you go about the rejection?
glowwormkatie
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Don't do this. Please.

I'm a mom. I have the fetish. But if a man approached me in public like this, I would say no. I'd probably feel scared, bullied, angry.

Because even if you have the nicest approach in the world -- what are you doing? Would you approach a stranger in public and ask to touch their hair? Their face?

Probably not. And if you did, they'd feel at least a little... invaded. And if you're a man twice their size, they'd probably feel worse.

I understand not every pregnant woman feels this way. But a lot do. That guy on youtube sets a terrible example. I think he offers women money, or else some play along just to get rid of him.

If the pregnant woman is a friend or family member, feel free. But otherwise, enjoy the view. Leave it at that. It's better for everybody.
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InflatoPreggo
The basic rule of thumb is that unless the woman offers for you to feel her bump, don’t go for it.
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BellyYorke
(April 10, 2020, 11:13 pm)glowwormkatie Don't do this. Please.

I'm a mom. I have the fetish. But if a man approached me in public like this, I would say no. I'd probably feel scared, bullied, angry.

Because even if you have the nicest approach in the world -- what are you doing? Would you approach a stranger in public and ask to touch their hair? Their face?

Probably not. And if you did, they'd feel at least a little... invaded. And if you're a man twice their size, they'd probably feel worse.

I understand not every pregnant woman feels this way. But a lot do. That guy on youtube sets a terrible example. I think he offers women money, or else some play along just to get rid of him.

If the pregnant woman is a friend or family member, feel free. But otherwise, enjoy the view. Leave it at that. It's better for everybody.

I totally agree with her. I couldn't say yes to you. I have the fetish too but I'd only share it with my partner or maybe a close girlfriend, if we share the fetish. 

Just enjoy watching her, but normally, not stare at her. And be careful because she could make an accusation and you'll be banned in that place.
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rbx7p9
I think you should go back to the gym any day you want. Even if she happens to be there.
Without too much information it doesn't like you were a creep, you were socially clumsy that one time. You already regret it and don't need to punish yourself anymore. Learn from this and move on.
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auto_asphyx
(April 10, 2020, 10:21 pm)Bellyfan27 Damn. Well you probably don't remember my controversial "Today I Talked to a Pregnant Woman" thread but back in I think 2017 I asked a pregnant stranger at a water park if I could feel her belly and she declined. You did do a decent way in approaching, when the area is mostly empty to avoid people looking at you weird. Mine was a bit more risky because there was a decent amount of people there. Your approach was probably too ballsy anyway. My questions for you are:
1. What did you say when you walked up to her?
2. Was she on a machine or working out at all when you asked her?
3. What did she say after?
4. What did you say to apologize?
5. How did you go about the rejection?

you are a gross clod.

i get that you can't control your urges, but just stop encouraging others to engage in creepy, predatory behaviour.
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quasa2
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(April 10, 2020, 11:13 pm)glowwormkatie If the pregnant woman is a friend or family member, feel free. But otherwise, enjoy the view. Leave it at that. It's better for everybody.

@pregnantslovers I didn't even asked my pregnant sister. I don't know where you got this idea but next time use common sense.
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IntoPreggos
Oddly, it was easier to talk to a pregnant stranger for me as a teen in 1990s CA, and often she wasn't bothered by regular small talk (she noticed my body language and she might be open minded about her pregnancy to me). I had talked to a few pretty preggos in a water park in Palm Springs and well, they were happy and smug about their changed bodies and they felt they're beautiful as well looking forward to becoming mothers of desired babies/children. And yeah, I asked with permission to touch their bellies and I held them too with my ear on the belly to hear an unborn baby inside. I don't think I turned heads from others in the water park facing the wave pool, but sometimes awkwardness is compassion for a future person and my admiration of the pregnant woman's physique as beautiful and a natural wonder. I met their husbands or boyfriends too on occasion and I suppose he thinks this is fine, not sure these were open couples or whatever. I swear she's psychic or felt I wasn't going to harm her, but appreciate her and I guess their men weren't even bothered by my approaching them. Since turning age 21, due to PC-ness, "moralism" and age appropriateness, I don't approach nor touch pregnant women at all and I'm 40 years old now.
Pregnant women are growing, showing, knowing herself...and glowing bright with life. Angel

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Akhenaten
Imagine if an absolutely huge, hairy bear of a man approached you in the gym and asked if he could feel your... calves. They're just calves, right? No big deal? C'mon, just a squeeze? They look great, how long have you been working on them?

You probably don't want that guy in your space, and you probably don't want him touching your body at all. And who could blame you?

As a straight man who wants people to respect my personal space and who only wants to get physical with women I'm intimate with, that's the best approximation I can come up with for how a woman probably feels when someone does what you did. I don't want to speak for anyone, of course, but I'm trying to make it make sense from where someone like me stands.
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