Hello everyone,

Thanks to everyone who clicked on this and reads it- I would really appreciate your thoughts/comments as I am trying to figure out how to move forward.

I have finally reached a point where I see now that my fetish is becoming an obsession and it is taking up a large part of my life. For example, I have probably spent over a thousand dollars so far on pregnancy videos, cam model sites, and upstore subscriptions. I spend large amounts of time on this site as opposed to bettering myself in terms of fitness, academics, or finding a girlfriend. And finally, whenever I go out, I am more concerned with taking good candid shots than I am focused with the actual task at hand. Things are starting to get out of control (well, they have been out of control for a while, but I am finally putting my foot down now and writing to all of you to see what your thoughts are on this). I don’t know how to get over this thing.

It’s not that having this fetish is a bad thing- everything in moderation is okay, for the most part, but it is getting out of control in my life. How do you guys find ways to balance this fetish with your daily lives, and keep everything in balance? Do you think I should give up this fetish completely and cut it out cold turkey?
I little about me: mid-20’s, in good shape, I would considered myself attractive but I suffer from low self-esteem (probably as a result of having this fetish and not “putting myself out there” as much as other guys trying to pursue women). Looking for a girlfriend but it’s tough because I don’t drink and don’t have many “friends” that I go out with (because I don’t drink at all and a lot of the people I work with are not really my type (big partyers, heavy drinkers). I would love to start dating again but don’t know where to even start, so some advice about that would be much appreciated as well . In any case, I think that losing this obsession would be the right step not only for my dating life, but for my entire life in general.

Also about the girlfriend thing: My last relationship was 6 years ago. I have asked out women since then, have gone on some dates, but no real luck. In the past year, I have probably asked out about 3-4 women, but they either had boyfriends or flat out rejected me. For the women that gave me snooty responses when I asked them out, I probably asked out an asshole, and the way that she responded probably put a bad taste in my mouth and made me think that all women are inherently “stuck up” or above me. This might explain the low self-esteem and the belief that whenever I ask out a woman, she will either have a boyfriend, pretend that she has a boyfriend, or not be interested in me. In my mind, she would never be interested in me- instead, she would rather go to a bar, get drunk, fall for the asshole dude that will treat her like shit. The irony is that I go to the gym often and believe that I am a pretty attractive dude. Sorry if this is going off on a tangent!!

Any help/advice you guys could give would be more than appreciated. Thanks for all of you who read through this entire thing – I really appreciate it!

I guess I rely a lot on my self-awareness when I keep my fetish in check. Just try not to make decisions solely based on the fetish, and try to just live in the moment. If you focus on what you are currently doing, as opposed to the fantasies that may come with this fetish, you’ll keep it at bay.

Ok first of all, I don’t even know if it’s even possible to spend that much money on porn videos alone. For me, I just wait for something to come up on this site. When something comes up, I keep up to date on it until someone comes around and posts the video that was requested.

If you are getting rejected by girls, then maybe you are doing something wrong. Usually you can find someone at a bar but you don’t really drink so that’s out of the question.

If you want to take a little break from it and focus on getting your life in hand, then go for it.

I too have spent a bit too much on vids and pics especially, in the 2000's on old sites like Pregoplanet, Southern Charms and stuffer31 to name a few. I think it's easy to get into "always looking for the newest hot prego" mode while not actually enjoying the stuff that you already have. If you've already built a good collection, then I suggest taking the time to actually enjoy it. Another thing I would suggest is take at least one or two weeks off from this fetish. Give yourself a breather and focus on other hobbies during that time. When you comeback, set a schedule for yourself. Like maybe one hour a day at most spent looking at pics or vids. Next, I would stop looking for candids all together. Only take them if you happen to come across a pregnant woman. If any of this doesn't help then walking away completely is not a bad idea.

Now on the women issue. Women today(especially in their early to mid-20's) are inundated with attention from men. You maybe just one of a hundred guys who have asked one particular girl out. This kind of attention inflates a woman's ego. As a result, good guys like yourself that they probably should go out with are rejected in favor of men who are the most sexually appealing. Often those guys are the bad boys that you'll hear these women complain about eventually. This is why it is so difficult for many young men like yourself to find good relationships. It's not like the old days where being a gentleman and financially stable were enough. You almost have to out alpha the next dude in order to get her to notice you. And frankly who wants to do that? We're not cavemen anymore.

So, what's the solution? Well, you have go to places where you'll find women who are looking for long term relationships. The kind of women who will appreciate a good man. Those places are NOT bars, clubs and DEFINITELY not hook up apps like Tinder. Those places could be your local library, church or religious center, hobby clubs, maybe a Facebook friend of a family member. Hell, even at the supermarket.

One thing to remember is get used to rejection. You may have to ask ten women out before you get one yes. It's easier said then done I know and no one likes getting turned down but, that's what we have to do as men. We are unfortunately tasked with the role of pursuer. Another thing that will help you is learning how to read a woman's body language and how to use that to help establish a romantic connection. There are quite a few videos on that topic on youtube. Check them out to gain some insight.

Orta, thank you to you and everyone above for the advice and consolation. You are complete right and I will definitely take your advice. I agree completely with the “alpha” thing, and I have always thought that to be one of the biggest jokes of adulthood, although it unfortunately has some truth in the dating world. The places that you mentioned are all great places to meet women, and I need to try them more. Haha I do frequent some of those places, the library for example, and I sometimes have conversations with the females there, but I am never interested in starting a romantic relationship with any of them. It’s never like what the movies have brainwashed us to believe (but that’s a conversations for another day).

A funny story about the bar thing: My sister has a best friend who I think is perfect for me, but I would never consider dating or pursuing her because it is my sister’s best friend. Even my sister makes it off limits, because if a breakup or anything bad were to happen between us, it would be detrimental for their relationship as best friends. Anyway, her friend is pretty, kind, respectful, and kind of shy. I don’t think she frequents bars or clubs often. And as pretty as she is, she is having trouble finding a guy I guess because she doesn’t frequent the kinds of places that guys usually as women out. Anyway, a few weeks ago, she goes out to the bar and meets two guys there and has been texting them since. Smh lol. Then I was thinking, Oh gee, why don’t I go to a bar so that there can be a really off-chance of me meeting a really nice and cute girl there. Oh serendipity, where are you when I need you? Lol

Thanks again for the advice! Any more advice/insight would be appreciated from anyone out there!

I was in your shoes about 8 years ago. Since then I have learned a lot. I'll try to condense it for you:

1) Separate Fantasy from Reality. This particular fetish makes it VERY difficult because the drive to reproduce is the primal instinct of every organism on earth. In my particular case, I actually wanted the whole package: Wife, Pregnancy and the children that came with it.....I just wanted the right person to enjoy that fantasy with me. IMO, your "obsession" is simply a desire to flip a few chapters ahead in your life.

2) Discover how you can be "enough" in yourself without a woman. Maintain yourself (body and brain) FOR yourself and define who you are SEPARATE from a woman. Confidence is the absolute #1 attractive quality for quality women...and desperation is a huge turnoff.

3) Identify the PERSONALITY of who you want in a partner. Even the horniest couples will only be able to spend about 10% of their day in fuck-ville. What that person does outside the sack is FAR more important than anything else.

4) Check your Testosterone level. I found mine was VERY low. I've been on T injection supplements and holy-shit it was like stepping outside of a fog. Low T has HUGE repercussions on confidence, sense of well-being, concentration, on top of sex drive and physical appearance

5) Check out this fun site: https://www.girlschase.com/

Or find a girl who likes being pregnant and make her part of your life what resources you had been devoting to fetish devout to hour relationship and sit back and enjoy life together eventually you will put fetish beside and i.enjoy being part of a family.

I think you might be misinterpreting what's going on. I'm not you and I'm not in your head, but what I've just read doesn't sound so much like the fetish is ruining your life, but rather you're just ready to proceed and shift priorities. The fetish isn't satisfying certain areas of your life anymore (because it can't) and you're coming to terms with that. This is healthy and nothing to worry about. It's a good thing.

Like you, I don't drink or party, so bars and clubs and all that shit have never been options for me, either. My personal opinion -- and this isn't meant to offend anyone, go right on ahead and disagree -- is that anyone still frequenting those places hasn't outgrown a certain phase in her life and would thus not be a good partner for me. In other words, I don't think you're missing anything by skipping those venues.

Unlike you, I'm actually very unattractive, and I accept it. Knowing that helps me manage my own expectations for the world of dating. I live in the south USA and have learned that generally-speaking, only tall, beefy guys have any luck walking up to women they don't know and getting anywhere with them. That's the desired type around here. Someone like me is completely locked out of that experience. Confidence (or lack thereof) has nothing to do with it... you either look the part, or you don't. The only way I've ever been able to meet women is through online dating apps, where my sense of humor and my communication skills, such as they are, have a chance to reach someone long enough for her to consider getting to know more about me before my looks turn her away. If, as you say, you are traditionally attractive, you'll probably do pretty well for yourself online because you'll be able to present yourself as the full package: they'll like your picture, and then they'll read about who you are and like you even more.

I would suggest OkCupid, Bumble, and Tinder. Bumble and Tinder are, unfortunately, almost entirely based on looks (they're just simple swipe apps), and OkCupid has been dumbed down so much to the point where it's pretty much the same thing. Not so great for someone like me, as I said earlier. And generally not so great for someone who's looking for more than a hook-up. However, that's where everyone is right now, and that's going to be the best way for you to quickly and easily get a lot of exposure to a lot of women, especially if you look good. Keep an open mind about the sorts of relationships you will accept (dating, fuck buddies, something more long-term) and focus instead on enjoying yourself and the time you can spend with someone who excites you. That said, be ready for rejection -- tons of it. There will be a lot of false starts, flakes, ghosts... it's not fun. This is modern dating. I don't know what the fuck is wrong with people, but manners are completely gone and no one likes to actually communicate deep thoughts anymore. Another thing to blame on millennials, I guess (even though I am one, or one of the old ones anyway).

But bottom line, please don't hate the fetish... it's a part of you, so you'd be hating yourself. It's something to enjoy a little bit each day, like your favorite PC/video game or something... but obviously we can't just quit everything and play Skyrim all the time!

Try to talk to a normal gilr/girls, which you want to date. You'll find them more attractive than the preggo ladies in videos. Don't be eaten by this fetish. At outside world, there are so many girls waiting to be asked on a date. One of them will be yours I am too sure, if you get her pregnant, than it will be 100% better than preggoporn. Preggophilia isn't a big thing that it used to be before, I'm not too active too like before (when I was not registered). When the summer ends, I'll left this site and fetish, try to find a girl, meet new people. I lost many friends from: former class, sport I played and sport summer camp too. This is the reason to live - other people, not preggophilia. I don't say, this site isn't good, but for me it's waste of time. Stop it, before it gets too late. And take Orta's advices too. Good luck!

(July 5, 2018, 5:18 pm)FunTimes I guess I rely a lot on my self-awareness when I keep my fetish in check. Just try not to make decisions solely based on the fetish, and try to just live in the moment. If you focus on what you are currently doing, as opposed to the fantasies that may come with this fetish, you’ll keep it at bay.

I agree and kinda how I treat my pregnancy fetish really, both with fpreg and mpreg