(September 2, 2019, 5:31 pm)tomostrife Let's see. I told my girlfriend of 3 years about it and she immediately dumped me. I told my late father when I was growing up and he threw away my computer and grounded me for months. I had a date ask me honestly if I was into any weird stuff, then ghosted me the next day after telling her. On of my friends found out and berated me consistently which is why I don't hang out with him anymore.

Yet I come here and people tell these sunny little stories about how its natural and my wife loves to role play with me and it all just sounds like hot garbage. I think its a straight up sickness, and I've just been sick for too long to get over it. Yep ashamed. On the internet, people CAN be super accepting because theres no face or person to attribute it to, but once you get out in the real world, its different, nobody wants to deal with weirdos and freaks unless they are weirdos or freaks. Especially in todays strange dating scene, one tiny flaw is all it takes.

Yes well, I've only told about my fetish with two close friends which I knew they had other fetishes too. I've tried to meet more open minded people but I would not talk with anoyone about my fetish unless they are trustworthy and also have a fetish.

(September 2, 2019, 5:31 pm)tomostrife Let's see. I told my girlfriend of 3 years about it and she immediately dumped me. I told my late father when I was growing up and he threw away my computer and grounded me for months. I had a date ask me honestly if I was into any weird stuff, then ghosted me the next day after telling her. On of my friends found out and berated me consistently which is why I don't hang out with him anymore.

Yet I come here and people tell these sunny little stories about how its natural and my wife loves to role play with me and it all just sounds like hot garbage. I think its a straight up sickness, and I've just been sick for too long to get over it. Yep ashamed. On the internet, people CAN be super accepting because theres no face or person to attribute it to, but once you get out in the real world, its different, nobody wants to deal with weirdos and freaks unless they are weirdos or freaks. Especially in todays strange dating scene, one tiny flaw is all it takes.

Damn.  Sorry about those tough experiences.  I'm shocked at how poorly your ex reacted.  Was she from a more conservative household?

(September 2, 2019, 5:54 pm)orta03 Damn.  Sorry about those tough experiences.  I'm shocked at how poorly ex reacted.  Was she from a more conservative household?

Nope. She had purple hair, tattoos, plugs, the full alternative lifestyle. But she also had an incredibly closed off mind which I found out too late.

That's awful, @tomostrife. Just awful. I am so sorry you've gotten the worst end of it every time. I can assure you though (not that it does much good) that there ARE people out there who will accept the fetish even if they don't share it. I've been romantically involved with a fair number of them, and am currently stilll. I hope I don't take it for granted.

Maybe it's just me, but I've never been concerned about being "exposed" and such because there's a mutually assured self-destruction component to it. There's almost always literally no way you can expose your bedroom antics with someone without being looked at funny yourself because A) I feel most people still consider that hitting below the belt/punching down by violating that intimacy and that stuff stays private and B) you were clearly a happy/willing participant to getting that person off and being kinky with them, so how you do throw it all on them without people wondering what it says about you?

It's one of those situations where you really gain nothing and can't really burn someone without torching your own ground. It can also sound so outta left field that people don't believe it and would wonder why someone's bringing it out at all.

I stopped feeling any semblance of shame when I discovered how many people were out there. Personal shame is probably more accurate. I don't feel ashamed of myself. I don't hate myself for getting off by any means. I was sent to religious schools growing up and was raised very conservatively/sheltered about sex itself. I was raised on the "old school" no sex before marriage, no birth control, keep her in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant, husband goes to work, wife is at home pumping out babies ideal. Nowadays that's not even in the forefront for me, just all about the woman being pregnant.

(September 2, 2019, 5:31 pm)tomostrife  On the internet, people CAN be super accepting because theres no face or person to attribute it to, but once you get out in the real world, its different, nobody wants to deal with weirdos and freaks unless they are weirdos or freaks. Especially in todays strange dating scene, one tiny flaw is all it takes.

This is precisely how I've felt about my involvement in this scene as a male from the beginning. I was lucky enough to see how 95% of people tend to recoil in general disgust at the idea of sexualizing pregnancy, you know, the people those of us who actually leave their house tend to interact with often. I can’t speak for the adults who still live with their parents here other than the fact they’re always on some extra lame shit in the comments. From a young age, I knew it was in my best interest to keep my bullshit contained to an online platform and seperate from my personal life, unfortunately there appears to be alot of people who hang out here that more than likely never got the whole cultural taboo memo till they were well into their 20's. 
It's a huge part of why I refuse to make friends with anyone here under any circumstances, I'm just here to fap, everyone wasting their time getting personable with other members here only prove they too are weirdos and freaks irl.

(September 3, 2019, 3:52 am)Anonymouspreg

(September 2, 2019, 5:31 pm)tomostrife  On the internet, people CAN be super accepting because theres no face or person to attribute it to, but once you get out in the real world, its different, nobody wants to deal with weirdos and freaks unless they are weirdos or freaks. Especially in todays strange dating scene, one tiny flaw is all it takes.

This is precisely how I've felt about my involvement in this scene as a male from the beginning. I was lucky enough to see how 95% people tend to recoil in general disgust at the idea of sexualizing pregnancy from a young age and keep my bullshit contained to an online platform, unfortunately there appears to be alot of people who hang out here that more than likely never got the whole cultural taboo memo till they were well into their 20's. 
It's a huge part of why I refuse to make friends with anyone here under any circumstances, I'm just here to fap, everyone wasting their time getting personable with other members here only prove they too are weirdos and freaks irl.

Can totally understand all of that. I've been around various sites/communities going back to 2004. There are seemingly still quite a few of us hanging around from the era where, off the internet, if you were so inclined to some fetishes/kinks you kept it hidden IRL and if you could succeed then good for you. Some of us have always had a clear grasp of the notion that wanting to do such things as fucking a woman having triplets and other pregnancy-related desires are and will probably always be viewed by the majority of the daily world off the internet as somewhat misguided. I didn't personally view what was done to Tumblr as a bad thing....too many there so full of themselves who viewed normalizing their various fetishes like it was a civil rights movement. I've never understood why some lack even the basic self-awareness to admit that they can understand that to most other people whatever they're into is strange. It's always come across to me as being very arrogantly self-righteous.

There really is a middle-ground, folks.

It's not like we need to run around proclaiming to every random stranger that we're into pregnant women. No one with any fetish really does that shit. Not gonna have some guy come up to you in Target and mention "oh yeah and maaaaan you should have seen her feet, don't you just LOVE feet? I jerk off to them all day, daaaaamn." Fetishes are private.

But you know what you can do? You can share it with your partner. Why? Because maybe they'll be into it too, or at the very least they might indulge you sometimes. If not that, at least you've gotten to tell someone you trust, even if you're not ever really going to talk about it again together. And especially if you're the type who hates keeping things from your partner, you're probably going to feel compelled to share at some point for that reason alone...

Regardless of if you tell anyone or not, I would at least hope everyone can get over the shameful feelings. You don't need to be ashamed of this thing your brain chose for you. It brings you sexual pleasure and it's okay to enjoy that. It's okay to derive gratification from this thing we classify as deviant -- and from other things we classify as deviant, so long as no one gets hurt (unless they want that, I guess!). Don't torture yourselves, even if people have been shit to you when they found out.

If you really hate this about yourself so much, find something else. Stop doing this thing that feels so shameful to you. Leave this community, ditch the pregnant porn, and move on. I think that'd be incredibly difficult, perhaps even impossible, but you're welcome to try. It's got to be better than feeling constant shame!

And please keep in mind I'm not being some glass-half-full wacko, here. I've experienced good, bad, and neutral reactions when I've shared this with people I've cared about. The first one was the worst because she told me it was gross/sick and that I needed to stop, so that set the stage. It took me a long time to get past that, and the road's been full of twists and turns. I tell my partners because I don't like keeping secrets, and these days I choose to become close with people who aren't going to be judgmental about kinks in the first place. Sadly, no one's been into it with me, but at least they don't think I'm an evil deviant. In fact, some people seem to think it's fun to give me a knowing smile when we encounter a pregnant woman when we're out and about, which is very nice. And yes, I recognize I'm extremely fortunate for this. Not everyone has had experiences like this. Some have only had the bad ones, and I'm sorry.

(September 4, 2019, 12:55 am)Akhenaten But you know what you can do? You can share it with your partner. Why? Because maybe they'll be into it too, or at the very least they might indulge you sometimes. If not that, at least you've gotten to tell someone you trust, even if you're not ever really going to talk about it again together. And especially if you're the type who hates keeping things from your partner, you're probably going to feel compelled to share at some point for that reason alone

You might actually be legitimately autistic if you genuinely believe this is a helpful mentality. Are you socially aware enough to notice the trend running throughout this thread?? Just about every man who came clean to his partner about his fetish got dumped in a moments notice regardless of their relationship’s context up till that point; simply put it’s a fucking deal breaker 99% of the time. Besides, you admitted it yourself, you don’t like “keeping secrets” and that’s entirely on you good sir, other men here have better self control than that. The last thing any level headed person should do is let their guard down enough to allow what’s normally contained within the internet merge over into their personal lives, people reserve every right to judge you as a weirdo when you try normalizing a serious social taboo like it’s just a sexual interest..
Wishful thinking will only get you burned in the end, take it from anyone else in this thread who fucked around and found out the hard way.

*shrug* If you think I'm on the autism spectrum, that's up to you. I've read your other posts around the forum and therefore don't put much stock in your opinions one way or the other. I'm very emotionally intimate with my partners and I like to share everything of meaning with them. That's my style. I understand not everyone has the ability and/or desire to be like that. But for those who do crave that, I feel it's important to state that it's not all doom and gloom. I also feel it's important to stop feeling ashamed of the fetish, at the very least, even if you're going to keep it to yourself.