I’ve noticed many people mention throughout the forum about keeping their pregnancy fetish a secret, feeling bad about it, wanting to tell their girlfriends or wives about it but are nervous, etc. 

I just wanted to post my perspective, and I think it’s one that could be useful in explaining the fetish to a girlfriend or anyone. 

When talking abut it, I just say that sex and pregnancy go hand in hand. It’s sex that caused pregnancy, so it’s 100% natural and normal to feel aroused by the state of being pregnant that is the result of having sex. I say it’s not about the baby AT ALL, it’s just about all the curves, the shape of that big belly. 

Anyways if anyone wants to talk about any way they’ve struggled to be open about their fetish or felt weird about it, here is a good place. Or share a ‘coming out’ story.

To be honest, I’m slightly open toward it, it’s not like I go about saying: Hello, I’m into pregnancy. Wanna have dinner?

Like I want to get to know people better before just outright state what turns us on. Am I ashamed, no. Because it’s something I like. Do I keep it secretive, yeah. No one needs to know what turns everyone on immediately

My wife is the only one who knows about it as I'm rather private about my sex life, even with my friends. I was really shy telling her at first but once I told her it opened a door to role-playing and exploring, I've never looked back!

We are currently 11 weeks pregnant with baby #2 and we couldn't be more excited. She knows that it's the curves and the belly that I'm into and the beauty of her changing body. She's not into the pregnancy thing but she lets me indulge in it and I'll be forever grateful to her for that.

If you haven't told your SO yet you trust them, I highly recommend you discuss it with them. Anyone who trusts you will not turn you away. This fetish isn't something to be ashamed of, its just "fetishes" or "what turns us on" in general that society doesn't normally encourage open discussion.

Yeah

anytime I think having a foot fetish is weird i always remember that i have this fetish and that i shouldn't really judge lol

My first serious girlfriend wasn't thrilled when I told her about it, and she made me feel like something was wrong with me. Though I think she might have just been insecure and didn't want me getting off to other women in any way, which I obviously was since she wasn't pregnant. After a while, she indulged me with some light roleplaying in an attempt to meet me in the middle, but the damage was done.

Because of her, I've always gotten nervous about telling women I really care about. If I'm just dating someone and don't think it'll amount to much, I just blurt it out and get on with life... but if I want something more, I worry I'll be judged for it. That's how I know I am into someone -- if I'm afraid she'll be icked out by my fetish! Hah. I haven't found anyone who shares the fetish with me, but at least everyone's been like "okay, well I'm glad that makes you happy!"

Total shame. Like, full stop shame. Never feel the need to bring it up as it's only a fetish and I definitely get aroused by non-pregnant women. Also I know the fetish is never going to cause me to do something stupid as having a kid scares the shit out of me. Like terrifies me like no other.

My wife and a handful of close friends know, but I don't tell anyone else about it. My wife also has the fetish and is quite a bit more open about it, and I've known a handful of other women who were also open about it. So I have a few thoughts...

1. Women have a much easier time being open about it. Pregnant women tend to feel more threatened or objectified by a man admiring or asking to feel their belly than by a woman doing it. This is probably due at least in part to the fact that it's more socially acceptable for women to touch each other than it is for a man to touch a woman, but there are other factors too.
2. Too many people hear "pregnancy fetish" and automatically assume that it has anything to do with the baby. Often times no amount of explaining can really fix that. Perception is reality.
3. Fetishes in general are still widely viewed as deviant behavior to be frowned upon or corrected. Just look at all of the righteous shit Rex Ryan (former NFL coach) and his wife caught when the Internet discovered several years ago that they made some very PG-rated foot fetish videos.
3a. Without getting too political, this is especially true of the religious-conservative sect of American society who collectively believe that you can only feel sexual pleasure during vaginal sex and are all too eager to condemn you for your sexual immorality if you get aroused doing almost literally anything else.
3b. And yet, double standards exist: fetishes for big boobs, big butts, big cocks, and even BDSM are generally socially acceptable or at least understood. Hell, nowadays even foot fetishists have it a little easier than we do.
4. In regards to you in particular, Winnie, if I'm not mistaken you said in the past that your fetish has more to do with you being pregnant than it does an attraction to other pregnant women. That's a pretty big distinction. Correct me if I'm wrong, though.

All that to say: when society is telling you that you're doing something wrong and maybe even that you're a bad person, it's understandable that there are some very real barriers holding many of us back from sharing our fetishes. And timidman is certainly right that there are inappropriate times and ways to share it, just as there are inappropriate times to talk about a lot of personal things. But in social situations where it could conceivably come up and contribute to a discussion, I think many of us would opt for saying quiet.

I do think society is getting there, though, largely because pregnancy has never been more "in" than it is now.

Now, I definitely think it's important that your partner know about it - as eternaldarkness stated, it's about having trust between each other and each person working to satisfy the other. I don't even remember how I told my then-girlfriend (now wife) that I had a pregnancy fetish, but I remember that I waited over a year into our dating relationship before I did, and was relieved when she reacted positively.

i feel shamed about my fetish, even everyone i know including my friend never know my fetish and i dont want talk about it to my friend even they saying have same fetish like me too, i mean its bit weird liking pregnant women but in sexual way, i like keep it secret forever
also why i not saying my fetish to another person is because i remember one of my school friend explictly saying he have this fetish too to my another friend and he mocked until graduated school

Awesome responses, interesting to hear everyone’s stories and perspectives.

@Akhenaten - yes for me it is definitely more about me being pregnant, but pregnant women turn me on for sure.

not a shame and my girlfriend now my wife would like others not to be ashamed.
i'm part of big family and my wife wants a big family too
also my moms knows too about my fetish