I just wanted to share some good news; we just added our first and last baby to our family!
We had the natural birth that I always wanted; it's my third child and my girlfriend's first.
Our maternity hospital was quite busy and encouraged us to stay at home as long as possible and we did; so we arrived after a short (two contraction) taxi ride already dilated to 8cm and ready to start pushing. We did most of the pushing in a classic floor birth on a favorite towel (sorry, favorite towel) and then moved to the work bench (sorry hospital bed) so our fifty-something doctor could see the work-piece (sorry, patient) better.
We had enough staff to practically lift and hold my belly-girl off the bed entirely as she did the last few pushes. The vagina was untrained (I had wanted to stretch her but she always hated being touched like that) so we had some internal tears ("it burns" - I bet it does!) but these were patched with a few hundred meters of fishing line and barbed wire. I was warned off sex for six weeks.
Never really felt turned on by post-birth discharges and baby's emit a baby smell that damps down the male sex drive wonderfully. I actually enjoy no-sex period. There were many of these while we were trying to conceive with a partner who was over forty. So I like saving sperm and feeling my balls all swollen and achy, particularly when I get a baby as a reward.
The very hottest thing now is contemplating sterilization so that this is our last baby. I love all aspects of baby making and would normally never use contraception; I always encourage my partners to try aborting my babies if they did not feel completely confident going to term. This never causes a shortage of babies in a life-time so I'm totally pro-abortion for regular and also spontaneous, irrational use even on planned pregnancies.
It's really good to be a pro-abortion dad and easily let go of a pregnancy. I'm also getting into the idea of routine sterilization for attractive, fertile mothers who drive my instincts to breed them once again. We are having our six week post birth check-up, check-out and will be talking about no more babies theme. I'm in this baby-smell infused relaxed state and am ready to accept permanent sterilization before I return to a strong breeding stance when my girl starts to cycle again.
I'd like to talk to others about planning their own sterilization and the mixed feeling you get from breaking a perfect baby-making system right after a perfect pregnancy. I'm kind of interested in quinacrine sterilization as it leaves the uterus completely irreparable with few other side-effects. We really want to keep the normal female hormonal cycle intact and have our horny times still.
We might actually go for a "virtual" sterilization construct where I have to use condoms religiously or have more no-sex defined as our family-planning concept. For me this is good solution and it encourages (yes, I mean that) my partner to conceive again according to instinct. Yes, I am open to non-monogamous relationships and a setup where I'm not allowed to impregnate again yet other men are. This makes perfect economic sense (I already have three offspring and she has one only) and feels fine to me.
So potentially I'm open to vasectomy (if not, for the awful "hidden" complications) or voluntary no-impregnate rules since she doesn't feel comfortable with planned abortion yet. Anyway, the outcome of this discussion with our doctor will be interesting if she can persuade us not to use "no-sex" as a contraception method. But one rule remains; no hormones and natural female and male sexual dynamics.
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We had the natural birth that I always wanted; it's my third child and my girlfriend's first.
Our maternity hospital was quite busy and encouraged us to stay at home as long as possible and we did; so we arrived after a short (two contraction) taxi ride already dilated to 8cm and ready to start pushing. We did most of the pushing in a classic floor birth on a favorite towel (sorry, favorite towel) and then moved to the work bench (sorry hospital bed) so our fifty-something doctor could see the work-piece (sorry, patient) better.
We had enough staff to practically lift and hold my belly-girl off the bed entirely as she did the last few pushes. The vagina was untrained (I had wanted to stretch her but she always hated being touched like that) so we had some internal tears ("it burns" - I bet it does!) but these were patched with a few hundred meters of fishing line and barbed wire. I was warned off sex for six weeks.
Never really felt turned on by post-birth discharges and baby's emit a baby smell that damps down the male sex drive wonderfully. I actually enjoy no-sex period. There were many of these while we were trying to conceive with a partner who was over forty. So I like saving sperm and feeling my balls all swollen and achy, particularly when I get a baby as a reward.
The very hottest thing now is contemplating sterilization so that this is our last baby. I love all aspects of baby making and would normally never use contraception; I always encourage my partners to try aborting my babies if they did not feel completely confident going to term. This never causes a shortage of babies in a life-time so I'm totally pro-abortion for regular and also spontaneous, irrational use even on planned pregnancies.
It's really good to be a pro-abortion dad and easily let go of a pregnancy. I'm also getting into the idea of routine sterilization for attractive, fertile mothers who drive my instincts to breed them once again. We are having our six week post birth check-up, check-out and will be talking about no more babies theme. I'm in this baby-smell infused relaxed state and am ready to accept permanent sterilization before I return to a strong breeding stance when my girl starts to cycle again.
I'd like to talk to others about planning their own sterilization and the mixed feeling you get from breaking a perfect baby-making system right after a perfect pregnancy. I'm kind of interested in quinacrine sterilization as it leaves the uterus completely irreparable with few other side-effects. We really want to keep the normal female hormonal cycle intact and have our horny times still.
We might actually go for a "virtual" sterilization construct where I have to use condoms religiously or have more no-sex defined as our family-planning concept. For me this is good solution and it encourages (yes, I mean that) my partner to conceive again according to instinct. Yes, I am open to non-monogamous relationships and a setup where I'm not allowed to impregnate again yet other men are. This makes perfect economic sense (I already have three offspring and she has one only) and feels fine to me.
So potentially I'm open to vasectomy (if not, for the awful "hidden" complications) or voluntary no-impregnate rules since she doesn't feel comfortable with planned abortion yet. Anyway, the outcome of this discussion with our doctor will be interesting if she can persuade us not to use "no-sex" as a contraception method. But one rule remains; no hormones and natural female and male sexual dynamics.
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