Just wanted to do a reaffirmation post to assure you all that those closest to you don't mind you have this kink.
I find most of this forum consists of either Chads who hookup with a baby momma every other week, or those of us who are yet to tell our spouse of 7 years we have this kink out of the fear they are so repulsed they immediately flee.
It took me a long time to be open about my pregnancy kink, but it is relieving once you do. I have had four significant girlfriends, and all but one was receptive to it.
GF 1: She suspected I had it because of a screenplay of mine she read which centred around a guy with the kink. When I did confess I had this she was really receptive and happy to engage in dirty talk, and intimate belly touching. She'd actually invite belly massages, and got into the kink a bit too.
After we broke up, I discussed with my psychologist the hesitancy to engage with my kink with future partners out of fear of rejection, as I thought this was surely a one time occurrence. My shrink pointed out that if your partner is non receptive, she's not for you. It was around this time too, that I told my close friends about my kink.
GF 2: It took a lot of courage to tell this girlfriend I had a pregnancy fetish, as she was the first romantic and sexual partner since my previous ex. I mustered up the courage, and told her. She was a bit bewildered at first, but after explaining the attraction is to the woman's physicality, and nothing to do with the foetus, she eased into it, finding my kink cute, and different. Although she said she was happy to engage with the kink, I never felt entirely comfortable doing so as this girlfriend suffered body dismorphia, and I felt me touching her belly may trigger her insecurities.
GF 3: This has been my only negative response, but that stems from her very much not wanting to have kids herself (which I flip-flop on whether this is something I actually want too). However, she was happy for me to touch and massage her stomach. It was more her personal fear of having kids which she was against, not my attraction to the pregnant form.
GF 4 (whos more of a friends with benefits): She thinks it is interesting, and it turns her on that I'm attracted to a woman when she may view herself as the opposite, and when men generally lose interest in their lovers. This partner is happy to engage in it, and she's even comfortable to try sex with a prosthetic belly on (which I'm very much looking forward to!) This GF is very toned, so massaging her belly isn't as gratifying, but I appreciate her engagement with my kink. I might even try see if she'll wear the belly in public.
As I mentioned, I also told my closest friends about my kink. Of the approximate 7 friends I've told, I've only received one negative comment. In fact, my best friend surprisingly admitted to having the same kink! (Although to a lesser infatuation than myself). My friends each have their own kinks too, and I don't pass judgement on them for theirs. If I catch myself doing that, I simply engage in a conversation in which we dissect what they like, and how they came to find their respective kinks. I also found in writing this, I don't purely associate them with their kink, just like they don't do that with me. So you should not worry of such an outcome for yourself.
I will say, pick your battles. I wouldn't tell a work colleague I'm a pregnancy fetishist, but my close friends, and my romantic partners I surely do, because, in my experience, your friends, and especially your partner, won't care what your kink or fetish is, as long as it does no harm. After all, this is only a portion of what makes you. And let's be honest, it's not a part of you that gets brought up frequently in conversation. I do believe if for whatever reason they retaliate, explaining the kink and why you're attracted to pregnancy may help them understand. And more often than not a retaliation is more of a reflection on them; like my ex not wanting kids. But, if for whatever reason your partner can't get around your kink, maybe there needs to be a reflection on the relationship, because they're not accepting this tiny part of your personality.
I hope this has helped some people out there!
I find most of this forum consists of either Chads who hookup with a baby momma every other week, or those of us who are yet to tell our spouse of 7 years we have this kink out of the fear they are so repulsed they immediately flee.
It took me a long time to be open about my pregnancy kink, but it is relieving once you do. I have had four significant girlfriends, and all but one was receptive to it.
GF 1: She suspected I had it because of a screenplay of mine she read which centred around a guy with the kink. When I did confess I had this she was really receptive and happy to engage in dirty talk, and intimate belly touching. She'd actually invite belly massages, and got into the kink a bit too.
After we broke up, I discussed with my psychologist the hesitancy to engage with my kink with future partners out of fear of rejection, as I thought this was surely a one time occurrence. My shrink pointed out that if your partner is non receptive, she's not for you. It was around this time too, that I told my close friends about my kink.
GF 2: It took a lot of courage to tell this girlfriend I had a pregnancy fetish, as she was the first romantic and sexual partner since my previous ex. I mustered up the courage, and told her. She was a bit bewildered at first, but after explaining the attraction is to the woman's physicality, and nothing to do with the foetus, she eased into it, finding my kink cute, and different. Although she said she was happy to engage with the kink, I never felt entirely comfortable doing so as this girlfriend suffered body dismorphia, and I felt me touching her belly may trigger her insecurities.
GF 3: This has been my only negative response, but that stems from her very much not wanting to have kids herself (which I flip-flop on whether this is something I actually want too). However, she was happy for me to touch and massage her stomach. It was more her personal fear of having kids which she was against, not my attraction to the pregnant form.
GF 4 (whos more of a friends with benefits): She thinks it is interesting, and it turns her on that I'm attracted to a woman when she may view herself as the opposite, and when men generally lose interest in their lovers. This partner is happy to engage in it, and she's even comfortable to try sex with a prosthetic belly on (which I'm very much looking forward to!) This GF is very toned, so massaging her belly isn't as gratifying, but I appreciate her engagement with my kink. I might even try see if she'll wear the belly in public.
As I mentioned, I also told my closest friends about my kink. Of the approximate 7 friends I've told, I've only received one negative comment. In fact, my best friend surprisingly admitted to having the same kink! (Although to a lesser infatuation than myself). My friends each have their own kinks too, and I don't pass judgement on them for theirs. If I catch myself doing that, I simply engage in a conversation in which we dissect what they like, and how they came to find their respective kinks. I also found in writing this, I don't purely associate them with their kink, just like they don't do that with me. So you should not worry of such an outcome for yourself.
I will say, pick your battles. I wouldn't tell a work colleague I'm a pregnancy fetishist, but my close friends, and my romantic partners I surely do, because, in my experience, your friends, and especially your partner, won't care what your kink or fetish is, as long as it does no harm. After all, this is only a portion of what makes you. And let's be honest, it's not a part of you that gets brought up frequently in conversation. I do believe if for whatever reason they retaliate, explaining the kink and why you're attracted to pregnancy may help them understand. And more often than not a retaliation is more of a reflection on them; like my ex not wanting kids. But, if for whatever reason your partner can't get around your kink, maybe there needs to be a reflection on the relationship, because they're not accepting this tiny part of your personality.
I hope this has helped some people out there!
