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to singles without pregnancy/kids: do you know the feelings of being evious/ jealous?
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bigpregsweety82
hey @ all lonely human beings,

do you know the feelings of being envious or even jealous when you see happy couples with kids or pregnant women? ecspecially when you are single (male or female) and don't have own children, no sex with a pregnant woman and so on... if yes, how do you deal with it?
Liked by pregnantwomb (May 5, 2017)
bballconnor
To be honest, I'm not really jealous. At least for me, I'm not looking for a relationship, nor do I want kids (as ironic as that may sound).
Akhenaten
I think it'd be hot as hell to be a pregnant woman. So I am jealous of women and their ability to get pregnant. I wouldn't want to keep and raise the results, though.
pregnantwomb
I'M lonely here and jealous but pregnancy still very WOW! and watch my 6 sister get all pregnant i'm last i'm MALE or baby in family that has no wife in sight thanks being up this subject
Paradox
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Yes and no.
I Sometimes am envious of couples. But only due I am only envious not having of pregnant wifes/girlfriend.
Especially now, being 31 years old and single myself, i always hear of work collagues around the same age as me being happy to have their first kids and what not.

But then i am one of these people that would happily live the life of a hermit and dont actively search for long time relationships.

If at all i only tried to get together with pregnant ladies via online advertisement in the past.
It worked a couple of times, yet ironically i realized I want to get to know the lady then. So i only met with 2 women so far. Despite having had contact to like 1-2 or so in the past 10 years.
The first woman i met (a 36weekspreego) 6 years ago, she was awesome. Spent half the day together, went to restaurant, shopping and alike. Had a fun evening like a real couple. I liked it. (I never forget the sight of her belly riding me XD)

Then i met another preggo (around 33 weeks), around 3 years ago.
She was a prostitute (first time i went to meet up with one), so right to her home >room > undress and to the fun... however i actually didnt really got the feeling at all o.o So instead of a nice hour i must admit it i left after just few minutes. She was dissapointed (maybe pissed i guess). However i realized I can only do it with ladies i like and know.
Belly Button
I'm very much 'guilty as charged' when it comes to feelings of jealousy - yes. I'm usually excellent at keeping these specific feelings at bay whenever the subject of relationships crop up with people I know. Sadly, those who do 'have it all' (wife, kids...) look very much 'down' on us and come out with all sorts of false accusations when, in reality, all I’m asking is "why have I been left behind?". Sadly, society seems to be geared up against single people like ourselves who simply can’t get anywhere, regardless of what they do... The stigma against long term single people, especially when you get into your late twenties and beyond, is very real.

For me personally, it's lead to Social Anxiety issues and, as things stand, three diagnosed spells of depression.

I'm sorry if any of that comes across as a bit blunt or harsh - I honestly don't mean it that way. I'm being as constructive as possible and it’s a subject that I really could spend all day (and night...) discussing.

Akhenaten I wouldn't want to keep and raise the results, though.

That's the one benefit of being single, I suppose...!
bigpregsweety82
Belly Button wrote: "That's the one benefit of being single, I suppose...!"

for myself i disagree with that point. but only because i wanna raise kids. to see parents with kids makes me jealous, too.
requnreg-03
Yeah. I hate happy couples more than anything in this God forsaken world. Whenever I see a pregnant or a happy couple in general at work or somewhere out in public I'm rife with anger and bitterness. Social anxiety has crippled me since I was a child and only got worse as I got older. I'm 22 now and in college. All the women I like are going with older guys with decent paying jobs and getting engaged. I hope they get divorced by the time they're thirty and probably will according to my friends in their thirties.
Akhenaten
(May 6, 2017, 5:01 pm)darkman10000 Yeah. I hate happy couples more than anything in this God forsaken world. Whenever I see a pregnant or a happy couple in general at work or somewhere out in public I'm rife with anger and bitterness. Social anxiety has crippled me since I was a child and only got worse as I got older. I'm 22 now and in college. All the women I like are going with older guys with decent paying jobs and getting engaged. I hope they get divorced by the time they're thirty and probably will according to my friends in their thirties.

See a couple you hope gets divorced? Flip a coin. Those are the chances now.

I was married. Can't recommend it. Find someone (or someones) you like, get together, pool your resources, have a good time. But don't bother with all the paperwork and other nonsense. It's really not worth the trouble, especially if you end up being one of the 50%+ whose marriage fails. Don't know about you, but I sure wouldn't get involved in something with statistics like that!
Belly Button
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The longer time has gone on, the less I'm now inclined to marry - if I ever get an opportunity. There's too many horror stories out there now and whilst it was something I was 'all for' in my teens, this had almost entirely evaporated by the time I turned 30. I’m certainly not 'dead against' it or anything like that. Each to their own and there’s no doubt still a part of me that still wants to. However, I think the only way I’d do this now would be with some sort of written prenuptial agreement. Without that, I would go as far as saying the answer would be a straightforward “no”, now.

I’ve got to the stage now where there are now people quite literally half my age who have done considerably 'more' than I have. I won’t even deny that this has effected how I think and how I feel towards certain things and again...it certainly hasn’t been down to a lack of effort on my part. I don’t honestly see how my mindset can be changed given that I never got anywhere in my youth. People who have gone 'all the way' look at men like me as some sort of 'evil' when all I’ve ever done is try to explain my feelings and why I feel the way I do over certain things. They look at things from their shoes (and presuming we have had their luck and fortunes), without trying to step into ours.

Again, people who can get somewhere with long term relationships often hold unfair stigmas against those who can’t. These stigmas, beyond our control, also hinder our chances and do not open up the same windows of opportunity which are open to others. A lot of people claim it’s just a 'confidnce' thing and sorry, but I find that incredibly simplistic and one-dimensional way of looking at it. One question that I've asked is how can I just "be" confident - without having had the same little perks and privileges that others have had - which has made them confident in the first place. I need just a little something back every so often in order for me to develop that confidence in the first place. I cannot create it out of fresh air - and this is something those who have had luck in the past (all present company accepted, of course), simply cannot comprehend. Again, they’re only looking at it from their own situation - rather than seeing a lot of elements they've had and have taken for granted are things we don’t have and in some cases, never had. On top of that, they probably don't have to deal with near-crippling social anxiety which has partly been brought on by a complete lack of success.

bigpregsweety82 for myself i disagree with that point. but only because i wanna raise kids. to see parents with kids makes me jealous, too.

That's absolutely fine...! Each to their own! There was a time I would have loved to have been a father - when I was in my 20's. I felt ready. However, after not being able to get anywhere, I began to become increasingly despondent and now that I'm into my 30's, I've pretty much accepted it's never going to happen for me. I have no desire to be an 'older' parent either.

I'm still jealous of those with children oddly enough, but knowing that even the very last of my old friends to start having kids is now more than three years 'ahead' of me, has just given me another 'kick the guts'. It's hard to explain exactly how I feel. A combination of where I'm jealous of those who have had no issue in having a relationship or children and that it's realistically too late for me.

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