I found this blog post earlier today and I thought it would be interesting to get the forum's thoughts. Personally, I think this woman is allowing her fetish to control her life. https://thoughtcatalog.com/anonymous/201...g-my-life/

I'm pretty sure I've read that before somewhere (it's three years old). I think the kicker here is when she admitted that she had always focused on the pregnancy and never really comprehended what would come after. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent, and since this fetish has such high stakes (it necessarily involves creating new life) some people should probably stick to fantasy instead of pursuing satisfaction in real life.

Too much of anything can be unhealthy. I have always said that the danger point for me would be if one of my fetishes got to the point where I couldn't function without it. Thankfully that has never happened to me. In fact, the pregnancy fetish has been a very positive feature of my marriage to my wife.

Why on earth hasn't she considered surrogacy? It's a glaringly obvious solution. It could even help her reach a point where she says, after five more pregnancies, "ah, yeah, you know -- I think I've had enough."

(September 7, 2017, 6:06 pm)Akhenaten Why on earth hasn't she considered surrogacy? It's a glaringly obvious solution. It could even help her reach a point where she says, after five more pregnancies, "ah, yeah, you know -- I think I've had enough."

This chick would never get past the psych screening for being a surrogate. I think she knows it too.

I read this when I googled "pregnancy fetish". Not the worst thing I read. Her feelings is like saying "I want the burger but not the cow" or "I want to make money but I dont want to do anything that will get me tired". Just sad. I feel sorry for the kids. So based on what I read: she wanted the feel of being huge, feeling movements & going through labor, after its over she feels depressed because it takes longer. Now shes stuck with 2 kids she doesnt want but is too scared to tell the husband.

The least she could have done is make up a story. She could have just gotten pregnant, never told the husband, told him about the fetish, made up a story saying the belly is specially made like the movies and then give birth when hes not home, or in another room or hotel and give the kids up. That way she doesnt see dispair when she comes home.

Theres lot of women like her around. Some could be the cam & video girls we like. Proably why one of them deleted all their social media accounts. They loved being pregnant & making vids but she didnt want more kids so she gave up.

Lastly: thats why i love surrogates some love pregnancy like us, i saw an article on it once. One woman gives birth, gets pregnant real fast. Itz why my mom & sister became one. My mom got me & my sister... she doesnt have the patience for more kids. Now she carries others babies for 42 weeks, has a home water birth & does it all over again. Its like living the same day over.

She probably wouldn't get past any sort of screening, but you have to admit it's sad and ironic. If one of the absolutely necessary goals of surrogacy screening is to ensure that the surrogate will not, under any circumstances, change her mind and wish to keep the baby/babies... well, this woman's a perfect candidate.

I'm the male equivalent of this woman, only I never made the mistake of having unwanted kids. I can relate to her only in that I know I'd very likely feel how she does if I ended up in her situation. Not everyone's wired to do the human child parenting thing. Sucks for her and her family, though I'm finding it pretty much impossible to blame her for any of it. Life's really short, and certain experiences can only be had within certain windows of time. Shit or get off the pot. Sounds like she's miserable but taking responsibility regardless.

(September 8, 2017, 12:57 am)Akhenaten She probably wouldn't get past any sort of screening, but you have to admit it's sad and ironic. If one of the absolutely necessary goals of surrogacy screening is to ensure that the surrogate will not, under any circumstances, change her mind and wish to keep the baby/babies... well, this woman's a perfect candidate.

Yes, it's a perfect, tragic irony. Of course, there are several facets of the psych angle that she would probably fail, but she would at least have that one in spades.

Ultimately she is cursed with something that is inherently temporary, both on a small scale (only lasts for nine months at a time) and a large scale (even if she wanted further pregnancies she can't keep doing it for her whole life). Such is the unique nature of our fetish. Reading between the lines, it's clear that pregnancy was pretty rough on her body, especially the second time around, and being physically damaged (so to speak) by something you desire so much can end the honeymoon pretty quickly. To make matters worse, there is currently no available plastic surgery to address her desire. If only she had a boob fetish she could go get massive implants, but no doctor that values their medical license (at least in the US) would do anything for her belly.

The more I think about it, I think her real underlying issue may be something like body dysmorphic disorder. In her case the pregnancy fetish could just be a symptom, not the actual illness.

Does anyone here actually have any experience with the psych screening process for surrogacy? I admit to knowing nothing about it, and my naive mind says that someone who simply prefers to be pregnant would be a good candidate. What else would they consider? Her husband's objections? Sure, but he seemed to enjoy her pregnancies as much as she did. Maybe they should have ten kids together. Would the end of the pregnancies trigger a catastrophic depression? Well, maybe, but that's pretty extreme and it hasn't happened in two pregnancies. Is her health unsuitable? Technically, that's a medical issue, not a psychological one, but it could be a disqualifier.

A woman has to have some kind of psychological quirk to be a surrogate; that is, to want to get pregnant just for money. Why not simply because she likes to be pregnant? Why is this by itself a disqualifier?

More interesting, I thought, were the first two sentences in the article: "My fetish is more common than you think it is. A lot of people have it." I get a sense of shame in her discussion of her emotions. But if a lot of people feel the way she does, why is it shameful? Why is it a fetish? I believe the shame itself is the problem, not the desire to be pregnant. If twenty women feel joyful fulfillment while pregnant and a sense of loss afterward, but only one of them feels shame about it, then the shame is the problem and not the joy/loss feelings. I wonder if she is simply a victim of postpartum depression and just feels ashamed about that.

I would have loved to have 5-7 kids with my wife, maybe more. She called it quits at three and I had to accept it. Okay, that's the breaks. I'm disappointed, too.

This was very interesting to read as I am married and have 3 young children with my wife. So I can empathize a bit. I loved the 9 months of pregnancy each time. And each time it ended I was a bit sad to see it end. Though the months of engorged lactating breasts on her were a nice consolation prize. When she asked if we should try for another I was always enthusiastic because I loved the pregnancies of course, but I also love the kids. How unfortunate for this woman to feel that way. It really is a shame she wouldn't be a candidate for surrogacy.

I've always thought about this but never came up with a clear reason of a dark side to it. I know that one of the negatives to it is that if someone else sees you in public looking at this type of fetish that you are creepy and weird. You also have to figure out when this fetish is starting to take control of your life and when you should cut its head off. Each person reacts different to this fetish or any fetish. Our fetish is one of the more underground types of fetishes. (You guys can agree or disagree on this if you want.) I highly doubt that our type of fetish has a silver lining or not and it also falls in between the idea of a fetish and kink to others in the world.

This is the first time that I ever heard of a girl having a pregnancy fetish. Usually you would think that men have this fetish more often then women. It's also hard to find someone who's not a therapist to be this open with this type of fetish. I know that we are open to each other about this fetish and it's little deviations of the fetish. I also think that with having a family or being part of a family makes it hard to admit this fetish to other people.