I'm working alongside a woman who is in her late 20s and going through her first pregnancy. She's a skinny sweet little white woman who married a guy who was a literal giant so she's showing very out front and large even for almost 28 weeks. She's very prominently showing, the rest of her body has also endearingly softened, and her bump is large and in charge.

And yet she still hasn't rubbed her belly. Not once. I haven't seen her touch it, hold it, acknowledge it. 

And, perhaps the strangest part to me, is that I find it kinda hot.

Imagine a very skinny white chick with a big pregnant belly way out front with her back arched and her arms just perfectly straight at her sides. It's not really that she's avoiding the pregnancy or anything out of contempt for it, but it's still a fascinating little quirk I've never seen anyone who was pregnant have. The idea of so consciously choosing to acknowledge that which is obvious is just somewhat intriguing.

I can see that! I'm no psychologist ...

but I suppose it's giving you a subconscious notion that she's normalized the idea of being heavily pregnant. As if it's just a part of her life now, which as you say is different from contempt. It's like seeing pregnant news casters, weather girls, waitresses, etc. just going about their day and job. As much as I love women openly enjoying their pregnancy, that normalization and acceptance of it in public and work spaces would probably make most women less likely to hide it.