Hi! I'm back after deleting my old account and there is one thing I want to talk about: kinkshaming around maiesiophilia. There are women on youtube channels and instagram/tiktok profiles, who are mad about pregnancy fetishism. They call us all "disgusting" and "awful", putting us all in one bag. They show us as perverts, who can not be controlled. But I don't agree with them.

First of all these "perverts", who keep asking about showing the belly, seem to be frustrated, because they can't get physical contact. Attacking them may seem right, because they violate womens' privacy, but can we discuss the results of this way? Spoiler: that kind of acting won't solve the problem. Some of these guys may be afraid, but they will use fake accounts to get a piece of an experience, which is their goal. Society shouldn't escalate the problem and shouldn't force them to hide, because it will only get worse. Why? Because fetish isn't the thing, which can't be erased just like that or simply hidden. Our sexuality doesn't work this way. Instead we should ask the question: do people with that fetish have enough ways to satisfy themselves? Well, perhaps there are women, who make content on onlyfans and of course there is a porn and we can watch cams. We also have this forum. Okay, but that doesn't solve the problem, because there is no physical contact. Porn can even make it worse if it's the only way of satisfying. I'm sure that everyone was in that place and not everybody has social skills or patience to look for pregnant women and pick them up, right? Especially if someone has his preferences and these preferences are obviously normal. So why dating apps don't allow to filter women by their pregnancy? I don't want a special app to meet only pregnant women, because this app would die quickly, but Tinder, Badoo or FB Dates could include that possibility to make it easier. It doesn't solve the problem, but I will talk this in a next point.

Secondly it's not an extreme fetish, so can we stop being ashamed of that? I know, most of us won't tell anything to friends or family, but why? Because they take an example from the rest of society and they believe in that non formal status quo, which is called "normality". I don't want to expand the subject of "normality", but I just want to point the thing, that this fear and disgust are something stated by society, not science. Maiesiophilia doesn't hurt anyone and there is a lot of more extreme cases (e.g. animals, children). Pregnant women are adults, who make their own decisions, so this fetish doesn't involve anything wrong. But people usually see pregnant woman as someone, who needs extra protection and is untouchable. Perhaps it's right, but I would prefer educating people about pregnancy, so the pregnant woman won't be that weird "Box of Pandora", that should be closed and isolated. This irrational kind of thinking and bullying single moms to be on fb groups are main reasons, why dating apps won't include mentioned option: society doesn't want. And just like that we come back to the case of proper education...

Well, assuming it all, even that forum could never appear if we had the proper society mindset and enough tools, to date pregnant women in real life. It could also be much less popular. But it's only my conclusion. I want to know your thoughts about it, because I'm really tired of pretending, that my fetish isn't normal and I'm tired of these women, who put us in one bag and don't even think about real solutions.

Nearly all kinks are shamed - it's not just ours. Most cultures are sexually repressed, which is pathetic given all we've learned about human sexuality. We're not going to get a free pass any more than, say, the foot people are, at least not any time soon.

And just as there are very few healthy and reliable ways for people with other kinks to connect, the same can be said for those with a pregnancy kink. It's very difficult to satisfy the urge responsibly with another human, and unfortunately that difficulty leads some men to do and say some pretty awful things. We're not entitled to women, pregnant or not, in any way, so we need to be careful how we approach that kind of talk. On its own, the kink truly is harmless. But when combined with shitty people, it's as dangerous as anything.

I'm sorry you're tired of pretending. I don't like hiding this part of myself, either. I'm tired of how it's okay for me to like women in a general sense, maybe even make a comment about breasts because it's OK to like breasts, whereas I have to be very careful who learns about my pregnancy kink because oh no, it's taboo! Even though it's a celebration of fertility and femininity.

(December 22, 2023, 11:58 pm)Akhenaten Nearly all kinks are shamed - it's not just ours. Most cultures are sexually repressed, which is pathetic given all we've learned about human sexuality. We're not going to get a free pass any more than, say, the foot people are, at least not any time soon.

And just as there are very few healthy and reliable ways for people with other kinks to connect, the same can be said for those with a pregnancy kink. It's very difficult to satisfy the urge responsibly with another human, and unfortunately that difficulty leads some men to do and say some pretty awful things. We're not entitled to women, pregnant or not, in any way, so we need to be careful how we approach that kind of talk. On its own, the kink truly is harmless. But when combined with shitty people, it's as dangerous as anything.

I'm sorry you're tired of pretending. I don't like hiding this part of myself, either. I'm tired of how it's okay for me to like women in a general sense, maybe even make a comment about breasts because it's OK to like breasts, whereas I have to be very careful who learns about my pregnancy kink because oh no, it's taboo! Even though it's a celebration of fertility and femininity.

Yeah, the shitty people are the biggest problem in our world community. There are guys, who can't be justified and there are guys, who are lost, but their lack of control puts us all in the bad light. However I want to point one thing: even choosing the best words and having the best approach won't give you 100% chance to make a relationship with a pregnant woman. And yeah, it works in the same way with non pregnancy relations, but there is that difference, that even with calm approach you can be called gross or pervert because of that kinkshaming thing. That's why I talk about some guys, who are lost - they meet a wall and they can't avoid it, so they go dark and do awful things after years of looking solutions. This kind of frustration is deep inside and it's really hard to fight it, especially when you know, that your fetish doesn't hurt anyone. It doesn't seem right at all, just like bullying people with foot fetish.

On one hand, I'm pretty sure most pregnant creators, especially on YouTube, aren't making content for us. They're making content because they want to share their experience with the world, mainly other moms. If/when they find out that some people are wanking off to their content, it makes sense they'd be disgusted and put off from making more content. That's just how it is.

On the other hand, I think most people would agree that pregnancy is on the lighter end of the fetish spectrum. One could see it as part of the belly fetish umbrella, and if the '90s were any indication, a lot of people think bellies are sexy. Plus, there are people like Rihanna, Ciara, Kelly Kelly, and Ashley Graham, who flaunted their bellies for the world to see. They're showing that A) women can still look sexy while pregnant, and B) pregnancy itself can be sexy.

I do think legalizing prostitution would solve a lot of problems in our society, including ours, but that's a whole separate conversation.

I do heavily respect Rihanna, Ciara, Kelly Kelly, and Ashley Graham for their body positivity and openness to embrace their changing bodies I do think as each generation passes people are becoming more sexually repressed this is coming from a Gen-zer here haha like ironically speaking to people about their fetish once the ice is broken is one of the best things to do but obviously you have to be very careful on how you go about it because some people might not be ready for it or come to terms with themselves as a person especially in western cultures. I think the media and certain social media platforms play into the idea of making having an open fetish a spectacle rather than it being a something welcoming obviously there's lines to be drawn but for myself I personally am into the body changes pregnancy does to to curvaceous women and sometimes into just big bellies on short curvy ladies like latinas or arabic women haha but again that's just me!

Tbh every kink has perverts...

I think the issues from  what I have seen on  here is not kink shaming but alot of guys who don't know how to act in public around pregnant women or in general.  I remember one guy who posted on here that he got kicked out of a CVS or Walgreens for following a pregnant woman and when he complained to corporate, he seemed generally shocked that they did nothing.  Another guy who posted on here that he was at the DR'S office with his mom and there was a woman in labor and his mom wouldn't let him talk to her.  Another guy who hungout in the maternity section of Target asking women to rub their bellis.  Another guy who tried to organize a harassment campaign against an OF model who blocked him.  Also I have recived DMs from a guy asking for a photo of a 1 night stand I had 10 years earlier that I forgot about and another from a guy asking to feel my wife's belly.  So yes unfortunately some of the guys on here have no idea how to behave in public.  I apologize for the late reply as I just got back from a mini vacation

Having a go at someone for being a creep/stalker is not kinkshaming. Kinkshaming is calling people out for what their kink is, even when it is talked about in a supposedly safe place.

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Dude that’s fucking disgusting - how could any person be into that?!

Is not the same as a pregnant woman complaining about being photographed without consent, or being followed around a store.