Personally I've always been pretty open with my past girlfriends about my fetish but it has definitely been a point of vulnerability for me. I've been lucky - it's always been something they've been accepting of. I think my biggest fear was that it would be misunderstood by my partner. That she would maybe assume that it was more of my identity than it actually was. To be clear, it is a pretty integral part of my sexuality and it's something I really appreciate someone incorporating into our relationship but it's not everything obviously.

If I were in your boyfriend's shoes I'd want to talk about it it openly if only to clear the air about what specifically I was into, why, and what I was comfortable with/the boundaries of it. I don't know how open of a person he is though so I guess the level to which you folks talk about it comes down to your own judgement. I guess setting healthy boundaries is an important part of any relationship though.

As far as indulging the fetish itself there are a few things that worked well for me but again, people come to a pregnancy fetish from many different perspectives so it really depends on specifically *what* parts of pregnancy make your boyfriend tick. For me

1. The implication of pregnancy, whether it be talking about getting pregnant off handedly or roleplay is a major turn on. The thought of someone I'm already attracted to openly talking about getting pregnant is very much enough to get the imagination going.

2. This one is weird, or at least something that I feel weird about but: Food babies (or any kind of bloating that could approximate pregnancy). I don't have any of the food-related fetishes really that involve sexualizing stuffing one's face (although who doesn't like food?), but the result of it is close enough to pregnancy since so many pregnancy fetishes are about the belly that it really gets me going. It's important not to do anything dangerous or unhealthy but bloating happens, and provided you're not too physically uncomfortable that is something that might be an avenue you could take. Ex's of mine have before deliberately chugged some water after eating to cause this and... well I appreciated it.


Anyways I hope you find something that works and that this fetish makes your relationship stronger! Best of luck!

The best advice I could give is just sit down andntalk with him. Be understanding and be supportive - even if you are not 100% comfortable (which does not mean rush into things outside your safe/comfort zone). If he has not shared this part of his personality with you then there may be a reason, perhaps he's never told anyone....

Remember that he is with you now in your current non pregnant state and by your own admission you seem to care for and have an attraction for one another, his kink is now who he is nor is he limited by it and its also not his place to push a fantasty on you if you are not on board.

I would guess he would reapond positivly to a kind, loving, understanding and open approach from yourself and will likely ooen up to you about thoughts and desires, try to role with it if you can if this is the case. 

You have done a brave thing asking for support as ultimatly this is a fetish board which is somewhat extreme in nature (not judging anyone here BTW) but you will get the most honest answers here and as like minded a response you could hope for.

No one here can possibly know how your partner will respond to anything - you are the best judge of that. If you are truely concerned about backlash then it may be better to wait until he introduces the subject or you could try to slowly coax the conversation by discussing 'fantasys' or something. Lastly as an alternative route you could try slipping something into a real life conversation and guage his reaction, e.g. point out a pregnant lady on the tv or at a shop and comment how glowing she is and see if that nudges the conversation out of him. Ultimatly communication between you will be key - remember to be kind always.

What are the chances he browses this website?

I can almost guarantee that you would drive him absolutely *wild* simply dropping in comments here and there about pregnancy. Anything, really. "Wow, that celebrity looks gorgeous with her pregnant belly". See what he says. "Do you think I'll look as good?" See what he says. "Sometimes I imagine what I'll look like. Have you ever thought about how I'll look?" Etc. "Would you still be attracted to me when I'm nine months pregnant?" "It turns me on thinking about it sometimes". If he seems comfortable enough with honest answers... "I've heard some men have a pregnancy fetish... do you? I'd love it if you did". Give him a bunch of softballs that offer him the opportunity to express how he feels without confronting him "Hey I saw XYZ on your computer". All of this could end up being a really great bonding experience for both of you, especially if you end up just really talking about it and asking him what you can do to indulge him. All of that is A+ girlfriend behavior. He's a lucky guy! Your concerns, though, are super valid. Will his attraction to you change? Probably not, if he really loves you. Does he *only* want to get you pregnant and ignore you the rest of the time? Definitely not. He's human so there are layers and dimensions beyond what you might imagine. I would say this - avoid talking about it and confronting him about it like it's some kind of affliction, like there's something wrong with him, and you're trying to come to terms with it. That mentality/tone can really shut people down, it's an isolating experience, and probably wouldn't get very far in the conversation. Anyway, you're already on the right track coming here to ask what to do about it. Good on you! Good luck. Chances are, he's on this website already, and might even see this post.

Welcome to the forum and genuinely thank you for keeping an open mind to this particular fetish. I appreciate it can (and does) 'weird out' a lot of people as it's one of those fetishes which remains lesser-known, or should I rather describe it as 'lesser understood'. Personally speaking it's a fetish which I've always personally kept to myself simply because of this and how badly it could be taken. I wouldn't want to put myself in an embarrassing or very awkward situation with someone who doesn't understand or willing to accept it's merely another fetish - just one which perhaps isn't 'mainstream'. I think I've got to the age now where it's very unlikely I'd ever truly open-up about it away from the relevant forums. 

I can only really echo what others have said here and I'll talk from my own anxious, nervous perspective as a man who really likes this fetish, but wouldn't have a clue how to bring it up with a woman. Could I make the first move? Almost certainly no. Would I be able to perhaps drop a few hints once I've got to know her well? Perhaps - it would depend on how open she was when it come down to that particular area of the relationship. Would I be willing to open up about it if she discussed her own fetishes once the time was right? I suspect I may bring it up, to start off with, as a belly fetish and see how it goes from there... Maybe push it to belly inflation/expansion - which many could argue is almost the same thing. Obviously all men with this fetish are different. This is just how I'd personally react or respond to it if I was persuaded to discuss such a topic. The last thing I'd want to do would be to ruin what was otherwise a good relationship because of a fetish which, overall in the mainstream, isn't really accepted or understood because of a few bad people. 

I do wish both of you well and again, thanks for the effort you've gone to, for showing willing to understand and accept the pregnancy fetish.

Lastly, it would be fantastic if he was already a member here and was reading through this thread, yes!

After reading this, I hope you understand that you know everything you need to know about talking to your boyfriend. Pillow talk: "I want to get pregnant someday. I hope you'll like it." Once the conversation is opened, you will both negotiate your boundaries of support. You don't actually have to be pregnant encourage him. You can talk about whatever you want (fake bellies from Amazon, etc...), but just make sure he's committed to raising the children before you drop your birth control.

UPDATE:

I genuinely appreciate all the help here, it actually helped calm me down and not freak out. Which, to make everyone feel better, has much more to do with me in new relationships than discovering the fetish. So I decide to come back here and give up an update lol.

I finally decided to talk to him about it, mainly because he lied about something to tried to hide it from me. Which I am empathetic towards, I know why he did, I wasn’t mad, but I felt like if he has to lie about himself and I already know, we are playing a dumb game. So I simply told him, hey I want you to know- I love you, and I’d like us both to be ourselves or this is never going to work. So I actually shared a fantasy of mine to break the ice. And that I knew that he had an interest in this. Which definitely scared him and wanted to downplay it immediately as not really something he was that into. So I told him that’s fine, just throwing it out there we can incorporate things for each other if we want. I let it go.

At that point, he eventually came back to me about it and realized he could discuss it. It was actually cuddling after sex which helped make it not seem so awkward or formal. These were helpful things for me in our discussion:

1) Him explaining what he was drawn too. And why. And the limits of it. But honestly, not too much detail. It was sexy to learn about his kink, but I didn’t need to hear a ton about what he found attractive about pregnant woman he sees etc - (which I am not). I wasn’t mad, that’s why it’s a fantasy, and it’s sexy to me to think of him being turned on or dirty, but I can get the gist without a full rundown. I have a lot of beautiful pregnant friends, and I honestly got somewhat awkward thinking about the times we’ve been with them wondering if he was attracted to them. But that’s life in any relationship, for any attraction, just don’t make that too hard for your woman to sort through by *over* explaining how much a pregnant woman’s body turns you on because you want to show how this fetish can be beautiful. (Which it can be!! Plenty of pregnant woman would love a world where their bodies are rightfully revered and not mocked. They are rockstars) but remember, you might be focusing on your insecurity about having theses desires, but if she loves you- she’s probably also insecure that she’s not able to fulfill them. That you’re gonna need to get your true sexual satisfaction another way. So him reminding me throughout his convo this is a turn on, not his identity. And reminding me how much he’s enjoyed things we’ve done together that he’s enjoyed that has nothing to do with that. That being with me wasn’t something that would be less appealing that fully engaging in this desire

2) letting me ask questions without thinking they are accusatory, even if they can be awkward. For example, I wanted to understand the actual attraction of getting me pregnant, vs visual etc etc. I have had a birth control issue and so I needed to feel comfortable about what we were doing there etc.

3)Not really going to the extreme outer limits of what he was into with this. At least not initially. It was much easier for me to simply say generally what I wasn’t comfortable with in terms of boundaries and what I was happy to explore. rather than us really addressing if that’s a thing he wanted to try. It’s a lot to take in all it once. And it’s an ongoing convo. Letting me get comfortable in my own sexual desires with it. And tbh- If I honestly know my boundaries, don’t think I comfortable with certain aspects, whether he wants to or not is kinda a moot point. For that reason, I asked him to delete the tumblr he had it make it so I couldn’t see it, just because I was vulnerable in saying it might not be helpful for me to see a play by play of everything dirty thing he’s been turned on lol. Not like I was ashamed of him and I do earnestly want to explore this with him, but again-baby steps.

4) I hesitate to say this one, cause I don’t want to be misunderstood but it’s honest. Be very careful if/how you mention anything that has any reference to birth or children or the fetus. I didn’t think it had anything to do with it, and also had read this site, and understood so I wasn’t concerned when I spoke with him. But I’d be lying if I said when I first found his tumblr that some of the pictures he liked etc didn’t initially freak me out for that reason. Even if I really didn’t think so, remember it was all new to me so my mind was jumping around. For ex: I saw a picture of a pregnant mother holding her baby, a stomach moving because of the fetus, birth situations etc. I didn’t have any context for why any of that would be sexual and imo felt most uncomfortable with those type of images. I know y’all reading this forum are probably really surprised at that as of course that had nothing to do with the child itself, but I think actually many women with no context, might worry those are somehow part of it. We are kinda evolutionary hard wired to jump to assessing predatory situations, especially with children, so it’s a gut reaction. So I’m just saying, you may have no idea that would even be a thing people could think but really would keep that in mind when discussing anything so an off hand mention isn’t misunderstood etc.

5) Us establishing that simply having a kink, doesn’t change the rules of the game. I’m supportive in saying that it’s not any different from any other attraction- but I mean that both ways. For example, i absolutely do not care if he looks at porn, I’m not a prude, but I do think too much can affect our sex life and enjoyment of it. So no, I don’t care if he indulges in the fetish on his own, and I’m absolutely willing to incorporate parts of this fantasy, but if he simply becoming engrossed in the online indulgence of it- I think that changes tastes and satisfaction of our organic sex life together. Everything has a balance. I’m here, I love him, I’m happy he is who is- but he needs to make sure he isn’t losing himself to one part of sexual desire.

Hope that was helpful!!

(January 14, 2022, 4:30 pm)katherinelilac UPDATE:

I genuinely appreciate all the help here, it actually helped calm me down and not freak out. Which, to make everyone feel better, has much more to do with me in new relationships than discovering the fetish. So I decide to come back here and give up an update lol.

I finally decided to talk to him about it, mainly because he lied about something to tried to hide it from me. Which I am empathetic towards, I know why he did, I wasn’t mad, but I felt like if he has to lie about himself and I already know, we are playing a dumb game. So I simply told him, hey I want you to know- I love you, and I’d like us both to be ourselves or this is never going to work. So I actually shared a fantasy of mine to break the ice.  And that I knew that he had an interest in this. Which definitely scared him and wanted to downplay it immediately as not really something he was that into. So I told him that’s fine, just throwing it out there we can incorporate things for each other if we want. I let it go.

At that point, he eventually came back to me about it and realized he could discuss it. It was actually cuddling after sex which helped make it not seem so awkward or formal. These were helpful things for me in our discussion:

1) Him explaining what he was drawn too. And why. And the limits of it. But honestly, not too much detail. It was sexy to learn about his kink, but I didn’t need to hear a ton about what he found attractive about pregnant woman he sees etc - (which I am not). I wasn’t mad, that’s why it’s a fantasy, and it’s sexy him to me being turned on, but I can get the gist without a full rundown. I have a lot of beautiful pregnant friends, and I honestly got somewhat awkward thinking about the times we’ve been with them wondering if he was attracted to them. But that’s life in any relationship, for any attraction, just don’t make that too hard for your woman to sort through by *over* explaining how much a pregnant woman’s body turns you on. Remember, you might be focusing on your insecurity about having these desire, but if she loves you- she’s also insecure that she’s not able to fulfill them. Him reminding me throughout his convo this is a turn on, not his identity. And reminding me how much he’s enjoyed things we’ve done together that he’s enjoyed that has nothing to do with that.

2) letting me ask questions without thinking they are accusatory, even if they can be awkward. For example, I wanted to understand the actual attraction of getting me pregnant, vs visual etc etc. I have had a birth control issue and so I needed to feel comfortable about what we were doing there etc.

3)Not really going to the extreme outer limits of what he was into with this. At least not initially. It was much easier for me to simply say generally what I wasn’t comfortable with in terms of boundaries and what I was happy to explore. rather than us really addressing if that’s a thing he wanted to try. It’s a lot to take in all it once. And it’s an ongoing convo. Letting me get comfortable in my own sexual desires with it. And tbh- If I honestly know my boundaries, don’t think I comfortable with certain aspects, whether he wants to or not is kinda a moot point. For that reason, I asked him to delete the tumblr he had it make it so I couldn’t see it,  just because I was vulnerable in saying it might not be helpful for me to see a play by play of everything dirty thing he’s been turned on lol. Not like I was ashamed of him and I do earnestly want to explore this with him, but again-baby steps.

4) I hesitate to say this one, cause I don’t want to be misunderstood but it’s honest. Be very careful if/how you mention anything that has any reference to birth or children or the fetus. I didn’t think it had anything to do with it, and also had read this site, and understood so I wasn’t concerned when I spoke with him. But I’d be lying if I said when I first found his tumblr that some of the pictures he liked etc didn’t initially freak me out for that reason. Even if I really didn’t think so, remember it was all new to me so my mind was jumping around. For ex: I saw a picture of a pregnant mother holding her baby, a stomach moving because of the fetus, birth situations etc. I didn’t have any context for why any of that would be sexual and imo felt most uncomfortable with those type of images. I know y’all reading this forum are probably really surprised at that as of course that had nothing to do with the child itself, but I think actually many women with no context, might worry those are somehow part of it. We are kinda evolutionary  hard wired to jump to assessing predatory situations, especially with children, so it’s a gut reaction. So I’m just saying, you may have no idea that would even be a thing people could think but really would keep that in mind when discussing anything so an off hand mention isn’t misunderstood etc.

5) Us establishing that simply having a kink, doesn’t change the rules of the game. I’m supportive in saying that it’s not any different from any other attraction- but I mean that both ways. For example, i absolutely do not care if he looks at porn, I’m not a prude, but I do think too much can affect our sex life and enjoyment of it. So no, I don’t care if he indulges in the fetish on his own, and I’m absolutely willing to incorporate parts of this fantasy, but if he simply becoming engrossed in the online indulgence  of it- I think that changes tastes and satisfaction of our organic sex life together. Everything has a balance. I’m here, I love him, I’m happy he is who is- but he needs to make sure he isn’t losing himself to one part of sexual desire.

Hope that was helpful!!

And you two are still together, right?

(January 14, 2022, 4:51 pm)PregnantBelly katherinelilac
And you two are still together, right?

 I guess that was key information I should’ve included, yep! We are. Things are great!

Good to hear the conversation went well. I can definitely get the careful/hesitation about point 4 and it is 100% something I worried about in the past. I don't want someone's mind to jump to the worst possible thing out of context which is why put so much effort into being able to explain my own motivations with empathy to what someone else might interpret them as.