Help me! I want to tell my boyfriend about my fetish.

Some backgroud: I am 23 and I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years. He's 25. I am (was) on birth control for 3 years! Unfortunately the last time I went to my pharmacy to get my Rx, they messed it up and gave me the wrong brand. You wouldn't think that would be a big deal but it changed my cycle, so I had to stop using birth control for a month until I could restart it properly. During that month, my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex 3 times. He was aware I was temporarily off birth control. He used the "pull out" method. I secretly hoped it would fail each time. I pretended I wanted to be cautious but I really wanted him to just fill me up and knock me up.

(by the way I am on it because I have cysts on my ovaries and birth control helps with the pain they cause)

Fast forward to a week ago. I was 6 days late for my period and for his sake I pretended to be freaking out a little. Honestly, a part of me really wanted to be pregnant. I told a few people at work that I might be pregnant and I absolutely loved the attention I was getting. My boyfriend was supportive (also optimistic that I was not pregnant) and would kiss me and cuddle me to make me feel better. And he doesn't do it often but when he puts his hand on my belly, it really gets me going. Even though we were in the middle of a pregnancy "scare" we had spontaneous sex on the couch and I have to say, it was the best sex of my life. The thought that "This is it. I could actually be pregnant. I'm going to grow and get so much loving attention" got me so wet.

Here is my problem, and maybe I'm a terrible person. I do not want kids right now. We are just starting out in a house we can barley afford and not even engaged. We do not want kids until we're in our 30's just because we are realistic and know we can't take care of a child right now. I wanted to be pregnant so badly, but give the child up for adoption. That's where my head is at. And I feel so terrible.

Anyway, I ended up getting my period and I was just like "ahh well".

So since that was the best sex I've ever had (thinking I actually was pregnant) should I tell him my desire to roll play? I have no idea how he would react. I'm afraid he will think I will try to get pregnant on purpose to trap him or something. He recently told me a desire he has in bed (he was drunk but hey he still told me didn't he lol) and sure it isnt something I WANT to do for him, but I love him so I'm willing to do it.

So when ad how should I tell him??? HELP ME

Tell him the truth, in other words that you don't want to have a baby right now, but you have that fetish, tell him quietly as a confidence, maybe while you're cuddling or talking about what happen. Then maybe you can propose him something "soft" to start introducing your fetish.

Life is extremely short. Child-bearing years are even shorter. If you can both agree on pregnancy followed by adoption, you should do it. It's your body and your joy to experience. There are a lot of families looking to adopt, as well, so there's no guilt. Our culture is weird about this stuff -- just do it!

Tell him! If the worst happens, I will go out with you and role play to your hearts content, lol.

What if you became a surrogate mom? Then you can get pregnant, have someone else's child, enjoy the pregnancy and won't have to care for the child after. Btw, if you happen to actually do this let me know how you went about it, it's something I've always wanted to try with a girl.

(October 30, 2016, 2:27 pm)finderfact2012 What if you became a surrogate mom? Then you can get pregnant, have someone else's child, enjoy the pregnancy and won't have to care for the child after. Btw, if you happen to actually do this let me know how you went about it, it's something I've always wanted to try with a girl.

And you can make a good chunk of money. I have heard couples will pay a good sum of money and all medical expenses for the use of a healthy woman's uterus.

(October 30, 2016, 1:48 pm)Akhenaten Life is extremely short. Child-bearing years are even shorter. If you can both agree on pregnancy followed by adoption, you should do it. It's your body and your joy to experience. There are a lot of families looking to adopt, as well, so there's no guilt. Our culture is weird about this stuff -- just do it!

Hmm, this might be difficult to do. Once she's held her baby for the first time it might be tough to give the baby up.

(October 31, 2016, 12:48 am)orta03

(October 30, 2016, 1:48 pm)Akhenaten Life is extremely short. Child-bearing years are even shorter. If you can both agree on pregnancy followed by adoption, you should do it. It's your body and your joy to experience. There are a lot of families looking to adopt, as well, so there's no guilt. Our culture is weird about this stuff -- just do it!

Hmm, this might be difficult to do. Once she's held her baby for the first time it might be tough to give the baby up.

I've heard that a lot. I can't speak to it for obvious reasons, but in a way I feel it kind of diminishes women. (Not saying you personally are doing this, of course.) It's like, "oh you know those women and their hormones..."

Assuming someone can get past that, and I'm really thinking a determined woman can, there's nothing but bliss to be had for someone with a fetish for being pregnant. Furthermore, in order to be a surrogate, you have to have birthed one child that is biologically yours. I'm not sure if you have to have kept it, though. If so, that's a kind of shitty requirement. Not everyone woman who wants to give birth wants to deal with the aftermath. I wouldn't.

Also, she already said that she has ovarian cysts. That would be a HUGE red flag to any surrogacy agency.

Right? So if she can pop 'em out without developing emotional attachment, she oughtta just take it into her own hands and do it as many times as she wants to. Again: life is short, have some damn fun. This is a net gain because everyone wins. Yay!