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TommyDe
Not married. Just Forever stuck in the Friend Zone with 4 girls that I love a lot. I would like to marry one of the 4, but highly doubt that when you are stuck in the Friend Zone for a long time and will never get moved out of that zone until they realize that their boyfriends are shit and I'm left for them. Otherwise I'm the King of the Friend Zone. I really do feel sorry for myself on this.
orta03
(May 4, 2018, 5:39 pm)TommyDe Not married. Just Forever stuck in the Friend Zone with 4 girls that I love a lot. I would like to marry one of the 4, but highly doubt that when you are stuck in the Friend Zone for a long time and will never get moved out of that zone until they realize that their boyfriends are shit and I'm left for them. Otherwise I'm the King of the Friend Zone. I really do feel sorry for myself on this.

I too was once stuck in the purgatory of the Friendzone but, then I realized something. If women did not want to return my affection then I do not owe them friendship. DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT be friends with women you like or love. Any friendship with a woman you have feelings for is like being in a desert, dying of thirst and an oasis is just beyond your reach. I can't tell you how many years I wasted waiting for the woman I was "friends" with to return my feelings. The best thing you can do is cut off all ties with them and move on to other women. So, if a woman you approach uses that tired "Oh, you're so nice! Let's be friends!" line, that's your cue to move on to another more receptive woman.
Liked by Fredricton (May 9, 2018)
eternaldarknesss
I'm married and we have an 18mo son. Talking about a second
Akhenaten
TommyDe -- if you're going to be miserable in your friendships with those women, you should move past them like orta says, because he is right. But if you truly enjoy them as friends and don't want to lose what you have, there's no reason to toss them aside like that as if their only use to you is as a mate.
JohnWhite
(May 4, 2018, 5:39 pm)TommyDe Not married. Just Forever stuck in the Friend Zone with 4 girls that I love a lot. I would like to marry one of the 4, but highly doubt that when you are stuck in the Friend Zone for a long time and will never get moved out of that zone until they realize that their boyfriends are shit and I'm left for them. Otherwise I'm the King of the Friend Zone. I really do feel sorry for myself on this.

i have been there a lot of time, (the last one end up really bad, with my feelings) Akhenaten and Orta are right.
i´m not too old and not too young to know about everything. but what i have found out is that i put myself in the friendzone with this girl, and maybe that is the first mistake a lot of people do.

and sometimes take risks with the girl you really like is the best relief, You know, have a real date, that both know this is a date and see what happens.
it works out: Good!.
it didn´t work out: next page, go on.
Believe me.
Liked by TommyDe (May 6, 2018)
TommyDe
(May 6, 2018, 3:00 am)JohnWhite
(May 4, 2018, 5:39 pm)TommyDe Not married. Just Forever stuck in the Friend Zone with 4 girls that I love a lot. I would like to marry one of the 4, but highly doubt that when you are stuck in the Friend Zone for a long time and will never get moved out of that zone until they realize that their boyfriends are shit and I'm left for them. Otherwise I'm the King of the Friend Zone. I really do feel sorry for myself on this.

i have been there a lot of time, (the last one end up really bad, with my feelings) Akhenaten and Orta are right.
i´m not too old and not too young to know about everything. but what i have found out is that i put myself in the friendzone with this girl, and maybe that is the first mistake a lot of people do.

and sometimes take risks with the girl you really like is the best relief, You know, have a real date, that both know this is a date and see what happens.
it works out: Good!.
it didn´t work out: next page, go on.
Believe me.

Thanks for the advice. I will try soon. I also need to find either one of the 4 or all 4 at 4 different times before going out on a date with them. I'll report back on how it went by a DM to you.
Fredricton
Living happily in sin with my significant other and our kids. Not against marriage, but it's just not something either of us need.

As for those of you stuck in the friend zone, it happens. Like others have said, don't waste your time. If you are good friends that's one thing, but don't stick around hoping they will somehow "see the light" and come running into your arms.

Don't beat around the bush, women generally like directness. State your interest, and if rejected, move on. More often than not, you will find a true connection when not even looking. Also, forget about finding your "Soulmate" since there is no such thing. There are likely thousands of compatible mates out there for you, it's just a matter of being there are the right place and time to have that connection with them. Great relationships are 50% Love and 50% Compromise, and tolerating your partner at their worst.
Liked by Akhenaten (May 9, 2018)
Akhenaten
(May 9, 2018, 1:28 am)Fredricton Also, forget about finding your "Soulmate" since there is no such thing. There are likely thousands of compatible mates out there for you, it's just a matter of being there are the right place and time to have that connection with them.

Right? Ugh, romanticized Western culture. One person? Only? Forever? Unrealistic! Life's got so much more to offer.
jfingers
(May 4, 2018, 5:39 pm)TommyDe Not married. Just Forever stuck in the Friend Zone with 4 girls that I love a lot. I would like to marry one of the 4, but highly doubt that when you are stuck in the Friend Zone for a long time and will never get moved out of that zone until they realize that their boyfriends are shit and I'm left for them. Otherwise I'm the King of the Friend Zone. I really do feel sorry for myself on this.

Once you get thoroughly sick of the Friend Zone BS, it becomes easy. Just lay it on the line. "Oh, let's be friends!", "Well, I really want us to be lovers. Let's do that instead." If she says no, then she simply wants to manipulate you. Move along.
Liked by Akhenaten (Jun 2, 2018)

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