Since my lack of social and interpersonal skills have led me to nearly get arrested at least twice after approaching pregnant women in public - and I'm getting nowhere with online dating - I am considering writing a letter of complaint to somebody. Problem is, I have no clue who to write. To write a letter of complaint to the corporate offices of the retail chain where I've had the run-ins would do nothing to solve my problem of not getting to be with a pregnant lady as I cannot mention my fetish. The ONLY thing I would be able to do with that letter is get a few managers fired, at best. On the other hand, I have no other outlet for my extreme frustration over my lack of ability to find even a friend with benefits who is pregnant.

Does anyone have any advice on how to handle the situation WITHOUT taking out my frustrations about this on my family? I feel like having someone fired is the only way I'm going to feel better about not being able to do anything about my fetish, but I can't help but feel that I might be wrong. Is there any other way to release my frustration without hurting myself or other people?

Thank you in advance!

You need professional help. It sounds like even from your perspective, you were in the wrong. If you cant control yourself from being a creep around women (pregnant or not) then you need to leave them alone. No one owes you "benefits". The fustrating thing about this particular fetish is not wise to act upon unless with a spouse.

Trying to get someone else in trouble or fired because you cant stop from acting a fool is the most selfish, disgusting thing you can do as a person. And taking it out on family is unfair and deeply tragic. There is no advice I can give except to stop completely and to see a licensed therapist. If you dont, you WILL do something fundamentally wrong and you WILL get into trouble.

I mean this with all due respect and I sincerely hope you see the error in your ways so that you may have a better life for yourself.

(January 15, 2018, 1:31 am)tomostrife You need professional help. It sounds like even from your perspective, you were in the wrong. If you cant control yourself from being a creep around women (pregnant or not) then you need to leave them alone. No one owes you "benefits". The fustrating thing about this particular fetish is not wise to act upon unless with a spouse.

Trying to get someone else in trouble or fired because you cant stop from acting a fool is the most selfish, disgusting thing you can do as a person. And taking it out on family is unfair and deeply tragic. There is no advice I can give except to stop completely and to see a licensed therapist. If you dont, you WILL do something fundamentally wrong and you WILL get into trouble.

I mean this with all due respect and I sincerely hope you see the error in your ways so that you may have a better life for yourself.

couldn't have said it any better

I am already seeing a psychiatrist, taking a CBT course, and in the process of trying to control myself. Even so, I am a high-functioning autistic adult, so I feel the sting of rejection even more than a neurotypical person. I'm completely frustrated over the fact that I can do nothing about my fetish; and the fact that it will be a long time before I'm going to be intimate with any woman - not to mention the possibility that I might NEVER get to be with a pregnant woman ever again - makes it worse.

I'm already doing everything that I can to control myself and accept my circumstances. The thing I cannot do, under ANY circumstances, is be completely satisfied with what I have. I know I will have a better life; I just don't want to have to give up this fetish.

It can hurt or seem condescending to hear advice like Tom's -- you know, the kind advising you to seek professional help. We stigmatize therapy in our society because if you have problems, you must be weak or something. But when you're this frustrated, this sick of the world dicking you around, so unsure of where to go or what to do about it, and it's crippling your ability to function in your life in some fundamental way... it really is OK to shit on the stigma and talk to someone whose job, literally their job, is to help you figure it all out and find contentment enough to function again.

That's my needlessly verbose way of saying to please consider therapy for yourself before you get anyone else involved in any way. You can keep this between yourself and your therapist, confined to that perfect bubble of space, rather than letting it explode into the lives of other people. You clearly don't want anyone to feel ambushed, assaulted, ashamed, angered, and I don't think you actually want anyone fired from their job, but you still have the feelings you have. Justified or not, weird or not, whatever -- there are people who study for years to listen and understand all of it and help you make sense out of what is clearly a hellish jumble.

I mean, imagine it -- coming out the other end of this with control over it, and to be in a good place mentally and emotionally. Pretty enticing, right? You've got the wherewithal to achieve it. Take it on, and definitely keep everyone else out of it until you're ready to take a new, positive approach where no one can get hurt. There will still be rejections and ghostings, even if you do it the "right" way (speaking from experience), but that's just the way it is. No different from normal dating. No one owes any of us jack shit. Get yourself to a point where rejections can happen even after you do everything as a perfect, respectful person, and you handle it by shrugging and moving on to the next one.

(January 15, 2018, 2:36 am)preggoluvr4286 I am already seeing a psychiatrist...

Ah, well. Then I highly doubt you need to be talking to us about it! Have you mentioned your desire to basically "lash out" at uninvolved individuals because of your dissatisfaction? You might wanna. It doesn't sound violent, so I don't think you'd get in trouble for just talking about your feelings.

(January 15, 2018, 2:36 am)preggoluvr4286 ...I just don't want to have to give up this fetish.

Pffft, who said anything about that? Just because you can't hang out with or fuck pregnant women doesn't mean you don't have the fetish, or have to give it up. If I recall, you've said you think you might need to because keeping it makes you crazy, but I have news for you: you're not going to shake the fetish. You can't get rid of it any more than you can "pray away the gay" or decide to be gay, for that matter. You've got what you've got. Who knows why any of us have the fetishes we have? Early childhood experiences? Brain structure? Brain chemistry? All of the above? None of the above? More importantly, who cares, especially about this one, which is victimless? We're not pedos. We enjoy pregnant women and/or the process of pregnancy. Enjoy it.

You may just have to resign yourself to finding your favorite pics and videos on this site and collecting it for your enjoyment. Jerking off to pregnant hotties may be as far as it goes for you. That's as far as it goes for quite a few of us. We don't blame the women or anyone else, it's just how it goes. For me personally, I just leave a Craigslist ad dangling out there and every so often, someone bites. It usually goes south as soon as I send a face pic, hah, but I'm used to it. Sucks, and hurts, but whatcha gonna do? You might try a sugar daddy arrangement if you can afford to give someone a little sugar. If you can't afford that right now, start saving up because to be quite honest it looks like that might be the key to this whole thing.

(January 15, 2018, 2:36 am)preggoluvr4286 I just don't want to have to give up this fetish.

A fetish should not have control of your life or your decision making. You need to realize what it means to your future to need to fulfill this desire, does it mean potentially starting your criminal record? Is it worth burning bridges from your family?

Akhenaten is very optimistic, but realistically, you need to decide what is more important, some sexual fantasy or quality of life? If one is going to interfere with the other, one might need to go (or be controlled to a point). At the end of the day, you are the only one that has control over what you do. It sounds to me like you are close to a breaking point, dont make a mistake you cant fix all for the sake of a fantasy.

What confuses me is why an actual pregnant person is required as part of the fantasy. Sure, that would be SUPER COOL, but also SUPER RARE. That's something we all have to accept here. Can't you just enjoy this particular fetish on your own?

If not, find an escort or something. They're out there. They advertise. That's not my bag, but if I land on a load of cash and still haven't had any luck finding someone naturally, who knows?

(January 15, 2018, 4:27 am)Akhenaten What confuses me is why an actual pregnant person is required as part of the fantasy. Sure, that would be SUPER COOL, but also SUPER RARE. That's something we all have to accept here. Can't you just enjoy this particular fetish on your own?

If not, find an escort or something. They're out there. They advertise. That's not my bag, but if I land on a load of cash and still haven't had any luck finding someone naturally, who knows?

There's certain aspects of the fetish I actually wanted to experience but never got to while my ex was pregnant. For one, I never got the pleasure of suckling from a lactating woman's breasts. Secondly, I never got to help induce labor by engaging in intercourse - although the night before her C-Section still remains the best sexual experience in my lifetime.

I guess that, when it comes down to it, I want to be able to experience all that I can - and, if I already did and I'm still not satisfied, then what's the point of having the fetish in the first place? It's like having a Lamborghini and only driving it back and forth to the supermarket. There's no point in doing that, either. That's how I see my particular situation.

I hope you guys will understand what I'm going through with my "Lamborghini" analogy.

In other words, "If you can't enjoy it, why have it?" That's how I see this fetish right now.