Ok guys. I re-did my dating profiles. My prime focus has always been to find non-pregnant women for dating and possible long-term relationships. The pregnancy thing is only a secondary goal. All I basically said is that I would like to meet women who are normal, fit, have kids, or pregnant. Even though I kept casual sex listed on my options list on OKCupid, I have not mentioned any sex on the main description profile. Would this be acceptable or should I delete the mention of pregnancy entirely?

Depends on what You really expect and what you are willing to invest. If You are in search for a true partner than delete it, since it just lowers your chances of getting a quality date IMO. But if a physical pleasure with prego is a primary thing and/or You may be even willing to spend some bucks eventually,... than it would be all OK to write it all honestly. There is a buyer for every stock.

(January 3, 2017, 5:39 pm)StarViper3956 All I basically said is that I would like to meet women who are normal, fit, have kids, or pregnant. Even though I kept casual sex listed on my options list on OKCupid, I have not mentioned any sex on the main description profile. Would this be acceptable or should I delete the mention of pregnancy entirely?

OKCupid veteran here. Delete the reference to pregnancy right now. It's not something that is typically relevant for a general profile, so bringing it up is suspiciously specific. As had been said elsewhere in the thread, pregnant women are already on their guard in the dating world, if they're out there at all. Don't lead with the mention of pregnancy; if they get a single whiff that you're into them because of their pregnancy, they're going to peg you for the fetishist that you are, and you're dead in the water. That information can only come to light later. They are much more likely to understand and accept your fetish once they know you better and like you already; if they don't know you well, you're just another creepy pervert on the internet.

You need to approach them as you would any other woman. Let them bring up the pregnancy on their own, and if asked, just say that you're cool with it. Don't fixate on it. Think of it as the pregnancy fetishist's equivalent of politely not staring at her tits, no matter how much she's showing; you'll see plenty of them later if you play your cards right, so don't rush it. And if you can't manage to make conversation with a pregnant woman about anything other than her pregnancy, well, you're not going to make it anyway, because you're a shit conversationalist.

Similarly, I'd also delete the reference to casual sex. It just screams "I'm just here to get my dick wet." There are many women on OKC that will write you off immediately if they see that. Meanwhile, nobody will hold it against you if you DON'T have it, even if they themselves want casual sex. Women almost *never* list it themselves even if they want it, because it invites hordes of creeps to message them based on that checkbox alone. "hey bby u want sum fuk??" comes to mind. Don't be that guy.

(January 6, 2017, 6:59 pm)CaptainCapitalism

(January 3, 2017, 5:39 pm)StarViper3956 All I basically said is that I would like to meet women who are normal, fit, have kids, or pregnant. Even though I kept casual sex listed on my options list on OKCupid, I have not mentioned any sex on the main description profile. Would this be acceptable or should I delete the mention of pregnancy entirely?

OKCupid veteran here. Delete the reference to pregnancy right now. It's not something that is typically relevant for a general profile, so bringing it up is suspiciously specific. As had been said elsewhere in the thread, pregnant women are already on their guard in the dating world, if they're out there at all. Don't lead with the mention of pregnancy; if they get a single whiff that you're into them because of their pregnancy, they're going to peg you for the fetishist that you are, and you're dead in the water. That information can only come to light later. They are much more likely to understand and accept your fetish once they know you better and like you already; if they don't know you well, you're just another creepy pervert on the internet.

You need to approach them as you would any other woman. Let them bring up the pregnancy on their own, and if asked, just say that you're cool with it. Don't fixate on it. Think of it as the pregnancy fetishist's equivalent of politely not staring at her tits, no matter how much she's showing; you'll see plenty of them later if you play your cards right, so don't rush it. And if you can't manage to make conversation with a pregnant woman about anything other than her pregnancy, well, you're not going to make it anyway, because you're a shit conversationalist.

Similarly, I'd also delete the reference to casual sex. It just screams "I'm just here to get my dick wet." There are many women on OKC that will write you off immediately if they see that. Meanwhile, nobody will hold it against you if you DON'T have it, even if they themselves want casual sex. Women almost *never* list it themselves even if they want it, because it invites hordes of creeps to message them based on that checkbox alone. "hey bby u want sum fuk??" comes to mind. Don't be that guy.

So, when it come to online dating you have to make it look like you don't have a fetish at all?

Quote:So, when it come to online dating you have to make it look like you don't have a fetish at all?

I feel like this should be obvious, but you should present yourself as a normal person when it comes to any sort of dating, online or otherwise, at least initially. The only exception to this would be when you're on a site specifically built for fetish-based hookups, but the population of pregnant women on these sites is very, very small.


To help you understand why, let me start with this: dating sites are NOT designed to match you with your ideal sexual/romantic partner. They are NOT a service where you can simply dial in the specifications for your ideal dreamgirl and be presented with a willing partner. Online dating is merely a way to find people with whom you might be compatible.. It’s a way to connect with and meet people; nothing more, nothing less. All of the work that goes into getting another human being to actually like you and willingly continue to date you hasn't been changed by the advent of the digital age.


If you were approaching a pregnant woman IRL, would you tell her “by the way, I’ve got a huge pregnancy fetish?” Of course you wouldn’t. It’s a bad strategy for the same reasons that opening with “Hey, I like your tits” is a bad strategy for non-pregnant women; it’s creepy, tactless, objectifying, and way too forward. Plus, you have an extra layer of weirdness coming from the “fetish” aspect of it; even in these modern times, pregnancy fetishism is still not seen by modern society as something that we can be open about, so you’re basically airing your dirty laundry.


Now tell me, if the above approach wouldn’t work in real life, then why the hell would it work online? Why would a woman have a different emotional reaction to a message she reads online than she would to the same message delivered in person? There’s nothing about the Internet that makes socially-unacceptable behavior suddenly acceptable. Being online might insulate you from some of the consequences of being creepy, but it doesn’t actually reduce the creepiness itself. In the real world, she’ll walk away. Online, she’ll just never return your message.


Once a partner has gotten to know you a bit better, then you might be able to be more open about your fetish. But still, use your judgement. If they ever catch wind that their pregnancy is the primary reason that you’re dating them, then they will (correctly) realize that you’re basically only into them for their body, and will likely ditch your ass, and rightly so.