Hello everyone!

I´m a newbie and I would like you to respect my privacy, deal?

I´m pregnant (13 weeks today) and since it´s my third child ( I started young haha, at 18, today I´m 26).
My bump is ALREADY showing and don´t get me wrong I LOVE my bump!
BUT my marriage will end with this pregnancy, my first two children was from a previous marriage and besides the fact that we divorced for MANY reasons, pregnancy wasn´t one of them!

My (new) husband lost COMPLETE interest. I tried everything, lingerie, candles, massage, oral, anal, nothing works... As soon as he touches the bump he loses his erection.
I´m still pretty, my skin is glowing, my hair is growing faster and thicker and I don´t want to expose myself but I´m a beautiful brunet with thick wavy hair down to my boobs, very fair skin, hazel eyes, soft skin (no stretch marks even with 3 kids, no acne, no wrinkles, very, very soft skin). Not saying I am the most beautiful girl, but I have a reputation of having a dolls face and a nice body (D boobs, small waist and big butt). In pregnancy the only thing that changes is the bump and of course and boobs, they get huge haha with big nipples but everything goes back to "normal" (or almost) after I give birth...

What can I do?I was super horny all the time, hormones got me!
But now I´m feeling horrible, I hide and cry everyday, in fact I cried for 2 hours on the shower last night...

I don´t feel pretty, I even think I´m starting to have depression as I regret being pregnant sometimes :´(

Any help now will be appreciated!

Thanks

Are you milking yet? Try having him suck on your boobs.

Soo... I'm going to sound like Dr. Phil here but have you tried talking about it? Seriously, it's odd enough he loses his erection from touching the bump. Most men without our fetish can just ignore it. It sounds a lot like maybe it's something else. Like he's afraid of hurting your occupant (ha! as if he could) or he's afraid it makes him a pedophile or deviant if he enjoys it. Worst thing that ever happened to me miss sex was the discovery my wife was not at all into being pregnant despite her long support of my fetish until that point. Even worse was the realization (this was early in the relationship and due to other issues with previous boyfriends) that she actively judged me for my fetish and looked down on it. Instant loss of sex drive... You can't make it a confrontation even though it's important to you but it's definitely something that he has to explain to himself: why this sexy young woman he just knocked up isn't a testament to his potency and manhood (every guy has some kind of ego and sometimes you just have to stroke that and not the genitals) and therefore super arrousing. Complete loss of sex drive from such a specific thing sounds like lots of mental baggage though and therapy may even be necessary (everyone should probably be in therapy anyway as we are healthier when we have a constructive outlet for our emotions and can reflect on them). Anyway, that's my 2 cents. If you can't get physical affection from him he needs to know this is a problem. Sex is as important to you as it is to him he needs to figure this out but there's no reason you can't help him..

well, it's clear that you are not the problem here, talk with your husband like @secreta87 said maybe he is afraid or something, also does he have a fetish? maybe he's into something else or have you tried to cover his eyes and tie him to a bed S&M style?

I'm sorry this is happening to you. My thoughts are as follows:

1. If at all possible, don't judge him too harshly. Simply put, if there are men who think pregnancy is the most beautiful thing in the world (and hello, here we are), it is reasonable to assume that there are going to be men who think it's repulsive, as well. Your husband may be one of the latter. We don't get to choose what we like and don't like. Human sexuality is huge and almost infinitely variable, and it isn't only about what we like -- it's also about what we don't like.

2. Already been said -- have you talked to him about why the bump kills his boner? If not, now's a really good time to get to know him better because y'all have got to figure out how to communicate with each other if you want the marriage to last.

3. I do not in any way mean to discount what you are feeling, but as you well know, pregnancy wreaks havoc with your hormones. So a lot of the things you're feeling are due to biological bullshit beyond your control, making it all feel that much more intense. I am so sorry for what all that is doing to you on top of being made to feel unwanted.

I don't even know if I want to write this last bit, but here goes anyway. You obviously know you're an attractive woman, yet at the same time, your husband is making you feel unattractive. Spend a few minutes cruising through the threads in this forum and you'll find men drooling over women with bodies that probably look almost exactly like yours -- so you know for a fact that you are desirable to other people. We have seen a few female members post anonymous pictures of themselves and get overwhelmingly positive reactions from other members of the forum. I can only imagine what that does for one's self-esteem. There are always a few pricks who are like "post ur face too" but whatever, that's not the point. What I'm saying is that if you desperately need positive reinforcement from someone other than yourself or your husband, you can easily get it from this community. Buuuuut of course it really only matters from your husband, yeah? In which case it all goes back to talking to him about your feelings and getting some clarity on what's going on.

I'm going be like everyone else and say talk it out with him, let him know your feelings, and understand his. It's always hard when something like that happens, just working it out is always the problem. I would also suggest talking to a sex expert, together. But that's just me. I hope what I say and what others say helps you in some way, Best of luck!

Sounds like the boys above have hit all the right notes.