So I legitimately ruined a certain shot at this fetish fantasy. I connected with a woman whose had like 3 kids and was pregnant with a 4th from multiple fathers. We talked for a week and the plan was after a week of getting to know each other, she was going to get a bus ticket and move down to stay with me. The problem was, I wasn't sure if it was a good move because I was thinking with the little brain and not the correct one. There was crisis with her live in co-inhabitant and she really needed to bug out asap. She begged me for help but with everything that was going on in my life I couldn't do it. I just kept evaluating what I was getting myself into and it was going to be the real deal. No escaping that I was going to become a surrogate father, so to speak. I just keep wondering what happened to her because I was partly to blame for the crisis.
I think the biggest thing, which is why I harbor so much resentment to this fetish is that it really boiled down to 2 decisions where I was going to loose one or the other. Without going into specifics, if I would have had the option to get out of the relationship if we weren't meant to be. I don't mind the being a father figure part. I actually think it would be neat. But I have a lot of complicating factors and lack of stability in my life to really pursue this. But I really think I blew a wonderful opportunity to cherish the most wonderful experience of my life. And I'm not sure what I should do about it.
Feedback, thoughts are appreciated. This woman is incredibly petite and attractive btw.

To me, at least, inviting someone you've known for a couple of weeks to come live with you...because she's pregnant and you're into that, it means your heart might not be in the right place. Plus, if you aren't in a stable situation, then it could end up being a bad move for her and the baby.

I think not doing it was the smart move, it sucks that she was in a situation like that and I'd still offer to help her in a non permanent way...

I think you made the right choice. Remember she already has three kids. They need stability and a father figure in their life. Unless you're willing to do that then it's better that you don't get too involved. Help out in another way, like donating cash or maybe help her look for a job. To be honest, what that woman really needs is to stop sleeping around and find herself a good man that will take care of her and her kids. It's that kind of chaotic home life that cause many kids to grow up with emotional, behavioral issues and have trouble in school.

You mad the right choice. I met my wife when she was 4 months pregnant. I decided to move in with her after about 4 months. I decided before moving in with her that I was ready to be a dad. It sounds to me you are not. I wish you luck

There is no question whatsoever that you made the right choice. Hot women, especially hot pregnant women, are amazing and rare and we all want them, etc etc, but you do NOT want to sign yourself up for all the nonsense you just described.

You didn't blow an opportunity. You dodged a bullet.